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Tonight is a sad night for me. My father apparently had a fall earlier then wasn't reachable. When we finally found someone in his building who would take our concerns seriously, it turned out he was not just asleep but unresponsive. He was taken to the hospital. He has probably had a brain bleed and is not expected to survive for long. They are giving him comfort care. He's 92 and left his wife two years ago. I'm thankful that my sister brother and I have been able to have him back fully since that time. Of course, there's a story. He's comfortable and will essentially die in his sleep. It sucks to be so far away.
 
KayTheCurler said:
Is this the space for sharing one's bitchin'?

I woke yesterday to see a TICK feeding gaily on the back of my knee. Hubby carefully removed it and we thought the excitement was over. Turned out to be not true. The area turned bright red, puffy and more than a little itchy/painful.

Saw my doc today and said I've had LOTS of ticks over the years, but never one that left a problem behind like this. He took a look and grabbed some gloves!. He gently poked it, applied some disinfectant and prescribed antibiotic. We agreed that Lyme spreading ticks aren't 'supposed' to be here but this situation looks a lot like early Lyme.

I really don't want to be the first person in the Health Region to get it!! That's it - I'll quit bitchin' now I've had a moan.
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My friend had that happen a few years ago, she kept the tick and it was sent on to find out if it was lyme ( it was). Early antibiotics is the key.
 
Northwind said:
Tonight is a sad night for me. My father apparently had a fall earlier then wasn't reachable. When we finally found someone in his building who would take our concerns seriously, it turned out he was not just asleep but unresponsive. He was taken to the hospital. He has probably had a brain bleed and is not expected to survive for long. They are giving him comfort care. He's 92 and left his wife two years ago. I'm thankful that my sister brother and I have been able to have him back fully since that time. Of course, there's a story. He's comfortable and will essentially die in his sleep. It sucks to be so far away.
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Oh, Northwind, I am so sorry. If he is waking up to be responsive, sometimes they might have an IPad available for long distance communication. I hope other family members are closer to visit.
 
Good morning, all! The coffee cart is up and running. From the joy of grandkids of all species, the irritation of ticks and disease, to the losing of family members far away, for all the other experiences of good luck, or the slings and arrows of outrageous fortunes, let us help sort it out around the cart. All is ready and waiting.

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Bottoms up ... life is upsetting to those that wake to it ... as may have happened when the Light descended ... and the man said forgive them for what they don't know ... a comment that covers a lot of territory!

Look what life does to us as we attempt to be winners ... thus some of us with reclusive abstracts! Things to retain ... theosophy?
 
Sorry to hear the news about your dad Northwind. Hopefully he will be kept comfortable at the hospital. It is so hard when family are separated at such times - I can't see that it is better to be nearby if people are refused entry to the health care facility. I will hold you close to my heart as you wait for whatever comes next.
 
Mrs.Anteater said:
Oh, Northwind, I am so sorry. If he is waking up to be responsive, sometimes they might have an IPad available for long distance communication. I hope other family members are closer to visit.
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The doctor was great last night. He arranged a WhatsApp video chat for us. My sister, uncle and I were able to say goodbye. My brother was in a place with bad wifi so couldn't connect. My father was of course unresponsive. He did though have some responses that suggested there was still something going on in his brain. I'm choosing to believe he heard us and was answering in his way.
 
My thoughts are with you and your family.

Good that they were able to set that up. My last time seeing my mother-in-law was over WeChat since she was in China. The virtual care technology we are working with at work has video conferencing technologies with the capability to invite family members into the app and this is the kind of thing the developer had in mind (the company founder/CEO lost his mother to Alzheimer's which inspired him to start the company). Even when in-person becomes possible again, it will be important when families are widespread, as in your case.
 
We appreciated that they could do that, especially since it was a bit of a challenge for the doctor to get us connected.

My sister was talking to my dad's friend this morning. Apparently he was complaining of a headache the other day. She had tried to get staff at his building to check in on him and they ignored her. If she told them about the headache, them ignoring her is worse. He was afraid of dying alone in his apartment and not being found for a few days. As a retired cop, he had seen that and didn't want to be that. That scenario could have happened easily. We will be giving our feedback to the organization. It is one that has independent living, assisted living and LTC on Oxford.
 
Northwind said:
I'm choosing to believe he heard us and was answering in his way.
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I think that those who are dying know more than we realize they do, in a good way. I'm quite sure Dave heard me playing Box of Rain for him when I was with him, and I'm sure your Dad knows that his family had gathered in spirit to bid him farewell on his next journey. Hugs. Not easy at any age, but sounds like he'd had a long, interesting and engaged life.
 
Sorry about your dad Northwind. Good that he did get to the hospital though especially considering his fears. Hopefully your brother can gèt in a video session too.
 
Lovely opera on this afternoon, one I'm not very familiar with, although I love the story. Verdi's Othello. I like Italian opera the best. Always takes so long for everyone to die.
 
Murder. Genocide. And the blame lies squarely in our settler population. I wish my parents had stayed in England. In many ways, I hate my empire background; it is worse to add settler/empire immigrant to that.
 
I come from a personal heritage of feeling ashamed. My Dad was brutalized by the realities of WW2. I think he thought he could escape the shame by leaving the country (little knowing that Canada was equally complicit in the true horror that is "othering"). He kinda did, but the beer followed him.
 
Good morning! As we gather in spirit around the cart, we think of loved ones approaching the next step in their journey. We give thanks for technology that allows us to communicate with each other, including pictures, across wide distances. We also remember some 215 lives that will not be lived out, friends and families torn apart and never seeing or hearing of each other again. We will hopefully find more joyful things to contemplate as well. Anyway, the coffee cart is up and ready, a collections of muffins has mystically appeared as well. Come and get it!

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My father died peacefully this morning. I'm thankful for the last couple of years of getting to know him in a different way. I'm thankful he essentially died in his sleep under the excellent care of nurses and doctors at University Hospital in London. It sucks to be so far away right now.

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