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Of the 4 primal angels ... which one in your abstract would you color yellow, or red ... the black and white being more defined ...?
 
When my family member moved to the US Midwest, visits became fewer, but we were intentional.

Now as we age, there are higher costs due to us insurance.

Plus there are immediate support requirement but a 14hr drive can't solve.

My spouse has surgery tomorrow . I need to be home, but so hard when the family member is so sad. I can't solve it. I can't make decisions for her. I can't give her a hug
 
My neighbour, who is in her mid 60 ties, was telling me today that when she married her first husband, they wrote on the certificate for him his job and for her “ spinster”. At that time she was studying for nursing. Ro me, that sounds quite insulting. She was told that would be what the law requires. ( she had three kids with him, so it wasn’t even that she was “old”.) Anybody else heard of something like that?
 
Mrs.Anteater said:
My neighbour, who is in her mid 60 ties, was telling me today that when she married her first husband, they wrote on the certificate for him his job and for her “ spinster”. At that time she was studying for nursing. Ro me, that sounds quite insulting. She was told that would be what the law requires. ( she had three kids with him, so it wasn’t even that she was “old”.) Anybody else heard of something like that?
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Groan. I always thought "spinster" meant "older woman who never married" back when it was still acceptable English, not just generic "unmarried woman". And if she was in nursing school, wouldn't the proper entry be "Student"? One hopes this would not happen today. I mean, what if they were both women? Both would be "spinster"?:rolleyes:

(Incidentally, two of my favourite influencers right now are a married lesbian couple from St. Louis and spinsters they ain't)
 
Spent today talking and working through possible places for my family member to go for care.
They were told this morning that there were 3 locations that they could go to and they had to pick by tomorrow morning, and they would be transported by end of day tomorrow. (now, i'm hoping that isn't as fast as they say).
From having a great day yesterday, today was a cluster for my family member due to this bomb being dropped.

The 3 were non-stellar nursing homes. One had multiple health violations with large fines. It also had reviews which were bad, including from staff. Looks like major upheavals in their org.
None had any decent rehab, though there was one (the furthest away) that appeared to have at least some fun type OT.

None are closer than 1.5 hrs from their home. One is 3 hrs away from family members.

Been on calls trying to listen, think...respond. and been researching for them, as they aren't capable of sitting and looking up facilities.

I sooooo despise the way the system is handling her. I sure don't think that the Canadian one would be as bad.
 
JayneWonders said:
Spent today talking and working through possible places for my family member to go for care.
They were told this morning that there were 3 locations that they could go to and they had to pick by tomorrow morning, and they would be transported by end of day tomorrow. (now, i'm hoping that isn't as fast as they say).
From having a great day yesterday, today was a cluster for my family member due to this bomb being dropped.

The 3 were non-stellar nursing homes. One had multiple health violations with large fines. It also had reviews which were bad, including from staff. Looks like major upheavals in their org.
None had any decent rehab, though there was one (the furthest away) that appeared to have at least some fun type OT.

None are closer than 1.5 hrs from their home. One is 3 hrs away from family members.

Been on calls trying to listen, think...respond. and been researching for them, as they aren't capable of sitting and looking up facilities.

I sooooo despise the way the system is handling her. I sure don't think that the Canadian one would be as bad.
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In NS, you have to take the first one of three choices you have- to make space for an an acute hospital patient. However, you can stay on the waitlist for some place closer to family or more of your liking.
Is there a possibility to get / afford private care to look after her at home while she is waiting admission to a place she likes?
 
Good Thursday morning! The struggle to find long term care for family members, as well as a spouse's surgery, bear sightings, and those who take pictures of them, the use of the word 'spinster,' all sorts of topics, sad and serious to light and trivial; there is room for all of it around the Coffee Cart. Let us gather in spirit for chat and support, as well as hot beverages. All is ready, all are welcome. Come join in!

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Mrs.Anteater said:
In NS, you have to take the first one of three choices you have- to make space for an an acute hospital patient. However, you can stay on the waitlist for some place closer to family or more of your liking.
Is there a possibility to get / afford private care to look after her at home while she is waiting admission to a place she likes?
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No. She needs Hoyer lifts, etc. so the level of care required 7x24 would be insane

Not that we aren't discussing.
 
I know our home care group (when we had one, it was sold off years ago to my everlasting delight) had staff trained with Hoyers so some people must have them in their homes. Not common, though. Here, you would probably get HCCSS (formerly LHIN, formerly CCAC) funding for some of the hours but likely not 24x7. But the US is a whole other ballgame for any kind of healthcare.
 
@Mendalla
When did the LHIN's become the HCCSS's?

I worked for a home care agency for a few years back in the CCAC days. I think there were 26 of them in the province at that time. Believe it or not, there was a CCAC just for Scarborough. Huge bureaucracy it always seemed to me.
 
paradox3 said:
When did the LHIN's become the HCCSS's?
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The government is messing around with healthcare governance bigtime. I think maybe 2-3 years ago I started hearing the term. I still call them CCAC out of habit, to be honest. And I'm not sure what the longterm plan is. They have these new Ontario Health Teams and the relationship between them and HCCSS does not see to be clearly defined yet. They are partners in some OHTs but some HCCSSes cover more than one OHT, which tend to be smaller, more local bodies. Since I am in IT, there's only one OHT i am actually involved in because they have a digital health committee (or did, it's on hold right now as they evaluate some new innovation funding they got). Others on our management team have more contact.

My big worry is that with all that Ford has done, are we in for another round of chaos if the Libs or NDP get into power and decide to redo it all again. It was under the Libs, for instance, that CCAC got merged into the LHINs.
 
paradox3 said:
Believe it or not, there was a CCAC just for Scarborough. Huge bureaucracy it always seemed to me.
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This must have predated me. I think the GTA was down to just two or three CCACs in TO and then surrounding ones like Mississauga-Halton for the 'burbs.
 
Mendalla said:
I know our home care group (when we had one, it was sold off years ago to my everlasting delight) had staff trained with Hoyers so some people must have them in their homes. Not common, though.
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The best lifts I ever worked with were the ceiling lifts they had at St. Joe's in Guelph....every place should have them IMO.
 
Mendalla said:
This must have predated me. I think the GTA was down to just two or three CCACs in TO and then surrounding ones like Mississauga-Halton for the 'burbs.
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November 2000 - May 2004 was the time frame of my tenure with the community agency. I was with a nonprofit that was under contract to the CCAC. For tax purposes we were not considered to be employees.
 
Spent some time (weeks) as a support person in a room that was setup for barium surgery.

It has two of those lifts so that it could lift serious weight
 
@JayneWonders I hope your person gets a good and safe spot to continue recovering. It is appalling how we treat our vulnerable members of society. I'm thinking of your partner too and hoping the surgery goes well.

I feel normal today after getting my vaccines on Monday and having busy day Tuesday. (Talk about bad planning) I got my regular infusion yesterday and hoped it wouldn't make me feel cruddy. Normally it doesn't. I haven't had it right after vaccines though.

I have no big plans today. I'll be working on a sock for a friend and putting my nose in a book. I may even do a dog hair exorcism at some point.
 
I am an ok at waiting, until someone or some thing is over due or late.
Then, all the anxiety or concern that has been held back, will take energy to control.

Things like distractions in technical analysis, (no humans, please) or going for a walk.

What do you do when you are waiting?
 
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