Kimmio Laughterlove said:I’m glad to hear your uncles were so supportive.
They have never failed to be. As long as I have known them they have been what I expected uncles would be.
It was something of a relief to hear them affirm that everything I have ever claimed about my relationship with my dad was not a figment of my imagination (not that I ever considered it was). Everyone present at the funeral had a different relationship with my father when they stayed specific to their own memories I had no problem with that. When they extrapolated it became somewhat jarring. "Dedicated family man" doesn't jive with dad walking out on you when you were 5 leaving your, your mother and sister to fend for yourselves.
Hearing that you wonder if anybody notices that you were the man's family and there was nothing dedicated in the relationship you had other than a commitment to not having a relationship.
Kimmio Laughterlove said:I hope you get the long term job (if that’s where feel called to be when the time comes).
It is an interesting experience. I will come to know them deeper than I have any of my previous pastoral charges. Prior to any application to fill a declared vacancy can be made. It adds another wrinkle to the discernment process that is for sure.