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I'm exhausted and just checking in after a week + away. My mother in-law died last Sunday morning and we've spent the last six days clearing out her apartment. Sadly, she was a hoarder in life which has left a substantial burden for her two children. It would be simple if we could just have Got Junk come and take things away but money, photos, jewelry, and memories are stashed in the same boxes as fast food napkins and empty jam jars.

This is one of those times when I wish I was a little more anonymous on WC because I don't want people who know me IRL to think that I have anything against my husband's mum... but cleaning up a mess like this is absurd. It makes you take a second look at the things you keep knowing that someone will have to get rid of it all one day.
 
Aaah, hilary. My grandmother was like that. We had to unwrap every crumpled up bit of tinfoil, coz we didn't know if we would find a nickel, or a hundred dollars. Very sad.

Take care of yourself. I am sorry about your family's loss and stresses. Take care.
 
Hilary - please accept my condolences. A death in the family is a stressful time. Give yourself and your husband lots of time to heal. Try to get some rest. Remember the good times, laugh at the quirks in personality, and if necessary vent a bit.
In the meantime, I just happened to stew up some rhubarb and strawberries. Just sit here by the window and I'll make some toast and coffee to go with them.
 
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Oh Hilary....much to go through right now. Condolences for your loss, and sympathy for the other stuff you are going through. This is a good place to vent.
 
Condolences on the loss, @Hilary. Bad enough losing someone without then having to put in that amount of time to sort out their possessions. Take care.
 
My house is bad for junk. I'm not a hoarder, but live in my childhood home, where too many people have lived and left their junk for me to deal with. In a dusty back corner of the garage I once spied a box labelled "Cat's shoe follies" (Cat being my 'baby' sister who has not lived here for over a decade). Hoping to have it sorted out before I pass on, lol. There have been attempts at garage sales, but there's quite a few boxes of "mixed junk" in odd corners.

However, my old guy's little shack is VERY bad, I suspect, these days (I stopped visiting for more than a few minutes a few years ago when the plumbing and the water failed simultaneously and have never been right since; he visits me). He has been collecting music, on cassette tapes, VHS tapes, DVD's, CD's, etc., for 40 years. Also, he never throws anything out if there might some day be a use for it. Last time I looked, there were some very ancient bottles of homemade wine under the sink... Hugs, Hilary; OPs 'stuff' is always a problem, and it's worse when it's mixed up with grief and loss.

Yay, seeler, strawberries and rhubarb! Both are bountiful this year; I've been out picking for the church, but not for myself yet. If it stays not too hot, I might get it picked and jammed at the same time. Last year it was so hot for weeks after berry picking that the berries had to be frozen and processed later.
 
I'm dealing with my own version of 'too much stuff' and will vent in the near future. It also comes with other feelings of the people involved. Not a condolences story, but some sadness involved. Will update later.
 
My condolences @Hilary. I have a sense of what you are going through. My kids were ruthless

and I got moved but not without a lot of tears. You keep it. No one wants it. It is a conundrum.
 
Hilary it's not fun. My parents did it for my grandparents when the moved into a senior's centre. Grandparents did nothing to prepare for the move. Hoarding was less of an issue although they held onto many things that were worthless - both in value and sentiment. The bigger problem was everything just being dirty. Lots of things were tossed due to mold. Then there was the blame about things being thrown out - actually they weren't, my grandparents hadn't unpacked for months.

Anyone who has the slightest clue what it's like would hold a few complaints against you!
 
Chemguy and I got to celebrate our anniversary without any other family around. We went out for Greek last night. Not sure when the new birthdate is happening, we've been waiting and the hospital keeps bumping.
 
Condolences Hilary. It can be so hard having the 'sort out' job to do after the funeral. The situation can be tiring and draining enough without the endless checking of boxes and bags of 'stuff'.
 
Hilary - You must be feeling relieved to be back home again - tough week of losses of so many sorts. I think your moustache in your photo protects your identity perfectly! If I recognized you when I saw you on a streetcorner I'd give you a hug! Take care friend.
 
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