Wedding dress - what did you do with yours?

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Inannawhimsey said:
Wow, a $10, 000 dollar dress?

I guess that would be the feminine equivalent of a Batman costume :)

It gives out compliments, has tear-resistant shoulders, never frumples, always fits in with whatever social situation it finds itself in, has a built in wet & snack & medicine bar, can be modified to the user's wishes, can make wherever it is into an exotic locale, has a built in 'best friend'...
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Or just looks like this:
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I don't know the actual cost, but it's a Pnina Tornai, so it's up there.

Oops, Kleinfeld's site lets you do price ranges. I didn't figure out the above, but this in the 10k+ category:
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what a status symbol

spun from the tears of angels

ChemGal,

when you look at those dress pictures, do you get any feelings or sensations?
 
I think the intricate work is gorgeous :) I would have to make quite a bit of money before I would consider spending that much!
 
Tell us about your wedding dress :)
What did you do with it after "the big day"?

I had two 'wedding' dresses ... 1st one hand made for me very traditional high neck long sleeved a lot of lace ... three months after 'my big day' I loaned it to my 16 year old cousin ... yes she 'had to get married' but they made it and are still together (they have at least 6 children and numerous grandchildren). Skip ahead 11 years ... making an "IT' costume for my daughter was not working out ... last resort offered the wedding dress ... her father (my X) was more than happy to drive over it a few times and throw some red paint on it ... I believe she won 1st prize for her costume at school as the lovely but accident prone bride of Frankenstein.
2nd 'wedding' dress was borrowed - fairly antique Irish style ... quite yellow ... but in keeping with the theme ... an at home wedding done up all Irish like ... alas, in spite of the fact that geofee was the newly ordained officiate at that marriage ... it too dissolved. No more Wedding Dresses for Me Thanks!
 
Unless the wedding dress is destined to become a family heirloom worn by sisters and cousins, and then passed down through several generations, I fail to see any reason for the extravagance in many wedding gowns.
I especially don't understand the trend I've recently heard of "Trash the dress" where the bride does things like leap into a mud hole, or throw the gown into the driveway to be run over in order to destroy it.

This actually reminds me of what I've read about a potlatch where an important person would invite other important people to an extravagant celebration that ended with him destroying many of his valuables just for show.

(On googling I've found that most potlatches involved giving away possessions (gifts to guests) rather than destroying them. It makes more sense.)
 
Beloved said:
I've never heard of "Trashing the Dress", seeler . . . what a waste.
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I don't think it's just a trend, as it's been going on for a decade+. While it wasn't for me, I don't think it's a total waste. Many people don't plan on doing anything with their dress after. It's a chance to wear it, get some amazing pictures with the newlywed glow, and most take the pictures with their spouses. It's a symbolic way of making that commitment - they got married and that dress will not be used for another wedding!

I haven't heard of just running it over, the bride typically wears it. Beach scenes are common, and the pictures are often much sexier than the wedding day photos. There are some pictures I really love!

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i like the idea of trashing the dress--very buddhist...showing how impermanent things are

i don't know if i ever could do such a thing, but i admire her effort
 
Doesn't the waste bother anybody?
I think of all the other things the money spent on that dress, worn once and then trashed, could have been used for. Many couple go into debt (or add to their debt) to pay for their wedding. Use the money to furnish their first home (romantic) or to pay down on their student loans (less romantic).
Or, if they don't need it themselves, give it to a favourite charity.
Have a nice dress and a nice wedding, but hold back on the extravagenza.
 
Seeler said:
I think of all the other things the money spent on that dress, worn once and then trashed, could have been used for. Many couple go into debt (or add to their debt) to pay for their wedding. Use the money to furnish their first home (romantic) or to pay down on their student loans (less romantic).
Or, if they don't need it themselves, give it to a favourite charity.
Have a nice dress and a nice wedding, but hold back on the extravagenza.
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With a TTD session, it's actually worn a second time. I can't see my dress being worn again, it wasn't cleaned soon enough. I wouldn't have given it away/sold it, because I want to keep it, it's sentimental.

I agree that some people go overboard with their weddings, spending more than they should, but I think that can occur whether or not they have a TTD session, and some who do have it don't go overboard with the wedding.
 
Seeler said:
Doesn't the waste bother anybody?
I think of all the other things the money spent on that dress, worn once and then trashed, could have been used for. Many couple go into debt (or add to their debt) to pay for their wedding. Use the money to furnish their first home (romantic) or to pay down on their student loans (less romantic).
Or, if they don't need it themselves, give it to a favourite charity.
Have a nice dress and a nice wedding, but hold back on the extravagenza.
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Exactly, spending that much money on such a frippery as a wedding dress is a complete waste

There are better, more sustainable, more practical ways that the couple could be spending their money

And going into debt to pay for one's wedding??? Even more pap...that is abysmally stupid

But people do have the right to do as they please...no matter whose worldview they are living in at the time

(oh, and aboot potlatches--i'm glad they were banned -- they were quite an unsustainable practice. they were an escalating status-gaining practice, where the giver's status was elevated which the recipient had to give more next time or they would lose status...more and more gifts, and in such a scarcity-based civilization, their economy/etc could only handle so much...)
 
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