Wedding dress - what did you do with yours?

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I like the idea of this charity in the article at the top of the thread. I would certainly go look for a used dress and not hesitate to wear it. Would you?

Yes. In fact, I did, but I didn't find one I liked in my size. I didn't want to look like a cream puff, and there were a lot of froufrou poofy dresses in the thrift stores and second hand shops, or trains that I'd break probably my neck tripping on...somehow...or would take me an hour just to go to the bathroom (really). Just not my thing. And I wanted my Maid of Honour to have fun, not follow me around tending to my dress (I did that for a friend once years ago). I couldn't find anything simple, in my budget, comfortable enough to move in, that fit.
 
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I actually changed into white jeans and a silver top that I wore for New Years, later on, too. I didn't even have to do that - but I guess I did because I still looked kind of 'bridal'. Actually it was nice enough that if the pants were a bit more formal I could've gotten married in that. Why not? But I wore a dress. It was a casual reception in a house - just a small house party - it was late summer and we spent a lot of time in the yard - people casually going in and out - and we had guests at both the wedding and the reception in jeans (gasp) ...and suits. But I told people 'wear what you're comfortable in'...and they did. It was cool (it really was). An ecclectic mix. I was happy about it.
 
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I like the idea of this charity in the article at the top of the thread. I would certainly go look for a used dress and not hesitate to wear it. Would you?

I am not yet married and would definitely consider this charity. Because it's totally devoted to wedding wear, I don't think it would have the same 'yard sale' vibe that I get at thrift stores. I wouldn't want to be flipping through high-waisted jeans and shoulder-padded dress suits in search of a wedding dress.
 
First wedding - white wedding dress - "saved" til marriage over. I think it eventually got taken apart and used for halloween costume or something like that.
Second wedding - no fancy dress, just wore a dress I had previously - it shrunk (LOL!) somehow over the years and eventually got tossed.

I've heard of some people who use the wedding gown to make christening gowns for their children.
 
We still have my mom's wedding gown in a "memory" box somewhere. I know she re-altered it to make a New Year's Eve gown a few years after her wedding.
 
It is very hard to find an inexpensive less formal white dress. The wedding industry has the market cornered. I found mine and jumped at it!

Someone gave me this tip, which I used to buy my own less formal, less expensive dress: order a bridesmaid's gown in white.
Bridal shops also sell bridesmaid dresses, matronly mother-of-the-bride dresses, etc.
And virtually every evening dress/bridesmaid dress is available in white, black, and select bright colours (blue, pink, whatever.)
Of course, the shop never has bridesmaid dresses in white on the rack, because they want you to buy the expensive traditional
gowns. They don't want to put the idea in your head that the lovely pink evening gown on the rack could be ordered in white and
be your simple and beautiful dress for a mere $250.

And they will work hard to put you off. They'll tell you that they can order that evening dress in white, but that it'll take 6 weeks to 3 months to come in. (News flash: bridal gowns take that long to come in anyway.)
They'll tell you that only bridal gowns come in "pure white." If you order a bridesmaid gown in white, it won't be "pure white." It would
be "ivory white" or "winter white." (News flash: honestly, most of us don't look our best in pure white anyway.) And when I stood next to
my groom in his black suit, there's no way my gown didn't look white.
 
Someone gave me this tip, which I used to buy my own less formal, less expensive dress: order a bridesmaid's gown in white.
Bridal shops also sell bridesmaid dresses, matronly mother-of-the-bride dresses, etc.
And virtually every evening dress/bridesmaid dress is available in white, black, and select bright colours (blue, pink, whatever.)
Of course, the shop never has bridesmaid dresses in white on the rack, because they want you to buy the expensive traditional
gowns. They don't want to put the idea in your head that the lovely pink evening gown on the rack could be ordered in white and
be your simple and beautiful dress for a mere $250.

And they will work hard to put you off. They'll tell you that they can order that evening dress in white, but that it'll take 6 weeks to 3 months to come in. (News flash: bridal gowns take that long to come in anyway.)
They'll tell you that only bridal gowns come in "pure white." If you order a bridesmaid gown in white, it won't be "pure white." It would
be "ivory white" or "winter white." (News flash: honestly, most of us don't look our best in pure white anyway.) And when I stood next to
my groom in his black suit, there's no way my gown didn't look white.

I thought of doing that, but we really had to think about where we wanted the money to go on a limited budget - and I really wanted our guests to enjoy themselves because that's what helped make it really memorable. We almost eloped (we were going to have a couple of witnesses, get married in the park, and go out for dinner after) because we couldn't afford the whole shebang, but then told my parents our plans to do so, and then grandparents, then we had to invite our close friends - next thing you know "We're having a wedding in a couple of months!". So there wasn't time to really get into the perfect "Martha Stewart" type planning, nor the money...but I found $100 summer party dress on sale ("off white") at the Bay that was a simple style (Ralph Lauren too but that didn't matter) and had a little bit of silver detailing on it, it was in my size, and so I went with it.
 
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I like that many of you didn't wear white. I've always been a bright colours kinda gal and I'm not sure it makes sense to deviate from that on what is likely going to be the day that I am most photographed in my entire life. Canary yellow, anyone?
 
The white thing is very much a Western, if not North American, thing. Chinese brides, for instance, traditionally wear a red dress (though, as I noted in the Weddings thread, my niece and many other young Chinese women do wear a Western-style dress for part of their wedding day as well).
 
I was at a Sikh wedding of a colleague of mine - the bride wore a brilliant crimson red sari with lots of gold embroidery & embellishments & lots of gold jewellery. The groom I think was in an ivory suit - again, quite ornate & traditional.
 
My wedding dress is in my closet. It's full length white and cotton and makes a great tooth fairy costume-note:I wore it as such when I was still married as well as when I wasn't. Dress cost under $300.(25 years ago)
My mom's wedding dress made its way to our costume box when I was growing up. I reclaimed it and made a baptism romper that my 3 children were baptized in.
 
Mine is folded up in the cedar chest. Well it's actually a harness box but .....

I wore a very simply gown that I did buy at a wedding shop. The staff weren't keen in my "no lace, no frills" request. This one was on sale, I think it cost $260 which for me, in 1981 was a lot.

I doubt my daughter will use it but ii still have it.

Oddly , just looking at my sister in laws face book page and apparently she and my brother have renewed their vows. Most surprising is that she is wearing a full length white gown and pearls. I sure hope she borrowed or rented it.

I can't understand the rational of doing that
 
Oddly , just looking at my sister in laws face book page and apparently she and my brother have renewed their vows. Most surprising is that she is wearing a full length white gown and pearls. I sure hope she borrowed or rented it.

It's not the same one that she wore for the wedding? That might be fun to wear the same dress that she wore years before... but otherwise, I don't get it either.
 
Wasn't it NinjaFaerie that had a beautiful old wedding gown of someones. Or am I not remembering right?
 
I sure hope she borrowed or rented it.

I can't understand the rational of doing that

I like to watch "Say Yes to the Dress" on television . . . I love looking at the wedding gowns.

My hubby can't believe that dresses are thousands of dollars and up! I always bug him and tell him I am going to get a $10,000 dress to renew our vows in someday. He says "No! I can buy a quad for that amount". And we both laugh!

I would like to renew my vows, but I don't need a fancy dress.
 
Wow, a $10, 000 dollar dress?

I guess that would be the feminine equivalent of a Batman costume :)

It gives out compliments, has tear-resistant shoulders, never frumples, always fits in with whatever social situation it finds itself in, has a built in wet & snack & medicine bar, can be modified to the user's wishes, can make wherever it is into an exotic locale, has a built in 'best friend'...
 
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