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Gorgeous design Tabitha! Love the colour palette, the assymetry of the pattern, the images. What will you do with it when finished?
 
That's great, Tabitha. How nice to have one just for your own use. Great colours, and how wonderful it is for you. Enjoy it. Good luck on that quilt show.

Justme, no, I am one of 5, the only one remaining in the city, and one of two that have continued relationships with him. One more is on the fringes...kinda there. Life many families -- it is complicated.

As he went to tell me a funny story about my one sibling, I had to tell him, it is not funny. It is not a story that you tell someone as funny. To that sibling, it was dehumanizing and something he hated my father for years about, and a sign of who my Dad was. To my Dad, it was funny. To others, now a days, it would likely be seen as child abuse (though mild). Dad's response "i never hit him". My response " It was mental abuse". Basically, told him, that others, including his son, do not see it as a funny story.
 
No luck needed on the quilt show. It was a stretch being brave enough to show my work. I'm still a beginner and my quilts are far from perfect. But I enjoy making and using them. I won't win any ribbons.
@Pinga Good for you educating your dad about how others view events, and standing up for your brother. Change takes time.
 
Yes, having someone to walk beside you into a strange room can make the difference between going or not going. So easy to get up in the morning and say 'I know I planned to go to (church, health club, lecture series, etc) but this isn't a good day. I'll wait until next week.' It's harder when you know that Mr. Jones is picking you up at 11:30 so if you really can't go you will have to phone and caancel - so you might as well go.

I just made arrangements for an acquaintance to go to the Parkinson's Support Group with me next week - I've been going for a year now, ever since a coouple from the group toook me with them for my first time.

It's nice to have someone go with you - but as I've grown older and more confident I've learned that if I really want to see that concert, attend that lecture, go on that trip - then I'd better make arrangements myself. Sometimes Seelerman just doesn't want to go - sometimes our schedules are not the same. There is no shame in walking into most places alone.
 
Yes Seeler some of us are brave enough to do things on our own-just look at Pilgrim Progress-and others need initial support. While I can (and do) go to things on my own it's great to also have friends to go with
 
I also think, it depends on what it is. One person will be able to walk in one door, but not another.
One person will be brave to ask someone to go with them, when it is might be easier to just go alone.

I am thankful for these programs and for spring. The mood has shifted with the sun, with the plans for gardening, with getting out for walks, and stories. Shucks, for the moods of others encountered being better.
 
Spent most of the day in Waterloo. Dad's wife wanted us to move some of his stuff out of her condo (he moved in with her when they married). My brother took most of it to store at his place for now but I scored a bookcase that's been in the family for at least as long as I've been alive, his CD collection, a few books (one of which may have been mine in the first place), and a pile of papers that, now that I've given them a proper look through, appear to include some stuff of Grandad's, including some of his sermons and other service prep material from the fifties (maybe even the forties). Could be interesting reading. Also finally got Grandad's four volume of set of daily devotions (kept forgetting to ask for a set) which I want to read through. Dad had a about four or five sets of them. I grabbed his own (I assume his name is written on Volume One). Wonder if there should be an effort to get them back into print, though I don't know if we actually own the copyright. He worked on it as part of a foundation and they might be the copyright holder. Plus, he wasn't the only author, esp. on the later volumes.
 
Today ended up being a bit more restful than I thought. Had lunch, decided to stay on the couch for a nap and that lasted for about 3 hours. Chemguy and I were going to go out and bye some things for the yard. He went alone to one store instead.
Not overdoing things is hard some days. Especially when I have the desire to do some enjoyable things after something like a 6 hour appointment.

At least today was a good day to rest indoors. It's a fairly nice day, but the sun keeps disappearing the wind has picked up on and off and Chemguy was really keen to get all of the yard raked, he was out there before I was awake.
 
@Tabitha it wouldn't be the quilt show at Heritage Park would it? I'm not sure when it is - I'm pretty sure it's in the Spring and I know my cousin, a quilter, loves to go to it (I'm not sure if she has ever shown in it). (I'm not sure if you are in Calgary or Edmonton)

@Seeler I do some things on my own (like parties and stuff if Mr Me doesn't come which is often) but for some things it's almost impossible for me to go to other things on my own (Or rather incredibly difficult). Church is one of those things but I haven't mustered up the strength to actually ask someone for help (or maybe I still haven't accepted that I need it) and feel too unreliable to offer to take someone who is mobility impaired.
 
@Pinga we have a similar problem with "family stories" with my Mom only it's about me and how horrible I was as a child (and usually the moral of the story is that I was so lucky she "saved" me from myself). My husband finds it tough to deal with and I'm not good about not playing into this (as some of myhijinks as a kid are fodder for my self-depricating humour). It's funny because I am the one she counts on and my brother who "does no wrong" is not (but there are lots of excuses why).

I didn't like your post - I do wish there was an "i support you" button in addition to the the like button. I hope you are able to set boundaries for yourself because as much as you probably love your Dad, it sounds like sometimes it can be too much.

I don't know what part of the world you live in but I hope it's bright and sunny like here and you have a safe flight.
 
I never know how to react to stories like these - when parents think it funny to share something that they think is funny and I think is abusive. (ie a young man in my dept. at work telling everyone in the lunch room how he had thrown a glass of cold water in his toddler son's face because the child was following him around the apartment crying 'for nothing'. You should have seen him sputtering and then running for his mother. ha ha.)

Or when I was spending a weekend with a friend who kept picking at her daughter, and pointing out to me that 'Amy doesn't do anything right. Look how she keeps scratching (flybites). She's going to have her arms all scared. At the same time little brother Ian was 'a perfect angel.' I couldn't think of a way to tell this mother that her constant criticism wasn't going to help a child overcome what was obviously a nervous habit - possibly caused by an overly critical parent.

And I wonder - did I ever tell a 'cute?' story about my children, that they didn't consider 'cute'? Did I ever expect too much from my oldest and get annoyed when he failed? Or expect too little from my youngest and not help her discover her strengths?
 
Greetings everyone!

Another weekend has come and gone. Time is going by so quickly. Another week ahead of appointments/commitments/meetings/duties and responsibilities.

Off tomorrow for my three month check-up on my eye. I am not concerned. I'm sure everything is fine. Still have some symptoms, but I think they are things that I will just continue to have . . . still experiencing floaters and some similar issues, as well as still some flashing light in the bottom left corner (like a sparkler you light and put on a cake) . . . mostly just when I enter into a dark room. I am hoping that I don't have to go back for at least six months or a year.

Thinking of those travelling for work (and other), those quilting or sewing, those taking care of parents who are older, those who are dealing with health and mobility issues and mental illnesses of a variety of sorts, those who are dealing with grief and loss in their lives . . . wishing an abundance of strength and help. Thinking of those who have much to celebrate and rejoice in . . . it is good to be able to share in one anothers joys.

A new week is before us . . . we know not what it holds . . . but we venture in, jumping in with both feet and seeking strength and help from those we are close to, those we know we can count on - family and friends (like those we have here at the cafe) who support and encourage us.

Welcome new week!
 
Hiya folks. Thanks for the welcome to a new week, beloved. So glad to hear your eye is doing so well. How glad that you don't have to travel for checkups for a while. I wonder how seniors who have had to give up their license do it from rural regions?

I am aware of challenges to be faced this week and so, your message to jump in is an important one. Jump in, know that some things will be rough, focus on the positive, keep moving forward. It's a good message.
 
Tonight on the news, there was a tragedy of a 2yr old running out in the street, being hit by a car....the driver stayed at the scene, and before paramedics arrived, the 41yr old was gunned down , shot at the scene, along with his 15yr old passenger, who died later. This is at least the 35th homicide in this city this year....a city a 1/4 the size of Toronto. Toronto had 54 in the entire of last year. Yet, I hear how people need guns to protect themselves, and with each shooting, they feel more justified to carry them.

It is ugly. It is a beautiful city, and yet, like many US citiies, the gun culture which is predominately among poor young black men...is insane..
 
Very sad, Pinga . . . a lot of loss and tragedy.


We had a good trip - left at 4:30 this morning and got home at 6:30. Got a tiny bit of shopping in and waited awhile to get in to my appointment. This is a very busy office . . . and they were short staffed today . . . I don't mind the wait because I know these doctors are very busy. Had a great appointment - the doctor said my eye "looks good". He also said that I was very fortunate - because generally a tear as large as mine was need to be repaired by actual surgery. I was lucky that he was able to repair it through lazer surgery. I thought today might be my last appointment, but he wants to see me again in four months . . . so down the road we will go in August.

The rest of my week is busy with a lunch date, two coffee dates, a morning study, a bank meeting, a Leadership Board meeting, and doing dishes at the fundraising supper on Friday night . . . plus anything else that creeps in.

How about everyone else - how was the start to your week? Anything fun or exciting lined up?
 
@Beloved glad u had a good check-up. Did u have a detached retina or a hole in your macular? My Mom had a hole in her macular and it was a tough recovery.

As for me - late this afternoon I got the call that a bed has become available in the psych hospital so off I go in the morning. I'm super nervous for a variety of reasons.
 
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