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Nancy said:
On an entirely different note, oldest son proposed to his long-time girlfriend and she said 'yes'. We have two weddings to look forward to now. Daughter is still waiting the American government's okay before she and her boyfriend can marry.
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Ah, so now you have the difficult questions like: "Buy two dresses or one outfit that can be accessorized differently for each one?". Which are the good kind of difficult questions. Congrats to you and both couples!
 
Another question is when should I begin to exercise and diet in order to look good in whatever I buy!
 
Nancy said:
Another question is when should I begin to exercise and diet in order to look good in whatever I buy!
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We should all begin to exercise and eat a healthy diet NOW in order to look good and feel good all the time.
Or, for the weddings, begin now - find a healthy routine of exercise, and a healthy diet that will help you to lose weight and tone up slowly before the weddings and, hopefully, stay in shape afterwards.
 
Things aren't good. Stuff related to getting my wisdom teeth out. Bone loss and stuff.
 
Such a nice surprise. My friend from a long time ago brought a bag

filled with one person meals (stoffers) from Co OP. Look delish. Please give me hints

about eating and cooking for one. Start a new thread, I think.
 
A very dear friend (now no longer with us) had four kids, one girl and three boys. Their choice as a couple was - one parent to be at home to look after things there. This, as always . meant living with less spare money after paying the necessary expenses. They were from Inverness and had no problem with squeezing their change to make it last!

When the first kid announced their wedding she went out to buy a suitable outfit. It was a bit pricey, so she wore it again for each kid's special day as it came along. They really treasure the photos showing mum in her special dress!

Another story from that family involves the daughter. The parents had saved to fulfill the ancient tradition of paying for the daughters weddings. When she started talking about the wedding plans the parents were horrified - so expensive.. They hadn't budgeted that much for this event in her life. They suggested cheaper alternatives (like cooking the meal at home). No way - she knew what she wanted. They told her she would have to consider paying her own wedding expenses and apparently that wasn't a problem to the young couple. Once things started to settle down a bit they offered her a large cash sum if she agreed to a financially modest wedding. The money could be spent as they chose. It was enough to put a good deposit on a house. The young couple stuck to their plans and turned down the money!
 
KayTheCurler said:
A very dear friend (now no longer with us) had four kids, one girl and three boys. Their choice as a couple was - one parent to be at home to look after things there. This, as always . meant living with less spare money after paying the necessary expenses. They were from Inverness and had no problem with squeezing their change to make it last!

When the first kid announced their wedding she went out to buy a suitable outfit. It was a bit pricey, so she wore it again for each kid's special day as it came along. They really treasure the photos showing mum in her special dress!

Another story from that family involves the daughter. The parents had saved to fulfill the ancient tradition of paying for the daughters weddings. When she started talking about the wedding plans the parents were horrified - so expensive.. They hadn't budgeted that much for this event in her life. They suggested cheaper alternatives (like cooking the meal at home). No way - she knew what she wanted. They told her she would have to consider paying her own wedding expenses and apparently that wasn't a problem to the young couple. Once things started to settle down a bit they offered her a large cash sum if she agreed to a financially modest wedding. The money could be spent as they chose. It was enough to put a good deposit on a house. The young couple stuck to their plans and turned down the money!
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Depending on what modest choices meant, I probably would have turned the money down too. My Mom was stressed enough with both mine and my sister's weddings. If modest meant more work for family and friends, I think paying more was worth it. As it was, quite a few people did a fair bit to help. I wanted to be able to have a good time with everyone at my wedding, not having a bunch of the people I was close with basically working the entire day.
 
Who needs to be stressed or work all day? We had a truly modest, and very laid back and enjoyable wedding. We both wore clothing we already owned. We prepared as much of the food as possible (peel potatoes, get veggies organised, put ham in the oven). A friend drove us to the courthouse. We got our piece of paper making us legal - someone took a photo and we returned to the house with our guests (6). Finished the meal prep and someone laid the table. Feast, have a few drinks etc. cut into the cake baked by a friend. The guests helped with the clean up.

Hardly a difficult day!
 
KayTheCurler said:
Who needs to be stressed or work all day? We had a truly modest, and very laid back and enjoyable wedding. We both wore clothing we already owned. We prepared as much of the food as possible (peel potatoes, get veggies organised, put ham in the oven). A friend drove us to the courthouse. We got our piece of paper making us legal - someone took a photo and we returned to the house with our guests (6). Finished the meal prep and someone laid the table. Feast, have a few drinks etc. cut into the cake baked by a friend. The guests helped with the clean up.

Hardly a difficult day!
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Prepping, cooking and serving food for many people is work.
To have as many people as I had at my wedding at a house there would also need to be arrangements like portapotties.

Even the reception dinner and day after gathering were work, and those were lower key events with fewer people.
 
ChemGal said:
Prepping, cooking and serving food for many people is work.
To have as many people as I had at my wedding at a house there would also need to be arrangements like portapotties.

Even the reception dinner and day after gathering were work, and those were lower key events with fewer people.
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We had about the right amount of work. Rehearsal dinner was potluck. Reception was in the diningroom of the Valhalla Inn with the work done by the Inn staff.
 
There are so many ways to do the deed!

We looked at -
how many family members could attend? (his mum)
how much money did we have available? (pretty close to none)
how many of our friends could we afford to include? (the witnesses and partners)
how can we do it? (by doing the work ourselves and getting help from the witnesses and partners)

It went well and we didn't start our together life with discouraging debt.

Sure - itwould have been 'nice' to have had more money for extras - but obviously not crucial.

It set us up for the future that included lots of times when more money would have been nice but not essential. To be honest, we have never gone without anything we really needed, but that has meant saying 'no' to many things we merely wanted. .
 
I ended my busy day yesterday at a live performance of Quarttette. They joined together for a concert 20 years ago thinking it was a one time event. 20 years later they still perform together.

It was the 3rd time I've heard them The first being 20 years ago, the 2nd about 10 years ago.
Sylvia Tyson spoke of having campaigned for President Lyndon Johnston- now that just lets you know how long she has been performing-as that was in 1962! She is now in her late 70s. So here's a song to play quietly in the room.... Here's a very old one

 
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happy couple
 
I have surgery booked for Wednesday. Not really my ideal for December, but doing something sooner rather than later is probably the best. I've decided to do this in clinic and not in the hospital as it means I can access my meds whenever I think I need them instead of getting permission from someone else. Hopefully this all goes well.
 
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