Perhaps, but not in this case. Church was where one was accepted, warts and all. Church was where LGBTQ people were safe, wherever they were on whatever continuum (one of the kids' best friends was a transwoman who transitioned while attending our youth group, quite progressive a decade ago). Church was a safe haven for her mother as well, the odd time she noticed what a little s**t she was being... She did, however, grow out of church camp, rather young. My son made it through the Counsellor in Training program, but my daughter was a little precocious for it. She's prone to being a bit of a s**t disturber. Some apples don't fall far from the tree, *sigh* She still hangs out at the church a little, although she attends little but Easter and Christmas Eve services, if I'm lucky. She'll clean for them part time if they need help and she's got time. She helps me with Meals on Wheels. She attended a young adults event ("Our Better Selves") that our Youth Minister organized a week or so ago, although she had to leave early to attend an open mic night at a downtown lounge in which she hangs out. She recommends it to her friends if they feel the need to have a baby baptized (yes, she's getting to that part of life where her friends are having children, while she's still finishing school). It continues to fill a small niche in her life, and has been a constant ever since those frightful years.
What is extremely hard on teenagers, particularly those who are psychologically a little prone to fragility to start with, is divorce. Two people are better than one. I was lucky to have my Mom to help for a few years, although she had issues of her own, lol.
But some church instruction, yes. Particularly that which makes a child feel "less than" because of some part of their being. I really like my next door neighbour's Mom, who I take to bible study every week. However, her "regular church" is a downtown one that focuses very heavily on homelessness/poverty, which is great, but which is also quite homophobic/transphobic in theology, which is not. She doesn't particularly agree with that, but she keeps her mouth shut, because family trumps theology. She lives with her daughter, and her three male grandchildren, all of whom appear to be straight. They love their grandma, and are glad she enjoys our bible study, but are a bit distressed that it's in an Affirming Church. I'm sure parading through downtown on a haywagon covered with rainbows and banners announcing participating United Churches didn't help.