Advantage/Disadvantages of being single or coupled

[Mendalla]

The only advantage being coupled offers in the same scenario is that the other does the risky work. Since I am the one who gets tagged for such jobs I don't find being coupled to be such an advantage.

Not sure risky jobs was the intent. I think it is more the idea that you complement each other. There are jobs I can do that my wife can't and vice versa. Battling the yellow-jacketed horde or climbing heights triggers phobias for me, so they tend to fall to her (or, increasingly in the case of the second, to Little M since he has 3 inches height on me and probably 7 or 8 on her). But if the computer breaks, yeah, that's my department.

 

[BetteTheRed]

Or you can do it together. One watches out for winged nasties while the other sprays, etc.

Same with ladders. I don't mind getting up on a ladder. But I'd like someone at the bottom of the ladder to make sure it's steady, that the dog doesn't go barrelling under it while I'm climbing, etc.

 

[revjohn]

Or you can do it together. One watches out for winged nasties while the other sprays, etc.

Been there tried that.

Would never consider going after anything nasty on a ladder. Retreat is too fraught with peril. Especially with one below holding a ladder.

 

[crazyheart]

Was coupled. Now, not. very lonely.

 

[Waterfall]

Was coupled. Now, not. very lonely.

Come here more often, everyone loves you!

 

[crazyheart]

Thank you. I am not good to be around these days.

 

[Waterfall]

Thank you. I am not good to be around these days.

We can handle it.....up to you....I personally would rather have you here than lonely. Hugs.

 

[Seeler]

Crazyheart - you may feel that you are not good to be around right now, but I miss you when you are not here. Come and share your sorrow and loneliness, and I will listen. Or just come and sit awhile. Grief is part of life - something we've all experienced or will experience. Good friends don't just share the good times.

 

[ChemGal]

Thank you. I am not good to be around these days.

It's good to see you around! Whether you're happy or having a tough time.

 

[Tabitha]

Betty Wylie has an excellent book about becoming a widow. I don't recall it's tittle but I bet your library would have a copy. she's a Canadian author.
I read it when newly divorced and many of her suggestions were useful for anyone adjusting to life alone.

 

[Luce NDs]

Is that the real stinger?

The secret life as it be'ez?

 

[chansen]

Thank you. I am not good to be around these days.

I'd rather be around you than almost anyone else in this country.

 

[Jaebius]

I'd rather be around you than almost anyone else in this country.

What the? Does your wife know?

 

[Mendalla]

What the? Does your wife know?

He said "almost anyone else", emphasis on the "almost". I imagine that puts his wife and kids ahead of CH but most of us well behind.

 

[chansen]

You're so far down the list there are accountants ahead of you.

 

[revjohn]

You're so far down the list there are accountants ahead of you.

That seems needlessly harsh. Even if it isn't hard to imagine.

 

[Mendalla]

You're so far down the list there are accountants ahead of you.

I shall refrain from showing this to the accountant I work for.

 

[DaisyJane]

I like this thread.

Yesterday the decision was made to place Matthew in a group home by fall. Rationally I know we need to do this. Emotionally I am a wreck.

My husband has been a font of wisdom and emotional support.

Sometimes life royally sucks and it is nice to be with someone who understands how much it sucks - in fact has lived through the "suckiness" with you. And reminds you that there is hope that someday it won't suck.

 

[Pinga]

Hugs, @DaisyJane .

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I got a flat yesterday. Was at Five Oaks. The most amazing "Tom" put air in my tire. It was nice to ask my husband for advice. I don't do cars or mechanical things, and I know his wisdom is good. Now, there are others I could have asked, but, there is a comfort in asking him.

So, though information, help, access could be found otherwise, it is good to have that history together.

 

[BetteTheRed]

Here's an advantage to having 'someone', even at a distance. Couple of weeks ago, got locked out of house. Had cell phone, but no real option but to wait in car (no car keys, but keypad entry so that I was out of the rain and direct cold) for an hour or so for someone to get off work, get home on bus, etc. Called my guy on the cell. Although he could 'do' nothing for me practically, he stayed on the phone and yacked and commiserated and calmed me while I awaited rescue.