How not to react when your son tells you he's gay

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This is from his facebook page:
What a day.... i thought that waking up at 9:48 and being 15 mins late to work was going to be the biggest problem today. but i didn't know that my biggest problem was going to be getting disowned and kicked out of my home of almost twenty years. to add insult to injury my step mother punched me in the face repeatedly with my grandmother cheering her along. i am still in complete shock and disbelief. the video i posted a few hours ago will give you a small bit of what i went through. i am sure y'all can guess who is who. Thanks to Teri, Regina and my boyfriend david for coming to rescue me. and thanks to everyone else who is sending their support!
 
My son recently came out to me as transgender, I found out accidently he left something in the bathroom and broached a conversation. The councillor he is seeing I thought was for the anxiety he suffers from turns out he is for people dealing with being transgender. Right now I and my oldest daughter (she guessed)are the only family members that know. A few close family friends know I had my sons permission to tell them. He was afraid to tell me he thought I would throw him I told him you are my child all I want is for you to be happy.
 
I watched the video last night. Couldn't even bring myself to comment at the time. Just a horrible situation. And I would agree with a previous comment that what was displayed was not an absence of love but the presence of hatred. Blind, irrational, out of control hatred. Sad.
 
Personally - I would never kick one of my kids out of the house based on anything they are. I might ask them to leave based on how they choose to behave.

I could see using such a video in select situations at church [after receiving permission of course]. I would share it with people as an example of how not to react. That would be at a church at which I'm the Senior Pastor - which is not my current situation.
 
revsdd said:
I watched the video last night. Couldn't even bring myself to comment at the time. Just a horrible situation. And I would agree with a previous comment that what was displayed was not an absence of love but the presence of hatred. Blind, irrational, out of control hatred. Sad.
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When love is absent - does it not throw the gateway wide open for hatred to come make its home.

Given the shouting that took place - given the reported physical abuse that occurred - I agree - hate was present.
 
UnDefinitive said:
well ... my daughter has a friend ... thinking about MTF transistion ... the whole nine yards I believe ... she calls me for advice ... If I had to classify my sexuality at this point I would go with asexual ... let's just say I have had enough ... there is nothing at this point that shocks or disgusts me (at least not to a degree that I refuse to be analytical about it) and my daughter is well aware of this ... however, I am so far removed from the age bracket that we are dealing with here that I can only look at it as a biology experiment ... for the person that is contemplating the transition I am sure it is much more complex than that ... any advice for me to give my daughter in her role of support ... anyone?
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This situation has resolved itself quite nicely for the people involved ... The direct family to the MTF wannabe are all supportive and accepting now that they are aware ... no longer an issue ... please ignore.
 
I just have to post this follow up video.....
It brings me to tears and really sums it up so well...
Comments please????
Hugs
Rita
 
I asked my anti-homosexual father why he chose to be heterosexual and he of course answered "it's not a choice".
 
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