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JayneWonders said:
It is good to pass them on. Was it hard?
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Yes. Heartwrenching. I had been thinking ofi t for a long time as my ability to use them failed.I know I wont live forever and this stuff needs to get dealt with while I am here to make decisions. I really don't want to have my kids doing it while adjusting to life without me.

It is embarrasing to realise how much syuff there
s to deal with. Piles of music, a stamp collection, photos etc. P eople j oke about their junk drawer - i seem to have several plus a closet.

My paerner doesn't understand and says he will happily leave his stuff behind for others to deal with. It makes want to die first. I have no idea how to get rid of three lathes, however many saws, racks of hand tools and hoarded wood. .
 
It is quite a problem when parts of our entourage do not know how to humbly downsize to nothing so we can get out ... quietly?

I practice by silent communion ... it is writ ...
 
KayTheCurler said:
Yes. Heartwrenching. I had been thinking ofi t for a long time as my ability to use them failed.I know I wont live forever and this stuff needs to get dealt with while I am here to make decisions. I really don't want to have my kids doing it while adjusting to life without me.

It is embarrasing to realise how much syuff there
s to deal with. Piles of music, a stamp collection, photos etc. P eople j oke about their junk drawer - i seem to have several plus a closet.

My paerner doesn't understand and says he will happily leave his stuff behind for others to deal with. It makes want to die first. I have no idea how to get rid of three lathes, however many saws, racks of hand tools and hoarded wood. .
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We dealt with a lot of things when my wife's parents died rather unexpectedly, 2 years apart, about 20 years ago. It was difficult, and to be honest, we still have a lot of things we don't know what to do with, and they were not hoarders. They did like Royal Doultons, though. You know who wants them now? Nobody.

My mother is a hoarder. Their house, for sale and hopefully sold soon, has been mostly emptied. Their new home/longtime cottage is now crammed. She's working through the collection, slowly. I donate, recycle and throw out things for her because there is no room. It's a problem.

Woodworking tools are not quite the same in that they are in demand, but they are much heavier than sewing machines. Sorry that he is considering leaving it all for you to deal with. If you were closer I'd come say hi and buy a bunch from you. Once I clear the cottage workshop of my mom's junk, I'll need to fill it with more tools and lumber. My dad's retirement stash of tools and hardwood is now my retirement stash.

If you do ever need help with decluttering a workshop, there will be woodworking groups in the area who will be fair with you. My dad had some equipment for which I had no need so he gave away a radial arm saw to a young guy starting a woodworking shop nearby.
 
Life is a cycle of hoarding and then dispersal ... as you can only leave this state the way you arrived with nothing ... but, perhaps thought to take to the place where thoughts are processed and is as yet a great unknown!

Physical beings like to hear nothing of the alternate conception as inconceivable as an alter ego!

Did you know that "ego" was once an expression for cognizance that became old? It went off in diverse vectors ... those stuck will not follow as it causes uncontrolled spread across empty space and thus thinning of what was once rendered ... fud dudes? If you home in on it there's nothing but holes ... thus multiple places for love to hide in and shift as trying to stay out of sight ... thus indeterminate conditions if you can apply such word!

Many people never think about this and thus no definite conclusions ... poor ends?
 
chansen said:
We dealt with a lot of things when my wife's parents died rather unexpectedly, 2 years apart, about 20 years ago. It was difficult, and to be honest, we still have a lot of things we don't know what to do with, and they were not hoarders. They did like Royal Doultons, though. You know who wants them now? Nobody.

My mother is a hoarder. Their house, for sale and hopefully sold soon, has been mostly emptied. Their new home/longtime cottage is now crammed. She's working through the collection, slowly. I donate, recycle and throw out things for her because there is no room. It's a problem.

Woodworking tools are not quite the same in that they are in demand, but they are much heavier than sewing machines. Sorry that he is considering leaving it all for you to deal with. If you were closer I'd come say hi and buy a bunch from you. Once I clear the cottage workshop of my mom's junk, I'll need to fill it with more tools and lumber. My dad's retirement stash of tools and hardwood is now my retirement stash.

If you do ever need help with decluttering a workshop, there will be woodworking groups in the area who will be fair with you. My dad had some equipment for which I had no need so he gave away a radial arm saw to a young guy starting a woodworking shop nearby.
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I am giving stuff away to family and peoplew ho would use certain things. Pretty sure the school my gson attends will cheerfully accept a usable flute and a box of music. Daughter's friend was delighted to take away some technology I can no longer use. The items have a dollar value I suppose but I spent the money many years ago and want this to be a simple process.
 
Horses make great symbols for things to use for carry-on! Thus Care Ra Eire ... those with out float or flexibility may be found to be rigid ... no names mentioned as the world gets more assertive and aggressive as we move towards self-destruction ... antinominalism? Soon to be unidentified ... gnomons? Inky icons ...

Expect abstract as another expression for dark, mysterious and blind for metaphors previously unencountered ... things that may join you in bed at night when out of it ... dream? Said to happen when departing physically appreciable states ... counter to PTSD! H OBI 'd ... a sOvid's horse ... vi sable as black ... dissonance creeps ... those that refuse cooperative consultation ... threads of connection?

Some will never believe it was simple socializing ... and declare wholesale antisocialism! Isolated base 't urds ... and yet the power excluded them ...

The stuff you are supposed to keep silent is phenomenally unspeakable ... unfamiliar in the end ... really strange orifice ... anal ayez'd ... cez tout ...

Telling all might be lengthy ...
 
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BetteTheRed said:
Reading The Year of Magical Thinking by Joan Didion. A very moving unpacking of grief, which is taking me somewhat inconveniently close to my process after the Aging Hippie's death.
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A friend who is recently widowed told me she'd read this book recently, which kinda surprised me. She said though that she found it reassuring to know her experiences were shared by others. I haven't yet read it myself.
 
KayTheCurler said:
Thanks for the info. So far
have avoided talking books. It feels a ke giving up on reading at the moment, No doubt that day willc ome. I am struggling with my tablet and only used the ebooks at the library.
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My daughter - who OWNS a bookstore! - listens to lots of audio books Kay! She spends lots of time driving & that's her 'reading' (ie listeneing) time in her otherwise busy life.
 
We've been doing a good job here lately 'editing' what's allowed to stay in house. There are a couple of websites I've come to value for learning to ask different questions about my 'stuff'. I'm quite happy now to hand it off to others who will give it a new round of delightful life.

And since this is a bookish thread - has anybody read this? "They Left us Everything" by Plum Johnson. Was a best-seller about 10 or so years ago. It's on my list!! Now, if I could find a way to empty my inbox in one fell swoop .... that would be divine!!
 
Carolla said:
My daughter - who OWNS a bookstore! - listens to lots of audio books Kay! She spends lots of time driving & that's her 'reading' (ie listeneing) time in her otherwise busy life.
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Carolla said:
My daughter - who OWNS a bookstore! - listens to lots of audio books Kay! She spends lots of time driving & that's her 'reading' (ie listeneing) time in her otherwise busy life.
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There is a place for talking books and those who use them. At this time I choose to avoid them.. We have listened to some when in the car.
 
I just finished Wally Lamb's "River is Waiting". I dread reading Lamb's books. I love them, but they always trigger me very badly. Usually a unique combination of grief, anger, self-doubt and redemption. Often very hard to read.
 
Kay, I'm with you. My Dad totally resisted, but made out okay because I read to him.

I've been training myself on audio books, and like them for road trips. I want to get used enough to it that if/when I lose my sight (laser treatments to suspend glaucoma effects are incredible today) that I will still be able to 'read'. Dad was almost completely blind by 75 and lived until he was 77. For a complete reading addict, it was totally awful.
 
Just reading through some notes I made while reading Constnatine's Sword and some other biblical history texts in which several authors noted that the father's of the church declared; "the common people don't need to know!"

Now this seems to be counter to other declarations to"teach my children!"

Does this initiate a sense that someone is lying about knowledge and intellect and someone else has hid the message in soome kind of literary device like a myth?

It could explain why some are uneasy as stressed by literal teaching ... and literary devices may set the seekers at ease.

Sometimes so much to question about the 2 essences ... emotion and intellect and how it sunk in with Sophia in the resevoir as fluid thought ...

Very quirky indeed ... causing spikes and cracks in the quantum field as defined by many different metaphphors ... forde bate 'ng ... when the alter believed it was 4 bidding ... terrors by Gama ... the other Ma?

One is said to be innate the other extant or even exponential ... way off the medium? By means of Gaels ...

And some patriarches even say they control the winds in Eire ... but something smells ...
 
My mother-in-law went blind from macular and was an avid reader. She was able to transition but i remember how hard it was for her as she acknowledged she had read her last book.
 
BetteTheRed said:
Kay, I'm with you. My Dad totally resisted, but made out okay because I read to him.

I've been training myself on audio books, and like them for road trips. I want to get used enough to it that if/when I lose my sight (laser treatments to suspend glaucoma effects are incredible today) that I will still be able to 'read'. Dad was almost completely blind by 75 and lived until he was 77. For a complete reading addict, it was totally awful.
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f it was ONLY the reading that is affected it would be ok. NUT it is also the knitting, quilting, replacing a button, finding the right spice in the cupboard, searching for something that has been put in the wrong place................
 
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