TWINS

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@ Chansen I suspect the boys are fine but their parents have bad taste in childcare providers;)
Boy and girl. And they are great kids, in their own unique way.

The boy was Carter's best friend, and just about the only kid other than Claire who played with Carter for any length of time after he was injured. I would fight to the death for him. I managed to get him a tour of the Blue Jays clubhouse after a game and meet all the players. He knows why. The girl is my daughter's best friend. Claire looks more like her twin than her own brother does. The sister spends most of her day plotting ways to hurt or get her brother in trouble. The brother retaliates and gets in trouble. She is smart. He is kind. Love them both to pieces.
 
Are you a twin?

Are there twins in your family?

I know Busy Mom has a twin brother.

None in my family?

What about you?

I'm not a twin. Would you really want two of me around?

There are no twins in my family that I know of.
 
Oh, no. That part sucks. I may love them, but the noise of three of them together is atrocious and makes me want to murder them, if only a little.
 
Lets see:
As far as I know there are no twins on my father's side of the family.

My maternal grandparents had nine children survive beyond babyhood. The two next to youngest were twins - boy and girl. Not at all alike. Once a new teacher in their little multi-grade rural school asked the children their ages. The girl said "Six", the boy said "Seven" (he would be seven in a few months). She never knew they were twins until the end of the year.

My aunt (second from the oldest in this family) didn't have twins, but two of her daughters did:
Older of the two had twin boys (fraternal, I think). Very different, or were they? One died an alcoholic. The other is a work-a-holic. He will probably be a millionaire. Other daughter had twins - boy, girl - very different personalities.

My uncle had twin boys (possibly identical and very much alike as children). But grew up to be quite different - maybe due to circumstances; one married and had six kids. The other married by was childless. They lived in different provinces and almost never saw each other.

So it seems that there are twins in my mother's family, but none of we four siblings were twins or had twins.

My daughter's second pregnancy had some complications. Quite likely she was originally pregnant with twins but one failed to develop, so Grandson was born a single. I often wonder what that other grandchild might have been like, and what Grandson would have been like if he had a twin. (He is seven years younger than his only sibling.)

My son lived with a girl who had an identical twin sister - almost impossible to tell apart until you knew them well. Although they lived in different cities they were very close, and, without her sister near, the one I knew was very dependent upon others and almost never spent time alone.

My daughter's man is the youngest of six kids, including his twin brother who was born just a few minutes before him. They are very different in size (the other twin has always been bigger), personality, looks, interests - and each is probably closer to one or the other of their brothers than they are to each other.
 
My own children were less than 13 months apart. (not as close as yours, Kay). I sometimes wondered if twins would be easier than two children still needing a lot of attention but at different stages of development. I think maybe I pushed my oldest (the boy) out of babyhood too soon. On the other hand my sister who had two fairly close always treated her kids alike, making no allowances for the older one -- ie he wasn't permitted to leave his yard and ride a trike on the sidewalk until his sister was old enough to do the same.
 
On the other hand my sister who had two fairly close always treated her kids alike, making no allowances for the older one -- ie he wasn't permitted to leave his yard and ride a trike on the sidewalk until his sister was old enough to do the same.
I think that often happens with the oldest, regardless of the age differences. Not that they are necessarily waiting for the younger, but breaking out of the boundaries is more difficult for the older, and then that age is set for the younger.
 
I have a cousin with the same birthday as me. As a child I thought we were twins and it was soooo exciting.

It was a great disappointment to understand that twins required the same mother
 
It made things a bit easier for me to 'lump the kids together' for some things. The bath and bed routine was fairly fixed for quite a few years. It was a time of day when my partner was usually at home - so one of us bathed the kids (starting with the youngest) and the other parent read a story once they were in their pj's. As they got a smidge older they ALL wanted to listen to ALL the stories :), they were young but not stupid :D. Much of the time two kids were ready for the next adventure in independence at the same time. We did get a bit of the 'not fair' attitude being aimed our way when one could do something but the other wasn't reliable enough, especially as they got older.

Sometimes it seems to me that we don't truly understand how we raised the kids until they have been adult for many years. Mine have totally different 'memories' of what life was like in our family, based, it seems on their basic personalities.
 
I think I was the worst mother. The kids all laugh but I can't help thinking
I know more now and would be a better mother now.
 
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