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Our moderator- well the moderator of the United church has a former name. She was raised in the Anglican church and her first name was a more usual female name- I'm thinking Lisa but not 100% on that one. Jordan is a gender neutral name.
 
Just an update.............
The evening of Wednesday October 19th, 2016 ..... My spouse Phyllis and I broke up after 38 1/2 years of marriage.
My being transgender and my need to move on to a full time living of that truth was too much for her to bear.
This is the cost of being transgender and dealing with gender dysphoria.
I am devastated and I weep and suffer greatly as does she.
I need more time away from discussions here but I will respond to posts in here as I am able.
I am safe and being cared for by friends 24/7 so that the despair does not result in me doing something ... well ... you get the thought I am sure.....
Please keep my spouse, family, and me in your thoughts and prayers as we go through this hell.
 
Thoughts and prayers, @RitaTG . We'll be here when you need us or feel ready to return. Take care of yourself first.
 
Prayers offered for you and all your family Rita - it is a time of grief and loss in this liminal space of transition. Glad to hear you have support of good friends at such a difficult time. Heal gently.
 
The hell you are going through is fleeting - and you will get through it - because you are a strong woman and so many need to hear your story. Peace to you...
 
Inukshuk said:
The hell you are going through is fleeting - and you will get through it - because you are a strong woman and so many need to hear your story. Peace to you...
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This forum doesn't allow likes, but.....this post rings true to me, so I am going to quote it to echo it's statement.

RitaTG. Always thankful for your presence here and in the world
 
Thanks for the update Rita. This is a tough time for you and your family. I'm glad you took some time to stop in. I hope that this virtual community can add to your support. I'm honoured to know you. Sending a hug.
 
Thank you for thinking of us and you can be sure

we will be thinking of you and your family

during this time. Blessings.
 
I offered your name in church this morning during Prayers of the People and without knowing any of the details, the minister prayed... "Though we don't know the circumstances of her need, we lift up Rita who was so lovingly created by you and who needs your presence and support now."

Lovingly created. You are loved.
 
Hey Rita!

Not sure if you've been around in a while.

I pray the Lord bless you and keep you, that he make his face shine upon you, and be gracious to you, and that he turn his face toward you and give you peace.

Most sincerely,
We're missing you.
 
Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and prayers Pontifex .....
Now for everyone .... an update.....
This has been an extremely difficult and challenging path for me and of course my family.
I have not seen my grandchildren since Oct 18th and that is so hard....
My wife Phyllis and I are at peace with each other and sometimes she even sends me pictures of the grandkids.
As for my children ..... there has been a bit of contact by text messages and a very small bit by phone.
Christmas has been a challenge that I started out wishing I could avoid ... but no longer....
This season for me is not about family first but rather the significance of the special birth.
That is a family story and so it should draw families together.
I was alone .... or so I thought .... I learned to let go of the reliance on family to get me through.
Then on Sunday night my youngest daughter started texting me. She lives 6 hours away.
Anyway ..... to my shock and surprise she asked to meet Rita for a coffee chat on boxing day!
She has done a lot of research and wants to build a new relationship!
I have been incredibly blessed and I am going to have a wonderful Christmas indeed.
There is much sorrow and longing but this is such an incredible gift! ... out of the ashes new relationships!
Also ...... my son's mother in law had such a difficult time with last Christmas because of me being trans and my grandson happening to meet me. She rejected me and blamed me.
We have reconciled and there is peace........
I have much to be thankful for....
Oh ... almost missed this bit ..... the very last workplace that required me to present as male has welcomed me as the woman I am. Such a huge change is such a short time! .... so many stories to share....
More later ...... I will be back on a more regular basis in the new year.
 
I see some good news in there, @RitaTG , esp. the reconnect with your daughter. Thank you for sharing it. Merry Christmas and all the best for the coming year.
 
I'm so glad to hear from you Rita. I'm also glad to hear that things are starting to turning around for you.Have a Merry Christmas.
 
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