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woot, welcome back. Love the virtual chocolate. No pounds on the hip.

Had a solid meeting with my radiologist and team today. Looking forward to getting this party started. Ok, party is a stretch, but you know what I mean.

It is a simply stunning day in s. ontario. I am headed down to have drinks with friends on a patio . Good way to talk through and share with them the plan, have a laugh, etc. So, here is a bottle of a delightful merlot for you to sip. Enjoy it, with the chocolate from Switzerland,
 
Wll good morning to this quiet room. Another beautiful night in S. Ont.

I'm offering up a fresh pot of coffee and some delicious banana bread that was baked by a friend of mine, oh, and a fruit salad made of all the delicious fruit that is in season and in our house: Pears, apples, plums, nectarine. There is a cantaloupe if someone would like a slice.

Enjoy your days folks. Getting my hair cut today so that it is good for as long as possible.
 
I should be sleeping right now. Lots to do. After it being pretty cold some days, it's going to go back up to 25C today, so at least it means I got stuff in the washer early with the quite cool breeze.

I'll take some of the fruit salad & banana bread, will work on a few things and can hopefully have a morning nap.
 
I have the day off work-to retrieve my van and canoe that broke down driving home Monday night.. Turns out a radiator hose was leaking. We nursed the car-with filling radiator 150k after the problem started and then used BCAA to tow it on a flatbed another 100k.Glad for my friends membership-and very glad my eldest gave us advice as we went-and left home when trouble started to meet us and get us home. He then napped in the backseat as we drove home. I worked Tues. the first day of school-on very little sleep-but am caught up now.
 
Ouch Tabitha. Thankful for adult sons who can both provide wisdom and at times, arrive to help out. He's a good guy.

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I am tired after a long, but successful day.
I took the time to tell a few other employees that i would be off who i had not advised before but are long-time friends. One of them has had treatment at the centre as has his wife. He showed up at my desk with him home # and cell # and said call any time for anything. The next one cried and then I got her to laugh. The last one was call me anytime, i'll leave work. All good folks. Tiring though.
I got my hair cut so don't have to do anything with it for a while. My hairdresser and I are good friends, he has cut my hair since boys were little with a few breaks, and is like the male-me, so, it was good to be in his hands.
I got my cpap machine and instructions on setting it up, plus advised to return it if it was too much to deal with during treatment, and they would do the month free another time.
I complimented a woman on her shoes which started a conversation about quality shoes, and then being told of a discount shoe store in the area that carried quality shoes...so went there and picked up a pair of birkenstock slippers for around the house.
I was told that cotton would be best to wear post radiation as the skin deteriorates, so went shopping for cotton pants. By this time, I was pretty wiped, so mentioned my need to the woman: ie comfortable cotton pants which would not rub on skin. She had me sit down and came back with samples that should be good. She was right on, and then...when I was trying them on, she found a pair for $8 on the sale rack and asked if I wanted ot try them on. On top of it, when I said that i didn't have my coupon, she said "you are not going to deal with that right now", and gave me the discount -- 40% off all purchases. She is getting a compliment to the store.
I then went to the last store, to get a cassette tape transcriber to USB, so I can copy all the old tapes while i am hanging out....and a store manager saw me walking, asked what i had assistance, got the two pieces, and i was out in 3 minutes.

I am happy to be sitting down.
 
Busy day pinga! Many of those responses you got were quite touching to me ... nice to see that kindness & compassion when you let your needs/situation be known.

I'm glad and sad to see the rain coming in this evening. This weekend is Southside Shuffle - our annual jazz & blues festival - most of which is outdoors. So while our earth badly needs some sustained rain ... boo on it blowing in now! Wishing it was on overnight thing with blue skies during the daytime & evening. Plus, it's pretty chilly, with a strong gusty north wind blowing. I was wanting to go hear David Rotundo tonight ... but don't think I will venture out. Will just have put on one of his CDs and enjoy that turned up nice & loud!!
 
Yes, Carolla. For the CPAP machine, I was just saying that I wasn't sure when I could have my followup appintment as I was starting treatment. She immediately went into "well, then, you can just cancel or reschedule at your convenience, bring the machine back if you don't feel up to figuring it out now". She also took extra time to speak about the importance of caring for it, cleaning, etc due to the compromised immune system during treatment.
 
I did get that nap in, but am feeling a bit worn out. I've posted about Christmas stress before, and while I knew my Mom went a bit over the top with any type of celebration I am starting to see that the stress she gets is much more atypical than I thought. I just assumed everyone was more stressed!

It really rubbed off on me and I'm working to find that right balance between Chemguy's family, where I do miss so many special touches or certain things just not being done and being able to enjoy things while doing the work. I think I'm doing a pretty decent job, but it needs more practice. The criticism I am getting from afar is difficult though as it's not even based on anything and I know more will be coming face to face. This is for my sister, she's the one that matters and I gave her a call about not-perfection being ok, and I feel better.
 
Pinga said:
Yes, Carolla. For the CPAP machine, I was just saying that I wasn't sure when I could have my followup appintment as I was starting treatment. She immediately went into "well, then, you can just cancel or reschedule at your convenience, bring the machine back if you don't feel up to figuring it out now". She also took extra time to speak about the importance of caring for it, cleaning, etc due to the compromised immune system during treatment.
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Did you decide to try the CPAP? A friend who uses one swears by it - she feels immensely better. It is a bit of an adjustment though, to sleeping with the facemask - but I think there are a variety of types now, so often if one is not comfortable after a reasonable trial, then other options can be sought. Hoping it brings you good results too ... whenever you opt to give it a go.
 
ChemGal - it is interesting how we grow up thinking our own families are just the norm in many instances LOL! Then it's quite an eye opener to be exposed to so many other ways of doing and being. That's one thing I quite like about this place - one can share what happening & get quick feedback from others ... love that diversity and sharing.

I think it's one of our 'adult life jobs' - to work on recognizing those ingrained patterns from our families of origin, the internalized, invisible 'rule books' we carry regarding so many things in life ... then to see what bits still make sense to us now that we're adults, to shift bits, to keep bits, to discard other bits ... creating a new way of being that works for the unique individuals we become.
 
yup, i have it at home. Forgot to pick up distilled water and not interested in going back out, so will wait until tomorrow to start it. I am hoping the next week will be enough for me to get used to it. I know based on what I have been told, that I will sleep better, and sleep better is important for healing, restoration. (shucks, even crossfit tells us we MUST get lots of sleep in order for muscle and body repair to occur). Her point was that some people starting cancer treatment find that it is too much to take on , and so have returned it...I am hoping that I will be able to get ahead of it and be reasonably comfortable with it.
 
ah - distilled water - you're reminding me I need to check on my batch of kombucha that's brewing (I used distilled water for it too!) It's probably ready for bottling tomorrow! Thanks for that!
 
My dad swears by his CPAP, he doesn't snore at all anymore and it used to fill the whole house. I know he's tried a number of different face mask options before landing on the one he has now. I must admit I did make Darth Vader jokes...

Where is this discount shoe place Pigna?
 
OMG.

I am reminded about how when we share things get lighter. As I said, I am drastically widening the circle in prep for a facebook post. I reached out to a friend who i knew was going through treatments last year, just to let her know. I didn't know what type of cancer she had. As it turns out she has a slightly more advanced form of the cancer that I have. Yup. I worked for her 10 years ago. Similair presentation. similair treatment. She has been giving me the lowdown and tips on being well, and what to stock at home, etc. What a gift of her wisdom to me. She is a lot like me. A director of sytems, came out of project management. similair size.
 
ah Pinga it is good to have a friend who has walked this road before.

on another note I am home-after being away for 12 hours. Van is working great and is here. Son's car has gone home with him. and it was worth it for the 98k canoe trip in the Rockies with some whitewater. Now for a weekend of dragonboat racing
 
  1. My Chloe may have to be put down. People from the original WC may remember me talking about Chloe - a foundling puppy abandoned by the side of the highway during a winter ice storm. I found out about her from friends of the people who found her - told Seeelergirl whose husband went to seee her and brought her home. She's been a wonderful dog - beaautiful (she looks like a slim golden retriever but we think she may be partly Nova Scotia Duck Troller). Grandson loves her - we all do. She stayed with sil after the break-up but we occasionally saw her and occasionally ept her for a few days if he were away.
But a couple of weeks ago she suddenly did something to a back leg - 'blew her leg' is the terminology Seelergirl used. Anyway the vet put her on pain pills, advised rest, message, etc. - and when it didn't get better they started considering operating (approx. cost over $1,000). Before that could be scheduled she 'blew her other leg'. Now she can't walk. Both legs need surgery to be done a few weeks apart. Then rest, care, therapy. More than sil can afford. More than we can afford to help with. And of course no guarantee that we would get our healthy, active, friendly dog back (now she just lays on her mat - either in pain or doped from medication - I haven't seen her).

Within a couple of days sil will have to make a decision. Seelergirl has told him that she will support him in whatever he decides. How do we tell the children? Granddaughter is 18 - she should be able to understand. But Grandson is 11 and he's been praying for her.
 
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