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I like walking. Wish I had some more nice areas to walk in. The valley on the West side of my neighbourhood is nice but the trail is really too short. To walk along the river, I have to drive to one of the parks first, which feels a bit counter productive. Perhaps I will feel like getting my bike out again next summer, which makes that river trail feasible again.
 
We're so lucky here. We have a variety of options nearby. There's something for every level of ability. Today we just walked around the park, which is nice in itself.
 
Northwind said:
My friend who was going to use MAID died last night. She lived with metastatic breast cancer for over ten years. The last year or so was tough for her. I hope she's at peace now. It's a cruel disease.

The annual welcome back BBQ at the park is this afternoon. We've met many new friends so far this year and have reconnected with old friends. It should be a nice event. Hopefully the weather will be cooperative. The forecast is good.
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I too hope your friend is at peace now. These are hard losses.
I do love the way your 'park life' is imbued with many who are eager & willing to create a sense of community. Doubtful you would find such a similar quick connection in established neighbourhoods.
 
Carolla said:
Doubtful you would find such a similar quick connection in established neighbourhoods.
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This is our seventh winter here. We've got friends from our first winter and others we've picked up along the way. This park has a wonderful winter community.

Nancy said:
@Northwind …so sorry for the loss of your friend. I love that you have been making new friends.
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Unfortunately that's the hazard of meeting other women with metastatic breast cancer. They die. We had quite a large group about five years ago. Now there's only two of us left. The other woman and I'll keep in touch. We were going to go out for dinner on Tuesday with our husbands along as well. Unfortunately she got a cold so couldn't go. We'll get together soon.
 
Mendalla said:
I like walking. Wish I had some more nice areas to walk in. The valley on the West side of my neighbourhood is nice but the trail is really too short. To walk along the river, I have to drive to one of the parks first, which feels a bit counter productive. Perhaps I will feel like getting my bike out again next summer, which makes that river trail feasible again.
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We have a few great walking locations a short drive away. But we seldom use them.

I like opening my front door and getting started right then
 
Northwind said:
This is our seventh winter here. We've got friends from our first winter and others we've picked up along the way. This park has a wonderful winter community.



Unfortunately that's the hazard of meeting other women with metastatic breast cancer. They die. We had quite a large group about five years ago. Now there's only two of us left. The other woman and I'll keep in touch. We were going to go out for dinner on Tuesday with our husbands along as well. Unfortunately she got a cold so couldn't go. We'll get together soon.
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My like in this case is acknowledgement.



My sense is there are some groups that you go into that you know have a limited span

In our case it may be old technology apps.

Some of those groups bring hardship as the group gets smaller or you know less

My company retirement group is like that. Less and less employees, means less and less retirees, and we, as retirees die - to be expected

Your group is likely the hardest type of group.

Do newly diagnosed metastatic breast cancer folks join?
 
paradox3 said:
I like opening my front door and getting started right then
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Same, especially for my after-work exercise. Though with the looming time change (Nov. 3), those might be coming to an end before long. Already it is getting dark by the time I get home (usually leave 5:30-5:45 and do 45-60 minutes). On a weekend, I tend to be more willing to go afield for a walk.
 
JayneWonders said:
Do newly diagnosed metastatic breast cancer folks join?
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They can. We are part of a larger Canadian FB group. Sometimes people ask if anyone wants to connect in a certain part of the country. That happened here before covid. The first gathering for lunch had about ten of us. We have a messenger group and kept in touch. We had a few outside gatherings during covid. There's a couple people in the local group on Messenger who haven't joined us in person yet. The two of us who remain need a bit of a break. I may check to see if others want to connect for lunch one day. Or not.

I know where I can get support now. I'm in a general women's cancer support group here in town. It's good. A couple other women have ovarian cancer and understand that cancer is a part of life. Those who have had treatment and have essentially moved on really don't understand the issue. They try. I mean how could they understand. I do know any stage of cancer has a huge impact on a person. One example of not understanding was when I was frustrated with the broken process to start my current drug and was talking about it at our coffee gathering. One woman said drug companies don't pay, they do. She interrupted what I was saying and tried to use her know-it-all side to respond. That was not helpful. I didn't say anything because she really is a good person overall. I'm sure my face and possibly tone of voice said a fair bit. She did get defensive and said she understands because both her parents died from cancer. That's not the same. My mother died of cancer. It sucked. This is different.
 
Northwind, I am so sorry about the loss of your friend. I've lived through this a few too many times now. It is a shitty, shitty disease.

Paradox, I would love to answer your questions, but not really here?

Things are kinda rearranging in my life. I have a feeling that the big guy and I may be moving towards living in the same place. Where that might be, we don't know, but I have to finish making my (doll's) house either livable for two people, one of them large, or sell-able.
 
Interesting day here. Emergency Alerts going off about armed, dangerous people. Attacked someone (possibly with a gun) in Prince Albert and then took off down the highway heading this way. Local schools on Shut Down all morning. Seems two have been captured, heavy police presence in the wider area as they seek some more.

Got my Covid and flu shots and now have a sore, bruised feeling arm. Slept for four hours and still sleepy!

My niece in the UK sent a copy of a photo her daughter got from a geneology site. It shows a woman in bridal wear and a man in sailor uniform. My UK relatives want to know who the woman is because she looks like a family member. Nope - I don't know!
 
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