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Seems like an efficient clinic at St. Joes - hope you aren't feeling too anxious & you will feel better soon.
 
Honestly, I'm proud of her. It's not easy to announce that in front of a religious family.

And if you don't already know, she's more than half. You don't make that kind of announcement if you're halfway - you sit on it. You announce you're "half-atheist" to cushion the blow.

She's at least two thirds.
 
LMAO. Yeah, once the seed of "hell" is planted in a child's brain, it's hard to eradicate it. We kept our daughter completely away from those stories until she developed an ability to analyze claims, so now she can laugh about it. I think that's why some do baptize their children, some come back, and why some revisit the religion of their youth when faced with their own mortality. The threat of hell is very intelligently designed to prey on people's fears and can lay dormant for decades. The threat of hell is like Herpes - it never really goes away.
 
That's perhaps one answer. I've never understood my childhood fascination with religion. I was raised by two atheists, although my mother's distance from her Catholicism was shorter than she realized.

So, I don't know if it's a threat of hell, as much as a fascination with the nature of the Divine.

I don't think it's ever going to stop raining here. My backyard looks like a hay field (front's not so bad, largely because of the creepy weeds/garden escapees that have choked out the bulk of the grass), but the grass hasn't stayed dry enough to mow longer than a few minutes for weeks.
 
chansen said:
LMAO. Yeah, once the seed of "hell" is planted in a child's brain, it's hard to eradicate it. We kept our daughter completely away from those stories until she developed an ability to analyze claims, so now she can laugh about it. I think that's why some do baptize their children, some come back, and why some revisit the religion of their youth when faced with their own mortality. The threat of hell is very intelligently designed to prey on people's fears and can lay dormant for decades. The threat of hell is like Herpes - it never really goes away.
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See, I wasn't raised with a strong belief in Hell in the UCCan. It kind of lurked in the background but wasn't emphasized or even preached about much. And I didn't buy the whole "unbaptized babies are doomed" thing. And, as mentioned in other threads, I was leaning to a more Baptist view of baptism in my Christian days anyhow (i.e. adult baptism). So, Little M was not baptized, not even "just in case". We had a dedication service done by a wonderful UU chaplain (who. alas, passed away a few years later) and if he decides to become a Christian at some point, he can get dunked on his own initiative.
 
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See, I wasn't raised with a strong belief in Hell in the UCCan.
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Right, and I'm sure many aren't. In the UCCan. Some are, but not like in the Baptist churches, for example. Which of those are retaining more of their children as eventual adult members? Neither are doing well, but I understand Baptists are doing better. Fear works.
 
chansen said:
Right, and I'm sure many aren't. In the UCCan. Some are, but not like in the Baptist churches, for example. Which of those are retaining more of their children as eventual adult members? Neither are doing well, but I understand Baptists are doing better. Fear works.
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Yet I rarely hear talk of hell in Baptist churches any more. The emphasis I feel has become far, far more on living for Jesus today and doing life in loving community.
 
Wow - hello everyone - it's been a while (I think 18 months at least). I was glad to come back (and be let back in lol).

I just came back from a trip to the East coast and was thinking of members from here that are from down there. I attended a UCCan service near Chimney Corner, Cape Breton and it made me think of the person who travelled as a lay(?) minister somewhere on the "right coast". I then got to thinking about the incredibly kind person (Corolla?) who sent me crocheted prayer patches and then of someone I have become FB friends with one (eta: @Pinga ) who was kind enough to drive out of her way to visit me during one of my many hospitalizations in 2016. I just read a few posts here and it was lovely to see familiar names. @ChemGal I was wondering how you are feeling these days? (eta: @Seeler was the person I was thinking of).

As for me - I was diagnosed with "dementia" in November 2016, admitted to hospital in January 2017, diagnosed again with moderate-severe (I was told to prepare to be institutionalized) and then it was figured out that I had brain toxicity. At that point I slept 17-20 hours a day, barely could walk (I would fall all the time), eat, talk or type or make much sense. I am doing way better now although I struggle daily with my depression, anxiety, PTSD, ADHD, Tourette's (or whatever the dx de jour might be). The dementia period does help me better understand people who struggle in this way. I have decided that I will dedicate the rest of my life to advocacy and information about mental health (I've been told that I will never hold a "real" job again) so if you ever have any questions about care, therapies, dementia, etc please feel free to reach out.
 
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Pinga said:
Woke up with a nasty headache this morning. Ended up spending most of the day and night on and off sleeping, trying all the tricks to dump a headache.

Got nothing done.

Bag humbug.

Now headache is only on the periphery and I am wondering if I can sleep tonight
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Have you ever tried the hot/cold water trick? I also find menthol (icy cold) A535 works really well (others swear by Tiger Balm). I was also told that a tylenol, an IB and a coke might help (and it does seem to work from time to time although I am reluctant to suggest medication to anyone on-line). I hope it's better now (maybe it was related to the horrible storm that went through Ontario last night).
 
Caring is not a large item on the agenda of those dedicated towards assertive succession!

Comes from the sub dude ... that long shadow ...
 
@Justme ! I've been thinking of you. I really need to actually reach out more when a thought crosses about someone I haven't seen. Really glad to see you dropping in!
Sorry to hear of your struggles. Sounds like you've made big progress since the winter - doing a trip!

I've been doing really well - just trying to focus on not pushing too hard as I add a few things in.
 
Had a moment, when I could not remember the name of a parenting book which is how my boys & I survived.

Who here remembers Barbara Coloroso and “If the natural consequences are not life-threatening, morally threatening, or unhealthy, it is good to let the child experience them, without warnings or reminders.”
 
Pinga said:
Had a moment, when I could not remember the name of a parenting book which is how my boys & I survived.

Who here remembers Barbara Coloroso and “If the natural consequences are not life-threatening, morally threatening, or unhealthy, it is good to let the child experience them, without warnings or reminders.”
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Like that threat to John in the apple tree? Johnny if you fall and break a leg ... you're mother will kill yah!

Humans exhibit strange attributes ... then there is Maas killing ... dj'nn a' side ...
 
Welcome back Justme. Sorry for your troubles, and how generous you are to share your stories and experiences in a helpful way.
 
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