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Tabitha, I am not in your situation, nor never have been, so this is not advice for you, but just me thinking about what I would do if one of my children was estranged over Christmas, other special holidays, birthdays, etc.

I'm not sure, but I think I would "include" them somehow in my celebrations - if I did stockings for those present, I would hang one for them - I may not fill it with "gifts", but rather a gift certificate (no expiration date), candies, or even cash. I would "wrap" a gift if I normally did for them, and was doing so for the others. I would find a place to store the items in the hopes that one day (hopefully very soon) that there would be contact and re-uniting.

I realize your situation with him/her is very complex . . . and there is no right or wrong. And so you have to do what you think is best - for yourself - for right now, and for the future. You will figure it out as Christmas approaches.

I hope things turn around and that he/she realizes and remembers your unconditional mother's love and is drawn to enter into a continuing family relationship with you and the siblings. Life is hard for you right now, and I am sorry that it is.
 
Take care, Crazyheart. Thinkin' of you as you care for him. No need to apologize but good to know why your edges are frayed. Hoping you are being cared for as well.
 
Tabitha, Crazyheart, and all others out there who are feeling stressed right now (including myself) - remember Christmas is not meant to be an extra stress, but a time to find new hope - to see the light shining in the darkness - to find peace. Let's try not to push ourselves too hard, not to make everything perfect, not to have everything the way it used to be (it probably wasn't perfect back then either).
 
It's the coldest day yet this autumn - just a few more days until winter is officially here. Let's put another log on the fire - or at least build it up. I'm setting out breakfast - anyone for old-fashion oat-meal with brown sugar or maple syrup?
 
Things have been pretty rough lately. Not sure what I should do to improve things. Woke up with the left side of my face swollen this morning.
 
I started a thread in Family on estranged family members.

Poor Chemgal. But check your schedule-it has ramped up lately with Xmas parties and christmas decorating. Could this just be a back lash from increased activity?
 
Tabitha said:
I started a thread in Family on estranged family members.

Poor Chemgal. But check your schedule-it has ramped up lately with Xmas parties and christmas decorating. Could this just be a back lash from increased activity?
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It's actually way down, just because I haven't been up for much. I had joined a few social groups and had more appointments before all these attacks started happening.
 
At least I have some good shows to watch on netflix. I hope it's just a temporary thing, at first I thought it was the weather but it isn't all that cold anymore. Maybe just the thoughts of things I want to be doing with Christmas coming up. I hope this is just temporary, if it's still going on when the clinic opens after the Christmas break I'll make an appointment. I might have to up the dose, or go to every 2-3 days instead of 3-4.
 
I haven't set the table in the café much lately.

So, tonight I am going to light some candles, put out some snacks, and turn on some tunes.
The wine bottle is open.
The teapot is hot.
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Over the last few months, I have been prepping for a project at work that, well, has negative consequences on many people's lives (and positive consequences for others). The people feeling the negative are my friends, coworkers, and peers who I have worked with in some cases for many years, and in others for a short time. The ones who will be happy are those who I do not know.
My project includes helping people transition their access from their teams to a new company...and so, well, the stress points for those that we engage with are rather high. It isn't a small number of people impacted, and well, as we are two weeks away from Christmas, and the information was just formally shared, I am aware of both the workload that stretches in front of me, as well as the level of care that I will need to bring to the table. I am hopeful that I acquired the right contractors o to keep people moving forward. I hope that people care for each other and treat each other with kindness.
 
Yesterday was a storm day in NB. I got a lot done - launder caught up; roast chicken dinner prepared; Christmas tree assembled (but not trimmed). And in the evening, as the storm abated, I attended an Affirming meeting at the church. Someone picked me up and drove me home so I wouldn't have to cope with the glare of wet and possibly icy streets. (Actually the snow and ice had melted off the streets - driveways and parking lots could be tricky).
Today my schedule - put lights on tree; make a potluck; go to writers' group; skip church 'seekers' group; go to square-dance Christmas supper and dance. A full day for someone at my energy level.
 
*Pinga wanders in, rubs eyes and is thankful once again for Seeler's starting of the fire his morning.
She thinks to herself, "there are people you can count on, Seeler is one of those folks"....and smiles.

Selecting one of the soft blankets on the couch, she thinks of the many others in that list, people who have been here before, people who are here now. Doesn't name them, as by naming one, she is guaranteed to forget to name 3...but their names ripple through her brain and she hopes they feel the warmth coming their way.

There is fresh fruit and a lovely breakfast buffet set out by some lovely elf (ha, not elf on the shelf). his morning feels like a good day for some muesli.

now to relax and enjoy this wonderful coffee

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wow, busy day, Seeler.

Today is a windy day with windswept roads with a fine dusting of snow...my guess is it is slippery out there. It definitely is colder than it was yesterday.

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Stormy day is some parts of Ontario I'm hearing but we're just getting wind so far in London. From the school bus cancellations I've seen, the worst seems to staying North and East of us (GTA, Central and Eastern Ontario). The wind's bitter though so I'm putting the kettle on. Anyone else for tea?
 
Hi everyone . Here is a small story. My 6 year old grandson had to have 4 baby teeth removed for second teeth.
He did not sleep well waiting to see tooth fairy. Got 20.00 - 5 bucks a tooth. I might stay awake for that much too.
If I recall, I didn't even get a dollar.
 
I figured that the weight of my head on the pillow squashed the tooth flat, and the wrinkles in the pillow case pressed in the pattern - either an Indian head for a nickel or the Bluenose for a dime (if I was lucky and had been very good).
I guess instead of trying to figure it out I should have just trusted the tooth fairy and maybe I'd have gotten five dollars (yea - in my dreams. $5.00 would have bought eggs and milk for the family for a fortnight.)
 
It was a quarter when I was a child, a loonie for my own children (although there is the "first tooth" legend, which costs $10...it's a long story that involves what was in my ex-husband's pocket when he remembered that the tooth fairy had 'forgotten' two nights in a row).
 
Greetings all!

Pinga, thinking of you as you go through this stressful time re: work situation.

Seeler - you amaze me with all you do and all you are involved in - you are very active, and very busy.

Warmer weather here . . . is is hovering around +2 right now - obviously not normal winter weather for here. The mildness is nice and I should be getting my outside chores (shopping, banking, post office etc. ) chores done while it lasts. I think we are going to have some slippery spots tomorrow once it freezes tonight.

We also got a quarter from the tooth fairy - and my children got a loonie. I wonder how much those get when they have their teeth pulled for false???

My Christmas list is whittling down somewhat . . . going to try and get as much done on the weekend so I can focus on housecleaning and enjoying the pre-Christmas season.

Enjoying my tree and Christmas decorations - especially the lights and Christmas candles.

Have a great night everyone.
 
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