Isolated sol di seas'? When shallow it vaporizes into mist quickly when heat is applied ... it goes isle! No man is an island comes to mind ... when he has lost his silent friend from under the tree ... am Oss, or Aim Oozes ... fore sooth is covered ... we must deal with the myth ... foggy issue like the Celts?
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Isolated sol di seas'? When shallow it vaporizes into mist quickly when heat is applied ... it goes isle! No man is an island comes to mind ... when he has lost his silent friend from under the tree ... am Oss, or Aim Oozes ... fore sooth is covered ... we must deal with the myth ... foggy issue like the Celts?
It was actually my dentist who first ruled out it being a side effect of my medicine. She also told me that nothing dental would be causing the problem.
My neurologist confirmed what my dentist had told me regarding the medicine.
If the pharmaceutical is neuro active ... anything can appear to occur ... and most pharma's are just that; neuro active! The baffling part is what many doctors don't know .. . or deny!
I could tell of some interesting stories with my involvement with the physical plants of health care ... I could get shot for such things ... no kidding! The missing parts are astounding ...
Update. Moved all my stuff out of my little place today, with 2 friends' help. They were amazing. My one friend was a good "manager". I asked her to give me her eyes and help direct me on what to prioritize because I was feeling exhausted and overwhelmed. Once I pulled things out of cupboards, and couldn't safely get around it all, I nearly had a breakdown. I had made progress but was only able to do what was within reach without bending or reaching up high. I had taken the splint off for awhile the day before, and my knee was paying for it (although it is getting much better). My friend set up chairs in such a way, near where I still had things to sort, and where I could reach things, and said "okay, this one garbage, this one recycling, this one keep"...and kept me focused, without judging (my mom for example, would be berating me, and that itself I find 'paralizing'). My other friend loaded her van up. It was a furnished place - kitchen stuff was also mostly the owners' - so all I had to move was a nightstand/ drawer, clothes, a few books, bathroom stuff, linens, and odds n ends - not that much as far as moving goes, but once I had pulled everything out it just seemed overwhelming in that tiny home. And I had accumulated more clutter than I had planned to! I always seem to, somehow. It was embarrassing for me because ideally I wouldn't have broken my leg and would be able to do a better job before anyone showed up. I kept apologizing anxiously and they were telling me "Stop it! This is easy for us, piece of cake!...it's normal home mess, your knee is broken and you have a disability, you did well here - be kinder to yourself!" They were awesome! It took about 2 hours to get everything finished, cleaned up, and moved to my parents', with their help.
We got to my parents (whose garage, by the way, is full of their clutter) and my parents were grumbling about my three garbage bags of clothes and linens (much easier to move short distances this way, I have learned) and about 4 small boxes, a suitcase, a few food staples, and a small nightstand, being too much stuff crowding their already crazy-cluttered garage. That is why I need to find somewhere else ASAP, because they never stop complaining about minutiae...I am their scapegoat for their own mess because I added to it...but the bathroom here is all fitted with equipment while my knee is still healing. It won't be much longer. I hope in 2 weeks I can find somewhere else, though. 6 weeks max.
Can't sleep though. I slept yesterday after I was done. I'm out of whack from the past 48 hrs.
We got to my parents (whose garage, by the way, is full of their clutter) and my parents were grumbling about my three garbage bags of clothes and linens (much easier to move short distances this way, I have learned) and about 4 small boxes, a suitcase, a few food staples, and a small nightstand, being too much stuff crowding their already crazy-cluttered garage. That is why I need to find somewhere else ASAP, because they never stop complaining about minutiae...I am their scapegoat for their own mess because I added to it...but the bathroom here is all fitted with equipment while my knee is still healing. It won't be much longer. I hope in 2 weeks I can find somewhere else, though. 6 weeks max.
Can't sleep though. I slept yesterday after I was done. I'm out of whack from the past 48 hrs.
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I knew it was coming. I didn't know I would break my kneecap, though. That set me back quite a bit, with work, and life in general. I was not able to apartment hunt. I had started looking before I broke my knee (though the time to act on renting is usually short notice, like 2-3 weeks before moving in - not many places advertise months ahead of time) - then my days revolved getting around with this injury.
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Hugs, Kimmio. Sounds like it went very well, and I'm so glad you had a couple of sensible friends to help. One day I'll tell you of the many incidents I have inflicted on families and friends while moving. It is something that I am VERY bad at.
I do hope you can find yourself a 12-month rental this time.
I do hope you can find yourself a 12-month rental this time.
KayTheCurler
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Patting you on the back Kimmio. Moving is always stressful, and your circumstances made it more so. Relax a bit now, if you can, and enjoy having it done (even if your parents are being ungracious). Good luck with the search for an affordable new nest.
Kimmio, so glad you had friends to help and even if you find it difficult at your parents, at least you have a safe place to land.
Will you have enough for first and last for a new place and are there actually places around your area that will be in your budget?
Will you have enough for first and last for a new place and are there actually places around your area that will be in your budget?
Thanks. Here, usually they only require first month rent plus 1/2 mo. security deposit.
No, there isn't much out there that would be adequate for me. Very low vacancy but not quite as bad as Vancouver. This used to be a good time to look for places. University students now, though, don't move out anymore, they sublet their messy bedrooms, literally (and living room couches, too, while they are at it) for the summer for more than they pay for rent. No thanks. If I can avoid that it would be nice.
I found the last place (and it was perfect so it'll be hard to beat that), so hoping I can find another good one too. It'll happen.
No, there isn't much out there that would be adequate for me. Very low vacancy but not quite as bad as Vancouver. This used to be a good time to look for places. University students now, though, don't move out anymore, they sublet their messy bedrooms, literally (and living room couches, too, while they are at it) for the summer for more than they pay for rent. No thanks. If I can avoid that it would be nice.
I found the last place (and it was perfect so it'll be hard to beat that), so hoping I can find another good one too. It'll happen.
Lastpointe
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Glad you’re u got moved out. Hoping you find a good spot soon. Deep breaths important for dealing with parents
As a parent, I can say I love having my adult kids visit. For a short time. I am happy when they leave and life returns to normal. So it doesn’t seem odd to me that they focus on trivia. What they are really saying is that you are upsetting their lives. Deep breaths and find that new place ASAP
As a parent, I can say I love having my adult kids visit. For a short time. I am happy when they leave and life returns to normal. So it doesn’t seem odd to me that they focus on trivia. What they are really saying is that you are upsetting their lives. Deep breaths and find that new place ASAP
Yes, I know I am upsetting their lives. They focus on trivia even when I am not here though. That's what they do. Everyone who has ever come over, of my friends, my husband used to say also - it's uptight, not welcoming, not a place you can relax in, even though it looks nice. Mostly my mom's vibe in the air. The realm of their concerns is so foreign from mine (survival has never been a worry for example) that I just can't relate and we don't get along at all for longer than is absolutely necessary. She criticizes everyone and everything. It's what she does. I just don't care about the small routine stuff like they do. I've been through too much on my own most of my life, for it to be worth it. I am my own person. My mom told me that directly several times, when I first broke my knee, that I was in the way of their lives. Every hour. And even more when the bathroom equipment was set up. Too unattractive. Looks like a hospital ward. Even though her friends had told her about their own borrowing of equipment after injuries and she was inquiring with me until it got set up, when it was going to. It was a good idea until it arrived, then she complained about that! My mom was telling me, while I could hardly move, that I needed to be making an extra effort to help them. I gave them some money because even though I didn't have much and was already planning to move, it was the only way I could help them. I'll be giving them several hundred dollars soon.
So I need out. Regardless of what they want. My friend told me to "make like a duck and let it roll off your back. They are not going to leave you homeless but find somewhere soon for your own peace of mind."
My mom doesn't really love me I don'think. I don't think she knows how. And nobody can change her.
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Many adult children cannot live with parents . . . nothing wrong with that. I agree, for your own peace of mind, find a new place to live as soon as you can.
I went for X-rays and a doctor visit at the hospital yesterday and unfortunately my knee cap pieces shifted slightly out of position from bending or turning it too much recently, from doing too much. I didn't have much choice and the zimmer splint was a terrible Mickey Mouse solution, coming loose, twisting and falling down all the time. This new one is much better quality and not bulky, and stays in place. It's just an exoskeleton (no cheap felt fabric) with good, secure rods down the sides - adjustable for length, and adjustable bolts to set the position of the knee angle, and far better quality straps with clamps on the sides to keep the straps from loosening. It was not covered and I had to ask for help to pay for it - that doesn't help my family dynamics right now - but my knee will not otherwise heal properly. So, a mixed blessing. The orthopaedic surgeon showed me the old and new X-rays for comparison to scare me (leg) straight - and I have to be very careful for 4 more weeks! - or else they may have to operate and pin it together. The clinic I picked it up from was a really fancy day surgery plus rehab clinic - big modern, posh looking facility. Wow. So I guess BC does have some two tier medical care going on or else this would've been available at the hospital to begin with.
Lastpointe
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That is private enterprise running a rehab physio facility. Like labs and X-ray clinics those are generally privately owned and they bill the government for their services that are billable ones and bill the clients for ones that are not
In return they have paid for all their own équipement. And hire their own staff. If they want to put on a top end product they will pay for a nice environment and lots of staff.
Government run facilities , due to costs, always use the best cheapest thing they can use. That doesn’t mean it’s the best. But the best for the cost.
It is part of the frustration of our medical care. Canadians love to gloat about how great it is not to get a bill from the doctor or hospital. Of course we did get a bill, a big one, it is just from our tax departments
In return we have old, shabby hospitals, medical schools that graduate more students than hospitals have spots for, also using our tax dollars
However the balance is that you can get care at no additional cost. But if you want the Cadillac appliance it costs extra. Even basic air casts and crutches are not given free,
In return they have paid for all their own équipement. And hire their own staff. If they want to put on a top end product they will pay for a nice environment and lots of staff.
Government run facilities , due to costs, always use the best cheapest thing they can use. That doesn’t mean it’s the best. But the best for the cost.
It is part of the frustration of our medical care. Canadians love to gloat about how great it is not to get a bill from the doctor or hospital. Of course we did get a bill, a big one, it is just from our tax departments
In return we have old, shabby hospitals, medical schools that graduate more students than hospitals have spots for, also using our tax dollars
However the balance is that you can get care at no additional cost. But if you want the Cadillac appliance it costs extra. Even basic air casts and crutches are not given free,
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Bones take a minimum of 6 weeks until they start knitting together and a good year until they are as strong as before the break. Make sure you get a good amount of calcium and vitamin D in your diet or take a supplement. I hope you got enough instructions about not bending and follow them. Displaced fractures means the edges of the fracture do not line up anymore, Now your body has more work to bridge a greater, uneven gap.