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I guess I’m referring to those who think anything is fair game to discuss. We are social creatures so though I might not like it if one friend shares with another that I took a class or got a new job or I’m going though a relatable problem etc - maybe I want to decide who I tell what to - but I can’t control that kind of stuff. If I was bothered by it after the fact I’d say so and hopefully they’d be more mindful next time. It’s the random careless chatter about other people’s lives I don’t appreciate. I don’t want to know unless they tell me themselves.
 
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What if we talk about delinquent ideas that the powers do not even consider to be issues because it doesn't affect them?

Small stuff is inconsistent in their terms ... of time and space! They do not have place for it in their schemes ... sometimes referred to as anti Trump conspiracies ... thus pools of tears as the man weeps over who is not prancing to his whine ...

Some old Germanic chap once said that power was corrupt and we should be attentive to the deficiency ... so much rot said the UK Lord!
 
chansen said:
I love starting rumours. Thirteen years ago, I started a rumour about our new subdivision that the new phase was built over an indigenous burial ground. That info got back to the sales office and they asked me if I started the rumour, because they had to field that question from a few potential buyers. They were not happy with me. I had quite a bit of fun with that one.
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Why would you do that?

It seems that it is malicious, and is both disrespectful of Indigenous people and their legitimate concerns as well as impacting a business.

For me, that is way past gossip.
 
Kimmio Laughterlove said:
I guess I’m referring to those who think anything is fair game to discuss. We are social creatures so though I might not like it if one friend shares with another that I took a class or got a new job or I’m going though a relatable problem etc - maybe I want to decide who I tell what to - but I can’t control that kind of stuff. If I was bothered by it after the fact I’d say so and hopefully they’d be more mindful next time. It’s the random careless chatter about other people’s lives I don’t appreciate. I don’t want to know unless they tell me themselves.
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Kimmio, it's a challenge at times.
I feel there are times when having some information is useful. I was thankful when I was told that someone's spouse had died unexpectedly. I was able to drop off some food to help with the inevitable guests that would arrive.

I usually find it is helpful for me to disclose my personal situations, rather than having folks wondering who they can share with, or who needs to know.
I just put the information out there, and if anyone has questions, they can ask.
 
The problem with gossip is that it is not necessarily based on reality. A lot of it is supposition.

Scenarios I thought of:

A is seen hugging B. They are of a suitable gender and orientation to be potential partners (opposite sex or same sex but known to be gay/bi). Suddenly people are talking about A and B being a couple, when all that was actually seen was A comforting B after a tough day.

Or A and B are a couple but take separate vacations for personal reasons. Suddenly, everyone is worrying about their relationship when it is really just A wanted this and B wanted that so they took it as some time apart.

Spreading knowledge that you've received from the source, or a reliable connected source is really what I mean by "news".

"Gossip", to me, is spreading knowledge that is based on less reliable sources or supposition rather than actual, reliable sources.

If A's brother tells you A and B are getting divorced, that's probably news. Ditto if it comes straight from one of the couple.
If C tells you A and B are getting divorced because they heard it from D who was told by E that they saw this and that, you're into gossip.
 
One day I spotted a long term friend who was in town on business. We hugged at noon. My partner was told at work that I was cheating on him one hour later, The gossiper was amazed when my guy laughed. 'Everyone' knew by mid afternoon!
 
KayTheCurler said:
One day I spotted a long term friend who was in town on business. We hugged at noon. My partner was told at work that I was cheating on him one hour later, The gossiper was amazed when my guy laughed. 'Everyone' knew by mid afternoon!
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Wow, my first scenario was more accurate than I thought. :ROFLMAO:
 
JayneWonders said:
Why would you do that?

It seems that it is malicious, and is both disrespectful of Indigenous people and their legitimate concerns as well as impacting a business.

For me, that is way past gossip.
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Apparently, so you can disapprove of my sense of humour again. People would buy pre-sale homes if their own grandparents were buried on the property. Once they found out it was a joke, everyone had a laugh. Some of us aren't wound as tight.
 
chansen said:
Apparently, so you can disapprove of my sense of humour again. People would buy pre-sale homes if their own grandparents were buried on the property. Once they found out it was a joke, everyone had a laugh. Some of us aren't wound as tight.
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Making jokes at Indigenous peoples expense isn't funny. Period. Stop
 
These fictitious Indigenous Canadians were already fictitiously dead when I found them. I swear.

Essentially, I made the rumour so over-the-top that any thinking person would understand it was a joke. A couple people asked the sales office. The forum where I started the rumour is long offline. I forget how I worded it but after the sales office figured it out, they were fine.

Give me a little credit for being able to craft something clever, okay?
 
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Out od such activity some curiosity arises and questions about what is true ... some do not care about whether truth exists or not ... ponder that ...

A stunned coondition often evolves ... of course many do not know the difference ...
 
I was part of two groups that have a reputation for gossip - church and an indigenous community. I was on the board at church and was working in the health centre in the indigenous community. I knew the "origin story" in two situations, one for each group. It was interesting to hear the variations of the story and to see how it evolved. In both cases, I was subject to confidentiality rules. I don't remember if I was able to say the information wasn't correct or whether I had to wait so they could see what the true story was. I've come to be able to find ways to respond discreetly to situations where I'm bound by confidentiality. That has helped me in situations where gossip might happen.

Of course, I've also got skills in gathering information, so that could be useful in other ways. ;)

Living in RV parks is interesting. They're small communities and information can travel quickly. That has mostly been helpful. When dog and hubby were attacked by the aggressive dog in April, word spread quickly and we got a lot of support. We were also able to use the community communications network to get helpful information, including the names of the couple who own the dog.
 
Jesus saw 2 sides to the coin ... one essence of exploding desires and opposite a imploding intelligence preparing to move along ... as you can see as really thin condition! Jesus ducked out ... it is just an unacceptable complexity in the realm of simple reality! You can observe this every day as life makes its passage to get by us ... the physical; portion!

Read: Gail Sheehy! She gets Cloes to the enigma with the concept of "proxemics" ... even some overlapping circles! Aaron out ... flappers?
 
Is there a hint in the nature of life ... that the entire thing is getting less sane? Look closely around the things out there ... not here because I've already been declared a bad spot because of thought patterns ... thinking well is not greatly accepted by non critical functions ... the void extends! Aaron out ...
 
Northwind said:
Living in RV parks is interesting. They're small communities and information can travel quickly. That has mostly been helpful. When dog and hubby were attacked by the aggressive dog in April, word spread quickly and we got a lot of support. We were also able to use the community communications network to get helpful information, including the names of the couple who own the dog.
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That's a great point - that "gossip" is informal communication that can spread rapidly, and sometimes speed is good.
 
Northwind said:
I was part of two groups that have a reputation for gossip - church and an indigenous community. I was on the board at church and was working in the health centre in the indigenous community. I knew the "origin story" in two situations, one for each group. It was interesting to hear the variations of the story and to see how it evolved. In both cases, I was subject to confidentiality rules. I don't remember if I was able to say the information wasn't correct or whether I had to wait so they could see what the true story was. I've come to be able to find ways to respond discreetly to situations where I'm bound by confidentiality. That has helped me in situations where gossip might happen.

Of course, I've also got skills in gathering information, so that could be useful in other ways. ;)

Living in RV parks is interesting. They're small communities and information can travel quickly. That has mostly been helpful. When dog and hubby were attacked by the aggressive dog in April, word spread quickly and we got a lot of support. We were also able to use the community communications network to get helpful information, including the names of the couple who own the dog.
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I wouldn’t call that situation gossip. It involved your dog and your husband (reason for mentioning the dog first? lol I saw someone with a shirt that said “I love my dog and maybe, like, 3 other people” ;):giggle:… but that’s not gossip either!)
 
Must one be delicate about information, data and other intelligence?

It appears or otherwise manifests that some people will gladly dispose of and bad news that bears ominous information and thus the prodigal child that sees dangers that others don't is obviously a dislikable image ...

Thus the need for an all-seeing factor ... like Cosmo ... the view from out there? Herein the difference in objective vs subjective arises and one gets a grip of how some people would rather not see themselves ... so they just go blindly ... or blind!

The shadow doth creep out those that observe ... as items of virtue unseen! Complexity ensues because of what we don't know ...

Someone once said that what we know is miniscule because of inadequate choices about knowledge in general! Thus that also might be overlooked or overseen under the Peter Prin. Thus the half cocked hat ... because of the unknown popping up ... reaction is like a blow to the head, or other dark wind ...

Tread lightly if walking on Aeron ... a winger! At least one physicist declared there is not a speck or particle of truth to items that arrive as wave forms on the edge of the phase change ... vapors appear as madness ensues. Did anyone read the article on what's cool in psychology of marketing intelligence that is beneficial only to economy? A twisted people theory on screwing them out of existence ... whirlwind affairs ... consider when the willful c' ete fini ...

Good that cat's gone ... I'll say when it disposes of itself! It's how these things sink in ...

Cautious positioning of word breaks and punks may assist ... in the voids some people hang it all ... rapture AH!
 
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How do we define if information is good or cool?

Can such variants cause divine splits in BS ... given the total freedom of belief without responsibility to the other connected parts you were unaware of ... given how much we don't know yet some will debate as they feel they are aware of everything?

As we age do we become more aware of such, in the vast beyond, and thus move on into what's unknown? I don't know about that ...

Can false confidence in some matter cause fallacy? There Hei goes again ... up there into undefined domains ... what a bird brain ...

In coming to some cooperation with the introversion-extroversion might we begin to understand where Jae Go Os is shaking ... trying to clear his psyche?

And all this while the pious is telling us there is no soul, mined psyche as they pickled it ... thus preserved except for the spelt portions ... they do make a splash ... causes Misty's ... wet Eire? How to get a handle on water ... use the dippers ... they could use a lift!

Then there are the matters of heavy powers ... consistently hammered ... intoxication syndrome regarding troubling omniscient ... terrible bother!

Then word flows too, albeit dark, mysterious and poorly understood ... way beyond the mortal expression ... Gee Z!

Relax it all recycles in a natural personality development that you'll never catch up with as you may be going on the wrong vector ... the musing of spheres when disturbing wheels on different axis ... described by Sagan in Contact! There is this distant touché ... lignan bonds? Expect branches ... lichening?
 
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Chaotic tongues as the word goes feral ... if not ferrous .. a body flying through the darkness! Impressions ... other than it being dark and knightly ...

Unknown cranks ... such things wind up types of edifices! Arch types ...
 
Kimmio Laughterlove said:
I wouldn’t call that situation gossip. It involved your dog and your husband (reason for mentioning the dog first? lol I saw someone with a shirt that said “I love my dog and maybe, like, 3 other people” ;):giggle:… but that’s not gossip either!)
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I agree. That's not gossip. It was concern for their safety, especially the dog's wellbeing, ;) and response to an incident many found traumatic. It was part of the healing. It's a good reminder of why community is important.
 
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