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hey Bette - it's a challenge to cook for oneself only - I do appreciate that. When my mate is away for a few days, I'm usually scrounging the fridge for leftovers, or doing a bit of take-out. And of course I always a bag of Hard Bite chips when he's away LOL - guilty pleasure. But its always just for a few days at a stretch - so a different situation for sure. The death of your guy impacts in so many unexpected ways.
My dad found this website useful for simple one-person recipes. Recipes actually are pretty good! And there are weekly meal plans if you scroll down the page - takes the daily decision making & planning out it while you establish new routines.
 
Today I am heading back down to my basement workshop for a while. I am painting some beat up occasional tables for the home of a refugee friend. I've got a couple done now & I'm pretty pleased with the outcome! They started as a mix of various woods & stain colours - all now ending up white (or a mix of wood with white tops) which will look really lovely in her gray & white colour scheme. Its satisfying to put in the work & see the change.
 
My diet bothers my wife. I include a lot of fat in my diet, especially margarine. I eat cracker and margarine sandwiches (crackers with my margarine) and use lots of oil with cooking and stuff. I had blood work done about a month ago and my virtual doctor discussed the results with me. His only concern was my high lipid level but my cholesterol and LDLs were low. My blood pressure was a bit high before I donated a kidney and it increased a bit more after that to the point where I needed to go on a low dose blood pressure medication. The first one caused edema so I am on a different one.

What makes my life challenging are the pain related to a back injury, poor healing from the donation, and osteoarthritis and the daily exercises I need to do to control the pain along with the loss of believing my body had not changed since I was fifty. My goal 40 years ago was to live till I was 95 so we could celebrate our 60 anniversary with a goal of canoeing till I was 90 and cycling till 95. There are days I am not eager to live that long, but I need to now if I am going to see our granddaughter graduate from high school.

So, on the days when I feel tired of it all, I remind myself that I can take a break now but I really want more opportunities to make a difference.
 
In my single days, I made meals that I could easily stretch into two or three days. If rice was part of a meal, fried rice with vegetables like diced up radishes added to it made the second meal a bit different. But it was easier before I experienced living as part of a couple. Last week was hard for me.
 
With my husband's current health issues, we need to change the way we cook and eat. It's hard! Less sugar, less carbs, less salt. From what I've heard, it should be a subtle change at first, which I think is the only way to deal with a stubborn husband who insists he doesn't have diabetes, and he didn't have kidney failure! The change in diet is what I need too though: I've been entirely too dependent on carbohydrates all of my life. So, I'll be looking for different recipe ideas that might be interesting, tasty and our new version of healthy.
 
Nancy said:
I've been entirely too dependent on carbohydrates all of my life.
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Isn't that kind of the problem for most Boomers and Gen X'ers (me being actually on the cusp between those two)? For a long time, there was so much focus on fat and sugars that the risks of overdoing carbs other than sugars didn't get talked about as much. So it isn't until the millennials or even Gen Z (i.e. my son) that you have a generation raised with the idea of needing to ease off on carbs in general.
 
BetteTheRed said:
Well, I wish I had not had that fall a few weeks ago. It has forced me into some "adulting", healthwise, and I'm not liking the results. I have high BP (and I now have drugs and a monitor I have to use every day), my blood work was crap - I am pre-diabetic and have high "bad" cholesterol. I'm the spitting image of my Dad, and he had all these problems, but I always blamed most of them on his prednisone dependency (lifetime bad asthmatic). So, now I either co-operate, or disappear, and the latter is an attractive-looking option.
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It can be scary once the medical world become aware of our existence! By the time they have tested out your body it can sound as if you are preparing to croak. You still have much to offer the rest of the world, so please don't check out early.

On that topic - is there a specific form one should fill out to authorise the end of medical treatments?
 
Carolla said:
hey Bette - it's a challenge to cook for oneself only - I do appreciate that. When my mate is away for a few days, I'm usually scrounging the fridge for leftovers, or doing a bit of take-out. And of course I always a bag of Hard Bite chips when he's away LOL - guilty pleasure. But its always just for a few days at a stretch - so a different situation for sure. The death of your guy impacts in so many unexpected ways.
My dad found this website useful for simple one-person recipes. Recipes actually are pretty good! And there are weekly meal plans if you scroll down the page - takes the daily decision making & planning out it while you establish new routines.
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There are still two of us, but even so meals can be a problem. I find that when I am in the mood and have the energy I make lots of something and put the leftovers in the freezer. It doesn't seem much harder to make a big pot of something than a small pot! We always have soups, stews, spaghetti sauces etc. for those days when we want an easy meal. I am also trying to choose healthier snacks - an apple instead of a doughnut - some nuts instead of Ripple Chips etc..
 
All this chat about diet & cooking - making me think I will go make a new page about favourite recipe sites :) There are SO many out there!!

Edit -to add - DONE! New thread now in Pop & Chips forum :-)
 
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Peace
Love
Wanton blessings to you all

And try not to sweat what you believe
Or if you are Right Or Left or In or Out or Eight Wing


You never really had a choice in these things...let them encourage you to be more compassionate towards others...because we are all in the same boat :3

And dont let your heart grow hard
You want it nice and mushy :3
 
Mrs.Anteater said:
Find more info here:

Advance Directives -

What are advance directives? Are they legally binding documents? Information on advance directives specific to Canadian provinces and territories.
eol.law.dal.ca
It depends on your province.
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Many thanks. I have frequently thought I should deal with this aspect of adult life, but kept bogging down in the searches. A relative has a very visible sign on her fridge stating
"Do Not Resuscitate
Do not intubate" and giving her name, Healthcard number and signature with witnesses. She said her Home Care Worker brought it to her and helped her fill it out.
I asked at our Home Care Office and htey didn't seem to know what it was about.
 
KayTheCurler said:
Many thanks. I have frequently thought I should deal with this aspect of adult life, but kept bogging down in the searches. A relative has a very visible sign on her fridge stating
"Do Not Resuscitate
Do not intubate" and giving her name, Healthcard number and signature with witnesses. She said her Home Care Worker brought it to her and helped her fill it out.
I asked at our Home Care Office and htey didn't seem to know what it was about.
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I am not sure if the fridge is the proper place to keep that, I would keep it with healthcard and ID. If she was to be found unconscious in her home, I doubt the paramedics will read what‘s on the fridge.
 
Good morning! Between ways to cook for one person, diet and health, DNR orders, etc., sounds like a lot is going on. Let us continue this discussion around freshly brewed coffee and steeped tea, as well as other hot beverages. All is ready, help yourself.

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Then there are the complicated facts; like how to starve people to death, take their Eire, bleed them. etc.

So many simple ways to put down society and democracy to leave powers standing ... albeit unaware of how to cook, clean or carry out the chit required ... a prickly issue for sure without soul, mind or the denied psyche ) a hidden thing)! Some define this as Sacred, or in old words Gnostic ... and people are not familiar with that word either! Leaves some scratching their head or Agnostic ... Agnes! Is da tue?

Some suggest the blowing of brains ... sometimes a primal function as it happened early in the game of life ... dissemination? It is like, or resembles dissociation ... metaphorically! It just wasn't there ...
 
Mrs.Anteater said:
I am not sure if the fridge is the proper place to keep that, I would keep it with healthcard and ID. If she was to be found unconscious in her home, I doubt the paramedics will read what‘s on the fridge.
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She has a copy on her wallet. I think you can get it on your electronic health record too but don't know if she did.
 
Mrs.Anteater said:
I am not sure if the fridge is the proper place to keep that, I would keep it with healthcard and ID. If she was to be found unconscious in her home, I doubt the paramedics will read what‘s on the fridge.
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In AB, the green Goals of Care document folder that are done with a doctor actually have the instructions to keep them on or near the fridge. Paramedics are trained to look there.
 
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