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BetteTheRed said:
I'd think you'd live with a life partner. My old guy and I have been very good friends with benefits for 22 years, but will never live together.
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I think that if I wasn't married to Seelerman this would be the type of arrangement I would be most comfortable in.
 
Seeler said:
I think that if I wasn't married to Seelerman this would be the type of arrangement I would be most comfortable in.
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Ditto. In fact, raising kids is about the only reason I can see for living together full-time. But I am a person who needs alone time and doesn't really get enough of it.
 
And we are both introverts, so yes. The standing joke is that there isn't a big enough house for the two of us, although both of us live in comparatively small dwellings.
 
Mendalla said:
Ditto. In fact, raising kids is about the only reason I can see for living together full-time. But I am a person who needs alone time and doesn't really get enough of it.
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Really, I guess Yobo and I are no longer raising kids. Our middle son lives with us, and our youngest son visits on the weekends - but they are both now young adults. Even though we're not raising kids, I'm glad we're together. I deeply cherish her love and companionship.
 
Jae said:
I deeply cherish her love and companionship.
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Oddly, I am of the view that one can love and cherish from a distance and some relationships might actually be better off with a bit of distance now and then. I am glad you and Yobo are happy together as you are, but I also respect that others may find other arrangements more satisfying.
 
Mendalla said:
Oddly, I am of the view that one can love and cherish from a distance and some relationships might actually be better off with a bit of distance now and then. I am glad you and Yobo are happy together as you are, but I also respect that others may find other arrangements more satisfying.
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I agree that one can love from a distance - although from all I've seen it's very difficult to do so. Honestly, all of the long-distance relationships that I've seen involving friends and family members have ended in disaster. I'd say that it's even more difficult, if possible at all, to have long-distance companionship (sense of closeness that comes from being with another person).
 
This is not a "long distance" relationship. I talk to him twice, at least, most days, it's a 13-minute drive between our houses, so we see plenty of each other. 22 years is a fair accomplishment for such a relationship I think. Mind you, his parents have been married and lived together for 68 years now, so he has a model of longevity in relationships...
 
I totally get where you're coming from Mendalla. My mate & I need our personal space too & have always done a good number of things quite separately - even vacations & travel from time to time. OTOH I have a colleague who spends spends constant time with her partner when not working - like even going together to get the oil changed in the car o_O For me that would be horrible. For them it works.
 
Jae said:
I agree that one can love from a distance - although from all I've seen it's very difficult to do so. Honestly, all of the long-distance relationships that I've seen involving friends and family members have ended in disaster. I'd say that it's even more difficult, if possible at all, to have long-distance companionship (sense of closeness that comes from being with another person).
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See Bette's response. I am not talking about long distance relationships here (been there, done that, don't plan to do it again). I'm thinking same city but not same residence. Getting together for date nights and maybe sharing a bed on weekends or something but also having lives independent of one another.
 
Mendalla said:
See Bette's response. I am not talking about long distance relationships here (been there, done that, don't plan to do it again). I'm thinking same city but not same residence. Getting together for date nights and maybe sharing a bed on weekends or something but also having lives independent of one another.
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I didn't even have Bette's relationship in mind when I posted regarding long-distance relationships.
 
Ah what a weekend. A dear longtime friend who was 61 passed away and his funeral was Friday. I quickly arranged to go-with work being accommodation. My hockey billets were located in other homes until this evening. I called a friend and neighbour and off I went.

Great funeral, really fitting , it suited him. Sitting hip to hip in the pews as the place overflowed with over 300 people. All the songs were from Voices United and More voices-except the original Amazing Grace.

I dislike going to funerals alone. I really do. and so I asked for a ride from another old friend. I really felt surrounded and loved by the folks at the service . His kids grew up with mine and so they also appreciated me attending.

As for the rest of the weekend I scheduled visits in ( 3 dinners, and one coffee meeting, and church where I used to go) plus time with my host and her boys. Busy but now I am home with a softer heart and knowing I did the right thing to go.

I sometimes miss both the depth and breadth of my friends in that city.
 
Separate residences - not for me. We've done it enough although never in the same city so it was long distance although not far distances. We both like to have our own space at times but that's easy enough in the house. He hangs out in the bedroom we set up as our computer room/medical room whereas I tend to use my laptop while on the couch or bed. He also does some hobby stuff in the basement, and that's where my plants are until I get around to getting them outside.
 
Tabitha - I'm glad that you were able to attend the funeral to say goodbye to one old friend and to reconnect with others. Death happens (more frequently as we get older) but life goes on. Remember the past, live in the present, look forward to the future. Hugs
 
Jae said:
Really, I guess Yobo and I are no longer raising kids. Our middle son lives with us, and our youngest son visits on the weekends - but they are both now young adults. Even though we're not raising kids, I'm glad we're together. I deeply cherish her love and companionship.
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You are still young enough to 'go forth and multiply' Jae. I believe that is a Biblical direction.
 
KayTheCurler said:
You are still young enough to 'go forth and multiply' Jae. I believe that is a Biblical direction.
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Silly joke from my youth:

The ark comes to rest as the flood recedes. Noah opens the ramp and the animals proceed out.

"Go forth and multiply!" he says loudly.

Later, he goes inside to start cleaning up and hears faint sobbing. Looking around the ship, he finds two snakes huddled in a corner.

"Didn't you hear me?" he says, a bit cross, "I said to go forth and multiply."

"But," said one snake after another sob, "We're adders."

:D
 
Additional wives is more a fundamentalist Mormon way of growing a family.

Who wants to break it to Jae how one goes about multiplying biologically?
 
chansen said:
Additional wives is more a fundamentalist Mormon way of growing a family.

Who wants to break it to Jae how one goes about multiplying biologically?
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Don't worry chansen. My Best Man gave me a book as a wedding gift - "Sex for Dummies."
 
I thought you suggested a while back that a WC2 member 'should' do the go forth and multiply thing because it was god's will. Doesn't apply to you maybe ?

(Found these words in pale print at the bottom of the page. Decided to post them.)
 
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