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Nothing left but crumbs and mist ... that foggy memory that ..."my that was a good tart"!
In Nordic antiquity this was nebelung ... like clouds in the hills ... from high senses?
One must biere with such foggy memes ... especially those that would prefer to know nothing!
In Nordic antiquity this was nebelung ... like clouds in the hills ... from high senses?
One must biere with such foggy memes ... especially those that would prefer to know nothing!
He was one of the greatest humans in modern memory, and yet he had his faults. (Just keeping it real lest we forget he was human, too, and not a superhero - I tend to think of him as that, we have made him a god - and it’s uncomfortable to read that he got physically hostile ...that despite the strongest convictions of his heart, non hate, non violence , he faltered, he was not entirely dove-like - yet he still made an enormous positive difference .)
(Every quote is positive and inspirational. I looked up “Did MLK ever get angry? And this came up.)
www.npr.org
“. That's not to say King never just showed irritation or snapped at people. He was, after all, human.
"Yes, he got angry with people he worked with. But the anger was in the context of respect and love," says Jones. He says King's anger was often more like a disappointment that people had misunderstood what his expectations were or weren't meeting them.
Those episodes became more common in the last months of his life, after years of nonstop tension and work, says Garrow.
"There were a number of occasions where King expressed irritation at close friends and staff members," says Garrow, noting that King was apparently depressed, exhausted, and drinking a lot.
King's close companion, Ralph Abernathy, has written that on the day he was assassinated, King argued with a female friend, lost his temper, and knocked her across a hotel room bed. “
...that was a hateful thing to do to his friend; it wasn’t acceptable. And yet, on balance, love was what motivated him to do the work he did, and he didn’t deserve to be assasinated. I guess every once in awhile even the best people can be shitty.
(Every quote is positive and inspirational. I looked up “Did MLK ever get angry? And this came up.)
The Power Of Martin Luther King Jr.'s Anger
Martin Luther King Jr. dealt with anger in both his personal life and life's work. He often tried to turn his anger into constructive action, but he did occasionally struggle with that balance.
www.npr.org
“. That's not to say King never just showed irritation or snapped at people. He was, after all, human.
"Yes, he got angry with people he worked with. But the anger was in the context of respect and love," says Jones. He says King's anger was often more like a disappointment that people had misunderstood what his expectations were or weren't meeting them.
Those episodes became more common in the last months of his life, after years of nonstop tension and work, says Garrow.
"There were a number of occasions where King expressed irritation at close friends and staff members," says Garrow, noting that King was apparently depressed, exhausted, and drinking a lot.
King's close companion, Ralph Abernathy, has written that on the day he was assassinated, King argued with a female friend, lost his temper, and knocked her across a hotel room bed. “
...that was a hateful thing to do to his friend; it wasn’t acceptable. And yet, on balance, love was what motivated him to do the work he did, and he didn’t deserve to be assasinated. I guess every once in awhile even the best people can be shitty.
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Of course MLK was angry. He was fighting for rights that he and other people of colour didn't have. He struggled to make the protests etc in a non-violent way while being pressured to use violence. That doesn't excuse his behaviour. Perhaps though, it is amazing he didn't lash out more often.
True.
So I'm seated in a food court reading my phone,and a guy comes over and says "Are you Kimmio?" I looked up and tried to place who he was and he said "I'm Joe (I'm replacing his real name). We used to work together." In fact we did. When I was 19 we worked together (as equal peers) in retail for about 4 months, and we had a crush on each other, and I think we kissed once
... But he wasn't the going steady settling down type. He was rock n' roll (he even played in a garage band and I went to a party at his and his brother's place - they were kind though - gentlemen, yet a bit badass and happy to be single) had the grunge look - longish messy hair, wore jeans and flannel shirts, and he was quite slim. I had a huge crush that my preppy friends could not understand. Lol. Now he's got short hair, he's all built up with muscle, mature, and handsome! Wow.
We chatted. Turns out he's a social worker. "I work at a shelter babysitting drunks." He said. One of the few places here where people who've been actively using are allowed to stay. But as he spoke further you could tell he likes his job and he understands his clients - that they are human beings who have a different kind of life from the mainstream. He's lived in the UK. Got married on some exotic trip and stayed married "for about 5 minutes after they got back".
I told him a bit about my last 25 yrs. He didn't ask for any contact info so I guess I blew that. Maybe it was obvious I was blushing and nervous rambling a bit.
We both recognize this town is snobby.
I'm happy he recognized me, even while seated. That makes me feel good. To be honest I would not have recognized him. He looks like he walked off the pages of a fireman calendar!
He did mention he worked in construction awhile ago. Maybe he was a roofer! 
So I'm seated in a food court reading my phone,and a guy comes over and says "Are you Kimmio?" I looked up and tried to place who he was and he said "I'm Joe (I'm replacing his real name). We used to work together." In fact we did. When I was 19 we worked together (as equal peers) in retail for about 4 months, and we had a crush on each other, and I think we kissed once
... But he wasn't the going steady settling down type. He was rock n' roll (he even played in a garage band and I went to a party at his and his brother's place - they were kind though - gentlemen, yet a bit badass and happy to be single) had the grunge look - longish messy hair, wore jeans and flannel shirts, and he was quite slim. I had a huge crush that my preppy friends could not understand. Lol. Now he's got short hair, he's all built up with muscle, mature, and handsome! Wow.We chatted. Turns out he's a social worker. "I work at a shelter babysitting drunks." He said. One of the few places here where people who've been actively using are allowed to stay. But as he spoke further you could tell he likes his job and he understands his clients - that they are human beings who have a different kind of life from the mainstream. He's lived in the UK. Got married on some exotic trip and stayed married "for about 5 minutes after they got back".
I told him a bit about my last 25 yrs. He didn't ask for any contact info so I guess I blew that. Maybe it was obvious I was blushing and nervous rambling a bit.
We both recognize this town is snobby.
I'm happy he recognized me, even while seated. That makes me feel good. To be honest I would not have recognized him. He looks like he walked off the pages of a fireman calendar!
He did mention he worked in construction awhile ago. Maybe he was a roofer!
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I imagine that was a bit like what speed dating must be like. Talk about 25 years of personal experience in 10 minutes, then move on.
Nancy
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I mentioned awhile back that my grandson's biological father died of an overdose. Turns out, he had kicked one habit, but maintained another. He had been drinking, somehow his esophagus had ruptured, and he drowned in the bleeding in his sleep. It is truly scary all the different ways we can harm ourselves, and over-drinking is definitely one.
That is sad. How’s your grandson doing with his loss? Or, did you mention that your grandson didn’t know him, but you had known him? I apologize for not remembering the details.
I think this shelter my old friend works at is a place people can go to “detox” and get other help if needed...in some cases it’s court mandated. I told him I have a Social Service worker diploma, but it wasn’t real “social work”, not the really tough stuff. I really just worked with people with disabilities, helping them with paperwork, then I promoted a program to employers, then in direct employment services helping people with resumes and teaching them how to apply for jobs and prepare for interviews. I never worked with really “difficult” clients...well, I did deal with a few unexpected difficult incidents with clients but it wasn’t my program’s “mandate” to get into that level of care - just referrals sometimes. They weren’t allowed to come in intoxicated, even though sometimes they did anyway, now and then. Mostly, they were “high functioning” clients. I explained because he said they were hiring for a couple of positions. He said it was pretty easy, he enjoys his job...they just pretty much hang out and chat with the clients, give them tea or water, or a snack if they want, and show them to bed...really, like babysitting - then get them other help when they sober up, if they want it...maybe they can stay there longer, I’m not sure exactly what their programs are all about in detail. I said I didn’t think I was tough enough for that, and asked if he ever had to deal with violence. He said not really because they’re usually so drunk they’re almost ready to pass out - and with his stature they don’t try to mess with him. I think there must be a male “dorm” and a female dorm. I don’t think I’d want to do that, though, nor do I think i’d be good at it. You have to be a bit thicker skinned than I am. I’m not going to apply so I can work with “Joe” like the good ole days...though it’s a nice thought.
Nancy
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Sounds like your job has been an important one to many people as well, Kimmio. My grandson didn't know his biological father, but, since the death, has been getting to know his grandfather more, and will be meeting his uncle soon. He enjoyed a visit with his grandfather and his grandfather's girl friend last weekend and said to his Mom: I always like it when people really like listening to me. And to us, he said: They love me. He's a real 10 year old, with 10 year old priorities!