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This has been an interesting week for my siblings (2) and I. Our 89 year old father has announced he is leaving his wife of 43 years. We have never been overly fond of her and have nonetheless accepted her. Apparently she has essentially been abusive to him, at least financially and emotionally. Apparently this has been going on for some time, possibly up to ten years. It was one of those surprises that wasn't really a surprise. He has gone to a lawyer which is a great thing. Apparently she's had control of their money through their entire relationship and their house and belongings are in her name. I would love to be a fly on the wall when she discovers she has to share. :cool:

I'm thankful he has some supportive neighbours and friends.
 
Northwind said:
Our 89 year old father has announced he is leaving his wife of 43 years. We have never been overly fond of her and have nonetheless accepted her.
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Sounds like Dad's second wife. They didn't last long, though, and we got on well with number three. Weirdly, when we were looking for longterm care for Dad we discovered that number 2 was in one of the homes we checked out. Needless to say, number three mixed that one as an option.:)
 
Wow, at 89 to make that decision, and after 43 years. I can't imagine. Thinking of you, @Northwind as you try to support him from a distance.

I know of a family member who did leave their second wife at a later age, they had been married around 10? years. There was lots of stuff but, a lot had to do with wishing to leave his assets to his children, not have her have them to leave to her family.
 
I suspect my father is thinking of us when he's making this decision. He's also been talking to a neighbour who is just a bit older than I am and that has given him courage. I'm thankful he has her for support and probably as a surrogate daughter.

I imagine he's been feeling guilt and shame about this relationship for some time. We're glad he's found his backbone and is standing up to her now. He's a smart man who is still quite active. She's been accusing him of having dementia and has been saying he should have died 10 years ago. I think that's been going on for some time. He does not have dementia. That is true gaslighting.
 
There is some homemade baked beans in the crockpot on the side, and cornbread fresh from the oven. A wine container is on the side always full.
Cozy blankets are out and a fire is set to take the dampness out of the air.

Please sit down, put your feetup, and tell us about your day.
 
My day? Did a bit of work on the WC2 upgrade. Raked. Just got off my exercise bike. Oh, and did a bit of work stuff. Only a bit, though. Next up, a quick shower and then help with dinner.
 
Really? You guys must breed them more aggressive. There's plenty of them on the outskirts of town around where I live, but it's really wandering cats that need to worry most.
 
It's been a nice day here ... I baked two loaves of bread this morning, paused to remember those involved in war, & then tidied up some stuff around the house. For the past few days I've been working on a slide show re our youth troup for our church's anniversary dinner which is on the 17th - so I did more scanning & organizing of photos this afternoon. Pictures go back to 1995 ... so it's a lot of fun just to sort through them. I'm up to the year 2000 now, so I have 3 more sections to do, as well as track down photos from "Joseph" production in 1996.

Had a nice long phone chat with my dtr - she's started calling me when she's on her way to work on Sundays. It's nice to keep her company on her journey (hands free phone of course!!) and catch up on news.

I also firmed up details for an Advent small study group I've arranged to do with a few friends - there will be 6 I think. The programme is called Living Nativity - through The Prayer Bench - they have great resources. We'll gather here for supper, then spend an hour or so on the study activities - probably longer knowing the group - pretty talkative!

My 'personal chef' is prepping a nice roast beef dinner, and this evening I'm going to cast on some yarn for Fair Isle mittens - a gift from retirment party - so I better get going on them - the weather is colder day by day! I feel very blessed.
 
I like the Prayer Bench resources. I've used two of them for my group, I think. Yeah. My group cannot be stopped... I'm working through a study of Thomas Berry's The Great Work, and I've accepted that what they say takes 15 minutes takes 3/4 hr...
 
BetteTheRed said:
Really? You guys must breed them more aggressive. There's plenty of them on the outskirts of town around where I live, but it's really wandering cats that need to worry most.
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Few years back, there was a young woman who was hiking killed by coyotes up in the Cape Breton Highlands. That was kind of scary. Usually, they just get cats, but I don’t really dare hiking by myself in coyote prone areas.
 
BetteTheRed said:
Really? You guys must breed them more aggressive. There's plenty of them on the outskirts of town around where I live, but it's really wandering cats that need to worry most.
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You should see the signs in the valley. Basically, enter at dusk or dawn at your own risk, more or less. Coyotes haven't killed anyone around here but there have been some cases of aggression.
 
BetteTheRed said:
I like the Prayer Bench resources. I've used two of them for my group, I think. Yeah. My group cannot be stopped... I'm working through a study of Thomas Berry's The Great Work, and I've accepted that what they say takes 15 minutes takes 3/4 hr...
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We did The Prayer Bench's 'Stroll for your Soul" last spring & everyone seemed to really enjoy it in many different ways. CrazyHeart (I think!) for posting a question about their website here some time ago, which prompted me to take a look at it.
 
BetteTheRed said:
Really? You guys must breed them more aggressive. There's plenty of them on the outskirts of town around where I live, but it's really wandering cats that need to worry most.
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It's unusual, but there's enough of them about and enough children where 1 coyote out of the population every few years becomes a problem. It's not like a pack attacks.
 
At night the howling indicates a lot of them close to us in the abyss of what is unseen ... they know where to recess ... and sometimes pop up on open Dais Light! You may be bit ... by the coyote ugly thing ...
 
We used to see coyotes regularly when we lived on the farm. They loved to eat any carrots that got left behind at harvest time. They assisted the cats in the never ending work of 'keeping the small critturs under control'. We never had any problems caused by them. We didn't have any problems caused by the other wildlife either - sometimes we picked berries at one end of a row while the bear filled up at the other end. Wildlife in and around cities and towns seem to become more aggressive and consider themselves 'entitled'.
 
KayTheCurler said:
We used to see coyotes regularly when we lived on the farm. They loved to eat any carrots that got left behind at harvest time. They assisted the cats in the never ending work of 'keeping the small critturs under control'. We never had any problems caused by them. We didn't have any problems caused by the other wildlife either - sometimes we picked berries at one end of a row while the bear filled up at the other end. Wildlife in and around cities and towns seem to become more aggressive and consider themselves 'entitled'.
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The incidents in Cape Breton was not close to cities. However, it is said that NS coyotes are larger
Coyotes kill teen folk singer in Cape Breton park | Cape Breton Post
 
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