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Sad time around here. Two co-workers have had their sons-both in their 20s die. One was from mouth cancer-he had started treatment and prognosis was good when suddenly he dies.
Other boy was a former soldier. He had been to Afghanistan. Suicide. again it was sudden without many warning signs. He did have PTSD.
My heart goes out to these families and I just want to hold my kids-these ages-just a little bit closer.
 
Tabitha said:
Sad time around here. Two co-workers have had their sons-both in their 20s die. One was from mouth cancer-he had started treatment and prognosis was good when suddenly he dies.
Other boy was a former soldier. He had been to Afghanistan. Suicide. again it was sudden without many warning signs. He did have PTSD.
My heart goes out to these families and I just want to hold my kids-these ages-just a little bit closer.
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How very sad. Hugs to you and yours.
 
Tabitha said:
Sad time around here. Two co-workers have had their sons-both in their 20s die. One was from mouth cancer-he had started treatment and prognosis was good when suddenly he dies.
Other boy was a former soldier. He had been to Afghanistan. Suicide. again it was sudden without many warning signs. He did have PTSD.
My heart goes out to these families and I just want to hold my kids-these ages-just a little bit closer.
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Sorry, sorry, sorry.
 
BetteTheRed said:
Just to interpret this long post, john, one day you held a door open for a person and said person gave you considerable s**t and abuse for it? And it caused you not to wish to extend this sort of courtesy to other persons for a whole year?
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In a nutshell.

Although causing me not to wish doesn't fit. Refuse to extend the courtesy is more to the point. While I was attending that school and using the TTC it was everyone for themselves and I kept to myself.
 
At my dinner table last night was a sikh, a UCCAN member, a catholic, an Ismaili, a hindu, an evangelical christian, and one who i do not know his faith. One person was unable to attend the dinner; however, don't know his faith.
All were Canadians; some born here, some moved here.
The Catholic was born in Canada of india catholic heritage (portuguese influence)
The Ismaili came to canada as a child, with his family as refugees from Congo
The hindu was born in canada, doesn't speak Hindi, but the catholic does.
The person who skipped dinner, was from Hong Kong and regularly goes home to visit family.
The person whose religion I do not know is Brazilian
I am the old white female.
The sikh doesn't wear a turban, but we had a fun conversation about if bald traditional sikh's need to wear a turban.
the evangelical christian came to canada, of Chinese descent, with a british accent, and from hongkong, via australia

I love the diversity of our group, the presumptions which are oft wrong.
 
So as life would have it saw the mother of the soldier today. Her sister had flown over form NZ to be with her. Gave her a hug and we both cried a little. Just had a short visit but it felt good. I was at a quilt show in her town- 2 towns over from me-and the 2 of them were seeking some distraction.
 
revjohn said:
In a nutshell.

Although causing me not to wish doesn't fit. Refuse to extend the courtesy is more to the point. While I was attending that school and using the TTC it was everyone for themselves and I kept to myself.
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Glad I didn't run into you whilst heavily pregnant at the time...
 
Tabitha, I am glad that the Mom saw you and you responded as you would. You are a good soul.
Thinking of those mom's, and other mom's who have lost young adults.

May they have friends like you in their midst
 
Tabitha said:
So as life would have it saw the mother of the soldier today. Her sister had flown over form NZ to be with her. Gave her a hug and we both cried a little. Just had a short visit but it felt good. I was at a quilt show in her town- 2 towns over from me-and the 2 of them were seeking some distraction.
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Of all the different grieving parents we've met in our travels, the parent who lost a teenaged son to suicide hit me the hardest. There are no words in those situations.
 
None. I had kids who found adolescence particularly painful. They made it through (there was yuckiness, hospitals, psychiatrists, cops, pain); some of their friends didn't. My daughter has a tattoo in memory of one of them that didn't. They particularly celebrate the trans friends who "made it".
 
Sorry to hear about the young deaths Tabitha. My sympathy to everyone who knew them and anticipated watching them continue to mature.
 
Finding it hard with all the Vimy Ridge celebrations and posts.
War is hell.
Canada has lost more soldiers to suicide that in action in Afghanistan. (and if you want stats just google it-many articles come up)
 
Many sad hearts today - near and far. Lean into the love around you, and be ready to catch others who might need you. Hugs all.
 
Pinga said:
At my dinner table last night was a sikh, a UCCAN member, a catholic, an Ismaili, a hindu, an evangelical christian, and one who i do not know his faith. One person was unable to attend the dinner; however, don't know his faith.
All were Canadians; some born here, some moved here.
The Catholic was born in Canada of india catholic heritage (portuguese influence)
The Ismaili came to canada as a child, with his family as refugees from Congo
The hindu was born in canada, doesn't speak Hindi, but the catholic does.
The person who skipped dinner, was from Hong Kong and regularly goes home to visit family.
The person whose religion I do not know is Brazilian
I am the old white female.
The sikh doesn't wear a turban, but we had a fun conversation about if bald traditional sikh's need to wear a turban.
the evangelical christian came to canada, of Chinese descent, with a british accent, and from hongkong, via australia

I love the diversity of our group, the presumptions which are oft wrong.
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and THIS is what I love about living in this part of Canada - that our lives are so enriched by the presence of others with different perspectives, heritages, religions. Not all share this wealth.
 
Carolla said:
and THIS is what I love about living in this part of Canada - that our lives are so enriched by the presence of others with different perspectives, heritages, religions. Not all share this wealth.
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This is something I missed when I returned to NB after living in Montreal and in Hamilton/Stoney Creek; the presence of others with different perspectives, heritages, religions, cultures, foods.
NB is so small and so uniform that when we meet someone new we spend the first five minutes figuring out who they are related to, where they grew up and went to school, and what other connections we might have.
Fredericton is getting better - more diverse - but still it would be difficult to find a gathering like Pinga mentioned.
 
Seeler said:
This is something I missed when I returned to NB after living in Montreal and in Hamilton/Stoney Creek; the presence of others with different perspectives, heritages, religions, cultures, foods.
NB is so small and so uniform that when we meet someone new we spend the first five minutes figuring out who they are related to, where they grew up and went to school, and what other connections we might have.
Fredericton is getting better - more diverse - but still it would be difficult to find a gathering like Pinga mentioned.
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Fredericton ... ecclesiastical ... this is a centre of politic ... extremes at least!
 
The closest that I have come is having Thanksgiving Dinner with an Ismaili Muslim family and a Hindu family (my son was friends with their sons) at the Hindu family's house.
 
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