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Oh, Pinga - I've made one of my "stop-overs" here in the room and read of your Dad's deteriorating health......

I'd love to give you a big hug -it's a tough week for being a Pollock, my Canuck cousin..

My prayers and thoughts are very much with you.
 
PilgrimsProgress said:
Oh, Pinga - I've made one of my "stop-overs" here in the room and read of your Dad's deteriorating health......

I'd love to give you a big hug -it's a tough week for being a Pollock, my Canuck cousin..

My prayers and thoughts are very much with you.
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Thanks pilgrims progress. With you as well
 
Pinga said:
OK, folks. The force is strong in this one and he is clawing his way back

We shall see
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Stubborn old people can sure rally and surprise the family and doctors. Hoping for a positive outcome, but if I could I would send strength, smiles and coffee to get you through whatever comes.
 
Waterfall said:
I haven't heard of rhythmic story....? Maybe I know it as another name, not sure. What is it?
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I don't think it is anything official

When our children were small and distraught, I would say "grandma loves <insert name>, grandpa loves ..., mommy loves ... and daddy does too. " and then a long litany of names who love him repeating the rhythm and always ending with mommy and daddy

With my father, I did something similar, repeating his name, but doing the family tree starting with his parents. "And ____had a mother named ___ and a father named ____ and ___'s brother was named ___" and so on all the way to his great grandchildren. He listened. It calmed him

I also did the same about his work and his skills. He is proud of them and he listened and calmed.

Surprisingly old songs and hymns did not. I even was trying "tiny bubbles" by Don ho. , in the garden, all night all day, amazing Grace, Jesus loves me. No success
 
Crazyheart - I think of you often and hope that you are ok. Is Crazydad still at home? (I think you mentioned respite care, but that is temporary)
It must be hard when the person you've loved and shared your life with, your partner and father of your children, doesn't even know you anymore. Who do you talk to? Who is there for you?

I get discouraged - I mourn the things I have lost - but I count my blessings. My doctor doesn't think I will develop any Parkinson's related dementia.That's not to say that I won't have a stroke or something else at some point. That's why I look forward to (and dread) the meeting my kids have planned for 'a talk with you and dad'. I do hope Seelerman will cooperate. He seems to think having plans in place for problems is just inviting them to happen.
 
Sorry to hear of your Dad's decline Pinga. As others have suggested make sure you share the load. How frustrating that he wants you and doesn't realize that you are already there. and to Pilgrim-thanks for letting us accompany you during life's transitions. It has been a full year for you.

and I'm just back from a very full 23 day vacation.
 
I am thankful for OT's, PT's, Geriatric Nurses, Geriatric doctors, Personal support workers, cleaners, medical doctors, nurses, volunteers, fellow patient visitors, ohip, ministers, church friends.

We were listing all the things to be thankful for , incluidng OHIP.

Couldn't have asked for much better care.
 
Yesterday, for a change of view, we were in a large room by the elevator which has a tv, puzzle table, and a piano.
I spotted some music books, and thought they may have hymns. Even better, they were full of songs from the 20's through 40's.
I would read them, or sing if I remembered the tune, and he would take over, with me singing along with him, filling in a missing line, getting us through another verse. My sister would join in.
My father had a wonderful baritone voice, weaker now. A lovely daughter of a patient was hanging outside, then, responded to an invite, and came in to join us. She went to get her mom, who declined, but, she thought maybe another time.
It brought smiles to staff.
 
I'm so happy to hear that some light moments can be found when people are struggling with their health.
 
Had to work hard to find those moments today.

On the plus side, he is much better.
On the downside, he had a night which will complicate plans
 
Glad there is good news along with the tough stuff, Pinga. I have to tell you that I have a new appreciation for your avatar. I worked in my brother-in-law's shoe store today. Now I find myself looking at people's shoes before I look at their faces. And that is after only one day!
 
Great news Pinga. Now perhaps some of your energy can go back to cross fit or walking or whatever you choose to keep this body of your functioning well.
 
There's always light out there @Pinga and I am glad some came into your life. Thinking of you and your Dad tonight.
 
Between the light (white) and dark (black) there are many shades ... some accept 50 as a per cent while to others yet ... there are still Moor including green and vert Egos ... dizzying if you encounter The Whole Truth ... a book of Baldacci on PM i.e. perspective control as if light could be warped! Then Einstein made some statements denied by the religiously well-set!

From then on the gravitas was well bent ... as oceans flowing by Rio ... with a nose out there in the South Atlantic watching for escapees from down under ... subtle thoughts! Can there be such a thing or icons thereof?
 
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