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BetteTheRed said:
It is sounding very like my old hippie is slipping gently into the good night. They can't keep him awake, he doesn't eat, he hasn't been lucid for a few days. A decision will be made, perhaps soon, by his POA, to discontinue dialysis and let him slip away. I will never see him again.
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This is been a few days since I spent much time on the computer as I had a lot of going on in real life. Usually when this happens I skip ahead. Today I decided to read through several pages of posts. I'm glad I did or I would have missed this. Before reading further. I want to say Bette that I care. As I read further, my prayers are with you.
 
Mrs.Anteater said:
How much did you get, Luce?
They were calling for 50 cm and I think we had them.
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Ouch. We've got quite a bit on the ground right now but it built up over 2 or 3 storms, not all at once like this. I see a blower there. I'm getting closer and closer to biting the bullet and buying one. Now that we only have one car, I've got room for it in the garage.
 
I'm not Luce, but I agree with him about snowfall in this area – just enough to cover up the old and give a fresh look to the countryside. It will make the skiers and snowmobilers happy. It is hard to remember the year we've had so little snow – perhaps there will be no Flooding this spring.
 
Seeler said:
I'm not Luce, but I agree with him about snowfall in this area – just enough to cover up the old and give a fresh look to the countryside. It will make the skiers and snowmobilers happy. It is hard to remember the year we've had so little snow – perhaps there will be no Flooding this spring.
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I recall a few years like this ... one since I returned to Fredericton ... one memorial one in 69-70 when I had a 1 hour drive to and from my job. It snowed hard, rained and then froze ... made for some disastrous accidents that got me prepared for dealing with blood and gore ... it was a situation that had to be faced and dealt with! Yet I never gave up the sensitivity ... as some hardened to! It is an awesome psychic jump ...
 
So, I spoke to his sister. She was kind enough to call me. They've taken him off dialysis. He could last a day or a week. My Mom lasted about a week from where he's been for 2-3 days, so I suspect it's quite imminent.

I had asked if there was any chance I could see him once more.. It appears quite doubtful; if by some chance, I am allowed, it will be fully gowned, PPE, 6' away and then I'll have to quarantine for two weeks. And he's been agitated, so they have him palliatively sedated, anyway.

I am mindful that the price of love is grief, and wondering how I'm going to manage at work this week; I'm scheduled for 3 shifts.

And thank you, friends, for your kind words and thoughts for us.
 
Thinking of you Bette. For myself, it might be even harder to be in the room but not be able to touch my loved one - hold a hand, soothe a brow, whisper quiet goodbyes in their ear. A tremendously difficult time and sad for everyone involved. My heart goes out to you.
 
I am sorry Bette. Now that you have had a reasonable contact with his sister maybe she could put a phone to his ear, just so you can say hi, tell him you will miss him, remember a funny incident. It is quite remarkable what people hear, even when they are apparently not aware

its always hard to know if work keeps you occupied or if it’s better to sit and reflect. Each is different. I hope you make a choice that works for you
 
Mendalla said:
Ouch. We've got quite a bit on the ground right now but it built up over 2 or 3 storms, not all at once like this. I see a blower there. I'm getting closer and closer to biting the bullet and buying one. Now that we only have one car, I've got room for it in the garage.
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I have a love-hate relationship with that blower. I really only get it out of the shed if the snow is not manageable with my large snow scoop. Because I use it so little, it is a pain to remember how it works when I then need it. But, today was ok.
 
Currently because we are both retired we shovel the snow as it comes. It might be four times a day. Three or four inches at time. Makes everything much more manageable
 
Lastpointe said:
Currently because we are both retired we shovel the snow as it comes. It might be four times a day. Three or four inches at time. Makes everything much more manageable
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Yeah, we do that sometimes, too. With my f-d up back, though, even that can be problematic if it is wet or, as on Saturday, frozen snow. I want my teenager back but he's now 21 and has a pretty full plate of his own up in Ottawa.
 
BetteTheRed said:
So, I spoke to his sister. She was kind enough to call me. They've taken him off dialysis. He could last a day or a week. My Mom lasted about a week from where he's been for 2-3 days, so I suspect it's quite imminent.

I had asked if there was any chance I could see him once more.. It appears quite doubtful; if by some chance, I am allowed, it will be fully gowned, PPE, 6' away and then I'll have to quarantine for two weeks. And he's been agitated, so they have him palliatively sedated, anyway.

I am mindful that the price of love is grief, and wondering how I'm going to manage at work this week; I'm scheduled for 3 shifts.

And thank you, friends, for your kind words and thoughts for us.
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Bette, feel my arms around you,
drop your head on my shoulder, feel the connection,

Human touch is so very important at times like this, and the plague has robbed us of even this small comfort.
 
Carolla said:
Thinking of you Bette. For myself, it might be even harder to be in the room but not be able to touch my loved one - hold a hand, soothe a brow, whisper quiet goodbyes in their ear. A tremendously difficult time and sad for everyone involved. My heart goes out to you.
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It is hard to lose a loved one suddenly. It is hard to lose a loved one slowly and inevitably. It is just HARD.
My SIL's dad was placed in Palliative Care last week following several years of worsening health. It is HARD.
A friend died on Thursday.
I want this week to be better than last when I had a run of unpleasant news.
 
My son called me today, and patiently listened to me weep. I guess the comfort is that people who love know people who also love. It is just HARD, agreed and hugs for you too, @KayTheCurler ,
 
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