Hugging and Kissing. AND Passing the Peace

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Perhaps unconsciously wired for something he doesn't comprehend?

Mortals comprehend so little as limited gods ...
 
At church my preferred option is a hug and a kiss on one cheek. Same thing for my women friends and close male friends and relatives.

I'm naturally affectionate -but have had to curb my enthusiasm somewhat when it comes to sharing the peace!

The minister at church sent round a message that some folks don't feel comfortable with "touchy feely" types, and that we were either to shake hands or touch our heart and incline our head towards the other.
(Personally I would have called folks like me "warm and affectionate", but there you are.;) )

So now I just ask, and my friends just laugh and hug me.....

But, we are not all the same, so I take note of the body language and the warmth (or lack) of a smile nowadays -and respond in kind.

Different things make us uncomfortable, I feel "odd" shaking hands with either sex.
 
It depends. I do not hug automatically, but if I appreciate someone, and am happy to see them, then I will have a hug. I also will offer a hand to greet someone. I am not a cheek-kisser -- I too find it awkward, never quite got it.

I can't imagine kissing someone on the lips who is not my spouse.

I often kiss my guys on the top of the head....when they are sitting down, give them a peck with an "i love you". or kiss my finger, then pass the kiss on.

Definitely british heritage at play here.
 
Reach out and touch someone ... touché, or tous chi'z ... Hur wit the cheesy smile? :)

May be an icon or a Semite indication of a come down ... thus traxs are laid ... myths recanted?
 
My favourite Peace Passin is this June 30 after 116 years St John Anglican Church was shut secularized (otherwise known as deconcecrated? man does that sound like a d n d spell...)

There were tears. Laughter. Jokes.
It felt very much like a wake.

At the end we all went outside to Peace Passin

I have never seen so many clerics (and no cure light wounds in zight) in 1 place...more than 21

Heres a linkhttp://www.saintjohnladysmith.ca

Click on the blue bar ontop for a link to the pdf of the last service. I got to carry the processional cross to the woman who alwayz carries it for the service.

I was very fortunate to experience this. The congregation are very hospitable.

(still processing the.mention by a Cleric and a congregant aboot me joining the priesthood...)

I try to follow the golden rule w contact...I like hugging but can do handshakes n fist.bumps n eye contact...i find myself saying to people good to meet u during the Peace Passin
 
Visited a church last week.
Thought of this thread as the passing of the peace went on for a long time. It seemed everyone got up to say hello to others. Some hugged, some shook hands, some waved.
I think of my old congregation where the majority of it was with the people on either side, front & back of you.

It seemed that people were happy to be with each other in community.
 
Ours goes on for a long time. Our minister announces that it is okay to move around or just stay in your own quiet space. Our organist usually starts to play something to help reign in the congregation. We didn't always do this....Once, someone said that we were not very welcoming, so we decided to change our ways.
 
Nancy said:
Ours goes on for a long time. Our minister announces that it is okay to move around or just stay in your own quiet space. Our organist usually starts to play something to help reign in the congregation. We didn't always do this....Once, someone said that we were not very welcoming, so we decided to change our ways.
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Passing the Peace does not automatically make you welcoming. For some it is a terrifying thing to run into when new in a place, which would have the reverse effect of welcoming.

THere have been some interesting discussions about the Passing of the Peace in this congregation...
 
I think @GordW would like to find ways to make our passing the peace less chaotic and shorter. He's tried to encourage people to just pass the peace with neighbours, but alas, we all wander through the church. The choir TRIES to be a good role model......not very successfully at times. :cool:

I enjoy the time and mostly it is shaking hands. I am mindful of some of the more fragile hands and hope others are as well. There are some who hug and usually that is okay with me. I'm not generally comfortable with kissing others. I have a couple of friends who will kiss the side of a neck when they are hugging. That's about the most I'm barely comfortable with doing. I won't usually kiss others who aren't my husband. I work in a place where hugs go around on grad day. It is usually a very warm and celebratory hug, so works well. My work (ironically) and church have taught me to hug more since I come from a family that doesn't hug much. We're learning.
 
Our new minister didn't have greeting time his first Sunday (probably just forgot) and I did not miss it. I had never really clued in how disruptive it is to the flow before. May "forget" myself next time I do a service. At the very least, it is getting put at the very beginning to get it out of the way.
 
My mother is very British. I initiate hugs with her as we're saying our goodbyes, strictly to annoy her.
 
Our family did NOT hug. Mother was very british as well, in that regard.

Some of the my siblings have become huggers and hug in their family.
My own family has a mix. Some hug if required but it is not their preference. I get it.
 
Yup - very Brit. I have changed over the years -slowly. Now I often initiate a hug (by asking). Can't imagine kissing someone outside the immediate
family.
 
We ddon't do a formal 'passing of the peace' during the service but when I think of last Sunday's seervice (our Affirming celebration) I don't think anyone would have noticed. There was the usual chatter among those who usually sit near each other before the service - including greeting newcomers or visitors who sat among us. Then smiles and waves, or nods of recognition, as we spotted friends across the sanctuary - perhaps people we hadn't seen for awhile, or people who don't usually attend our congregation, and more as people got up from their seats to move forward for communion - and then hugs among friends after the service.
Not dissruptive, but bonding for a common purpose.
 
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