Displaying affection in public places

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When it is kids, I think they are being deliberately provocative. Show off to those old folks. I know when I was a kid, we would neck anywhere.

But as an adult and when I see adults going at it in public I really wonder what they are thinking.

Actually I often wonder if they are having an affair
 
ChemGal said:
It depends. My favourite PDA that I saw wasn't intended to be quite so public. In a store a women reached out and gave a quick butt squeeze. They were both older and there were no other customers, I don't think she saw me come in. When she turned around she looked quite embarrassed and commented how she didn't know someone was there, he cracked up and I smiled at both.
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I have to confess, I did pinch hubby's butt in a parking lot in the big city a couple of months ago. Jo one was behind us .
 
Mendalla said:
If they are, they are doing it wrong. PDAs in an affair is practically inviting someone to catch you. Of course, sometimes that may be the intent.
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I wonder too if they consider it 'a safe place' - if perhaps they are afraid that if they necked in private they might just go too far. A public place will (I hope) set some limits.
 
I would love to see it Tabitha. I actually enjoy seeing that type of public display of caring and sharing of affection.
 
PDA's are like art.

You may not know much about it but you know what you like.

The only time I find them bothersome is when they don't appear to fit the context. Public hugging and kissing don't bother me. When the couple look more like two trout fighting over the same worm then I would appreciate more decorum.
 
Today I watched an old man helping his wife with her walker at an outdoor church service. To me that was a public display of affection that I enjoyed seeing.
 
I was heckled for a poor PDA. I was dropping my then husband off at work and gave him a quick peck on the cheek good=bye when one of his co-workers said that was a lousy kiss do it right so we did. I am not comfortable with PDA for myself. I'm with most people quick peck on the cheeks even the lips or hand holding and hugging is fine but when you can't tell if it is one or two people get a room.
 
Little peck on the lips is fine. I don't like seeing people necking in public. It's just not good manners...although my husband and I were adults when we met and...anyway...I'm sure there were a couple of times when the public affection lingered a little longer than normal. Not two trout fighting over a worm or anything but a little too drippy for public. If it were others I'd be thinking, please how old are you two? Oh well. Thing is when you first fall in love everything and everyone else just fades into the background and you have moments where what other people think...meh...let em! But people grow out of that. My husband sometimes will give me a light tap-tap on the bottom, not a PDA necessarily, more like "earth to Kimmio, pay attention, the line up is moving forward, it's our turn"- if we're waiting in line somewhere and I am daydreaming. I do space out and get entranced in something else- like maybe looking at a sign or some flowers or thinking about whatever.... Like a tap on the shoulder but a little tap on the bum. I don't think it's rude (and maybe some find it sexist. I certainly would if it wasn't my husband and we weren't a couple for several years!) I think it shows we are a close couple but it's not pawing over each other. Also we hold hands or link arms. He has long legs so that helps me keep up anyway and people probably assume it's for partly that reason anyway- especially if there are steps or something.
 
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My husband and I met when I was in my early 30s and he was (is?) my first boyfriend (and husband :). I have grown accustomed to lip kisses to say hello or goodbye. He is way more affectionate than I am - he wants a kiss each and every time, when I feel it's not always appropriate. We always kiss (quickly) on the lips when I drop him at work. Sometimes I pinch his butt...often to give him encouragement or to let him know that I'm there. I got busted by his Dad last year doing this - so embarrassing!

I'm fine with kisses, the occasional butt grab, holding hands, etc. Noises, tongue and breast grabs are not appropriate.

My church is a huggy church...my Minister hugs everyone leaving (well, most people, she couldn't get to everyone, there wld be a traffic jam), but it's not romantic.
 
Justme said:
My church is a huggy church...my Minister hugs everyone leaving (well, most people, she couldn't get to everyone, there wld be a traffic jam), but it's not romantic.
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As a pulpit supply I have gradually learned when it is appropriate to hug at the door. Most people simply offer a handshake, but maybe one in five or ten will indicate by their body language that they need a hug. Not romantic, but just human contact. I sometimes need a hug as well.
 
You know, the United Church taught me to hug. I never yyuse to hug or felt very uncomfortable doing much less initiating it.But after many meetings, conferences etc, I got over my fear of hugging. But I think I know "when to hug, know when to fold up, know when to run."
 
I'm certainly not socially conservative, but I tend to lean towards the "anything that could be a prelude to sex should stay out of the public eye" sort of approach. Hand holding, hugging, a couple kisses, that's fine. Making out in public just comes across as tacky.

-Omni
 
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