If you're the only one seeing a problem in the discussion, then maybe the problem isn't the discussion.
Maybe. Or maybe there is a problem that only you can see or are willing to identify.
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The divide that exists within the UMC won't heal. The results of the 2019 GC will lead to a split. This debate's two sides affirm different religions.
The key decision taken by the GC centered on its rejection of the middle option. Since the denomination doesn't hold a unified teaching on something as basic as sexual morality, it's no denomination at all.
It can't stand as one body, unified by its faith in Jesus, since 1/2 the denomination upholds orthodox sexuality while the other 1/2 joins the sexual revolution.