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As long as the husband is god ... and no alternates ... allowing gentility!

Male Gods are ruah ... like Sirocco ... something modern Christians don't learn ... thus poly mis understood!
 
I tend to skip 3 for obvious reasons and 4 & 5 may not always be worded in precisely that way, but pretty much hit 1,2,4,5 most days.
 
Jae said:
Came across this list* of 5 things husbands should tell their wives every day...

1. "I love you."
2. "Good morning/Good night."
3. "God is in control."
4. "I need your help."
5. "What do you think?"

Husbands - how faithful are you in telling your wives these things?

Wives - Are these the things you want to hear, or are there others?

*5 Things Husbands Need To Tell Their Wives Every Day | Christian News on Christian Today
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1. Yes, I tell her this at least once a day. Over the phone, by text, using Kakao Talk, and in person. Sometimes in English, sometimes in Korean.
2. Yes, every day, along with, "Welcome home. Would you like some tea."
3. This one, actually, usually I don't. Sometimes when we're going through something rough together.
4. Yes, but as a question, "Can you help me please?" And, in turn, I also ask her, "Can I help you?"
5. I often seek her advice, and before I do anything in ministry I ask for her support.
 
Enter the thinking daemon from backstage ... the Globe Theatre? Purely metaphysical nonsense to the physiological?

Thinking is just out not in vogue ... given the immensity of desires to ride ruah shod over the host called social ... these are to be defeated --- some Caesar!

Social sol ... does that exist in essence ... but shot full of holes like a holy, or ratty ghost of what was?
 
Husbands to wives; wives to husbands; partners to partners What do-

1. I love you. (y)
2. Good morning; good night. (Our usual pattern is that I say it first and he responds. I don't know what would happen if I didn't say it first. Actually this morning I greeted him as he walked into the room with 'Shhh' and I pointed to the humming bird at the window feeder. I don't think either of us said anything more but we stood quietly together until it zipped away.
3. God ... we don't often speak about God although we try to live our lives in gratitude, trust and service.
4. I need your help. I rely on you. Or Can you help me? Or What can I do for you? Or Let's do this together?
5. What do you think? (y)

I would also add another: Thank you.
 
Jae said:
1. Yes, I tell her this at least once a day. Over the phone, by text, using Kakao Talk, and in person. Sometimes in English, sometimes in Korean.
2. Yes, every day, along with, "Welcome home. Would you like some tea."
3. This one, actually, usually I don't. Sometimes when we're going through something rough together.
4. Yes, but as a question, "Can you help me please?" And, in turn, I also ask her, "Can I help you?"
5. I often seek her advice, and before I do anything in ministry I ask for her support.
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Jae.

How very sweet. Lovely.
 
Jae said:
Is there any kind of UU variant? A way to say - "This is outside our control, but things will work out for the best"?
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Depends on the UU. Some might be quite happy to say "God is in control". Others may talk about fate or karma or whatever concept they have. The humanists think they're in control of everything (kidding, but only a little).

For me? I take more the stoic attitude of living in harmony with the processes of existence ("Fate" if you like) and accepting that I am not in control of everything that happens to me. So it is more "what will be shall be", acknowledging my lack of control but not necessarily recognizing anyone else as being in control. The processes of existence are "in control" but they are impersonal. At times, I or other people may be in control to some degree, but they are one factor rather than being in total control.
 
Jae said:
Came across this list* of 5 things husbands should tell their wives every day...
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Hopefully husbands are doing more than simply talking. Hopefully they are in the habit of walking their talk just as frequently as they are yakking about it.

Or, maybe we could put a more positive Christian spin on that and suggest that we should say these things to our wives every day and if we must, say it in words.

Anyway on to the list . . .

Jae said:
1. "I love you."
2. "Good morning/Good night."
3. "God is in control."
4. "I need your help."
5. "What do you think?"
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1. Why would anybody in a loving relationship with anyone (wife included) not say daily, "I love you." Even if your love is so suspect you have to use words before the other would know for certain.

2. This presupposes that you see them first thing in the morning or last thing in the evening. Which may or may not be true. Some kind of greeting during the day is probably thoughtful.

3. Is this because if it isn't repeated enough we might forget? Or is it because chicks dig theological conviction? Again, if you need words go for it.

4. Not every day because every day I do not need her assistance. When I need it I certainly do not hesitate to ask for it and when it is offered I think twice before I decline. Often there is context in which her helping may not be ideal.

5. If I have to ask this it would only be because she has been reluctant to share what she is thinking. That may happen someday, it hasn't happened yet. After 25 years I can read her well enough that I don't need an audiobook version.

Jae said:
Husbands - how faithful are you in telling your wives these things?
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Hopefully less faithful saying these things than I am communicating these things. Again, if you need words use words. If you don't need words don't feel the need to fill silences.

 
As for every day, I disagree. We're not able to talk every day, most days, yes, but not every day. For us at least a day without not talking to each other is fairly rare, but for others the circumstances make it so that days without speaking are more common and that's ok. I do think the ones I agree with should go both ways, not just one

1. We say this often.
2. I really don't know how much we say this to each other. I think 1 subs in a fair bit instead. As for the morning, I often would rather sleep than be spoken to.
3. Is not happening. Chemguy is agnostic. The closest I get from him is probably "Don't worry about it" which was way too often for a while but has disappeared besides being a joke now.
4. Not this wording, but we, but we both ask each other for help.
5. Chemguy would very rarely use this wording, he will just directly ask me something specific. The closest I tend to get to this more commonly is "What are your thoughts" or "What do you want to do" after asking a specific question and just being told to do what I want.
 
revjohn said:
Hopefully husbands are doing more than simply talking. Hopefully they are in the habit of walking their talk just as frequently as they are yakking about it.

Or, maybe we could put a more positive Christian spin on that and suggest that we should say these things to our wives every day and if we must, say it in words.
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revjohn said:
Hopefully less faithful saying these things than I am communicating these things. Again, if you need words use words. If you don't need words don't feel the need to fill silences.
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I think John hits a key point in these two passages. These are things that need to be lived, not just said, and you can be living them without saying them. And, unfortunately, vice versa.
 
Mendalla said:
I think John hits a key point in these two passages. These are things that need to be lived, not just said, and you can be living them without saying them. And, unfortunately, vice versa.
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That can also be misconstrued as being taken for granted.
I remember reading the 5 Love Languages and it does make the point that not every couple requires the same response to being acknowledged. So what works for you may not be what is required for your partner.
 
Honestly, I would not want a partner to tell me " I love you " on a daily basis. I think it would lower his credibility. That can easily turn into the " how are you" people say without really wanting to hear the answer. I would find it rather normal, that one does not feel the love for a partner on a daily basis and at times, might even dislike the other because of present circumstances.

I would, however, like to experience that he gets it when I need him to say it, or even better, experience the fact that he does- which works non verbal as well as verbal.
 
Mendalla said:
I think John hits a key point in these two passages. These are things that need to be lived, not just said, and you can be living them without saying them. And, unfortunately, vice versa.
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Does this fill the void of the Sounds of Silence? Could cause an ego 'n racket ...

Maybe just a weird/wired icon ... linesmen? Be witched atoll ...
 
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