MAID Concerns - How Will Our Politicians Respond?

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It sure seems to be the case. That sucks. With your mobility style, I would expect that you would be treated better. You were disrespected. You are an articulate intelligent woman capable of standing up for yourself. When I hear stories like this I do wonder about those who aren't able to communicate their needs.
It was entirely new territory for me. I'd actually never had a serious injury before and I was in a lot of pain and also dealing with family/ emotional friction for being there - so I wasn't necessarily thinking on my toes so to speak and could've used an advocate myself at that time. Trying to "stay positive" and minimize the struggles I was having so others didn't have to notice or empathize wasn't a good strategy but it seemed like the only one.
 
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It sure does. That's awful that your sister went through that.


Yes and because I have her house as an official address, I sometimes get notices to have my CT or whatever at that hospital. I have zero desire to go there, especially since I have a good relationship with the local hospital here. Why mess with a good thing
 

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Trying to "stay positive" and minimize the struggles I was having so others didn't have to notice or empathize wasn't a good strategy but it seemed like the only one.

Yeah when we do that they can't see how much we're hurting so we won't get proper care because we've minimized our problems. (Yes, I've done that too)
 
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I think there are a lot of wealthy seniors here that must go to the private clinic where my second brace was from. If I remember, there were lots of seniors there and it’s a big, really fancy, outpatient facility with various different services and programs.
 
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Yeah when we do that they can't see how much we're hurting so we won't get proper care because we've minimized our problems. (Yes, I've done that too)

I also understand what you mean. This was a bit different. I was met with disdain for my circumstance and obligated to be positive, though. My mom chewed me out, because she said her bathroom looked like a hospital ward. If she brought me a sandwich when they had lunch, because I struggled to get up and was in pain - she’d say “we’re doing a lot for you. Have you thought about what you could do for us today except lie around?” Otherwise they’d make me eat at the table, and try to sit there with my leg stuck straight out and Like, just cruel. There’s no other way to put it. Staying positive was just so I could be there and be relatively physically safe, and make it to the other side of that situation in the only way I could.
 
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Kimmio, I so wish your parents could have been supportive of you. I wonder if your mom feels guilt over your birth and so takes that out on you. No excuse. They sound horrible and you have done well in your own

over this long discussion about MAID you have convinced me to your position. I was one who thought there would be no slippery slope. Who felt it was a good policy. And now I see what you see, the slippery slope.

my current MP is against and is a conservative. But I cheated and sent a letter objecting to my oldMP who is Liberal and used my old address

and I want to apologize to you for any statements I made in the past where I dismissed your fears. We are in the slippery slope you said we would get to, and it has happened very fast. Justlistened to discussioon about mature Minors. That would be children. And depressed people

and how that balances against suicide prevention......

I am sorry Kimmio. You were right
 
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My stepdad tries to counter my mom's cruelty but sometimes, pretty often actually, he goes along to get along too, to maintain his own peace. It's really mostly her. I think she feels guilt about how she treats me, afterwards, but then her reaction to herself is to double down on being cruel. It's weird. ...I also think she might feel some shame over having a disabled daughter but I shouldn't have to feel it.

I don't really know I'm just surviving whatever it is.
 
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Kimmio, I so wish your parents could have been supportive of you. I wonder if your mom feels guilt over your birth and so takes that out on you. No excuse. They sound horrible and you have done well in your own

over this long discussion about MAID you have convinced me to your position. I was one who thought there would be no slippery slope. Who felt it was a good policy. And now I see what you see, the slippery slope.

my current MP is against and is a conservative. But I cheated and sent a letter objecting to my oldMP who is Liberal and used my old address

and I want to apologize to you for any statements I made in the past where I dismissed your fears. We are in the slippery slope you said we would get to, and it has happened very fast. Justlistened to discussioon about mature Minors. That would be children. And depressed people

and how that balances against suicide prevention......

I am sorry Kimmio. You were right
Thanks for doing that.

Isn't is possible to send a letter to any MP you want to? I mean, they don't have to read it and/ or absorb and/ or address it anyway, and it probably goes through staff - but they might read it.
 
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My MP is NDP and I wasn't too impressed by her response. Well she touted NDP proposals for helping people with disabilities - but the NDP did vote for C7. I told her that I thought that the proposals are good but the NDP and all parties should've addressed the concerns of people with disabilities before voting for C7 not after - and that as an NDP voter, I was disappointed in the NDP support for C7.
 

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@Northwind I think the rehab facility is likely only available if one can't manage at home. I had a full leg cast and was given a quick session on how to go up and down stairs with crutches before I left the hospital after having the cast put on.
 
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@Northwind I think the rehab facility is likely only available if one can't manage at home. I had a full leg cast and was given a quick session on how to go up and down stairs with crutches before I left the hospital after having the cast put on.
I couldn’t manage at home. I mean I did because I had to, but I couldn’t manage in my own place, and my parents are seniors. They are/ were pretty healthy but they couldn’t lift and transfer me if needed. But they could call an ambulance if necessary, so I was a bit safer there, physically. Especially for the first few weeks. Obviously nobody showed me how to use crutches to climb stairs. That would‘ve been impossible. I did put weight on my leg too much though. Partly because they wouldnt let me rest, and partly because I was so stressed - I would ask for a ride down the street to the mall (they have courtesy wheelchairs) . It’s about a three minute drive and I wasn’t asking to go “right now” but just sometime that day, in the next few hours - it was too much to ask them to make time for that - and sometimes that’d be a not today, just because...I “had to“ leave the house when I shouldn’t have. So it was partly my own fault my leg started to heal funny...when my leg was midway healed I “ran away” a few times to the bus stop at the end of the street, and went to the mall by myself, dragging my leg, with my walker. I didn’t run away, I’m half kidding. I would leave for a couple of hours for my sanity. I told them where I was going. They didn’t stop me. It wasn’t wise, physically, though. It was my stubborn as a muleness.

I’ve been that way all my life, the old, “Don’t tell me I cant do it!” But sometimes I can’t do it, or it would be wiser to have help if I can. Especially into my 40s. And the physical/ mobility problems associated with aging are accelerated for me. I’m wearing myself out.
 
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@Northwind I think the rehab facility is likely only available if one can't manage at home. I had a full leg cast and was given a quick session on how to go up and down stairs with crutches before I left the hospital after having the cast put on.

From what I've seen, I agree that @Kimmio Laughterlove would not be able to manage at home, at least initially.
 

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I had declined some, since you met me. I needed the walker for balance, to go any distance, not just a cane.

And even if you were where you were when I met you, I can see you needing even a few days in rehab or hospital. I have a friend who has the same type of CP that you do. Her gait is very similar, and she's about your age. She is a bit more mobile than you. I imagine there would be a good argument for rehab for her if she'd had the break you experienced.

I have this silly view that people should be able to have the opportunity to function at their optimal level no matter what that is. Sadly, our system doesn't always support that. To bring this back to the topic, that would include good palliative care so any decision to chose MAID is absolutely done because the person is making that choice freely.
 
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And even if you were where you were when I met you, I can see you needing even a few days in rehab or hospital. I have a friend who has the same type of CP that you do. Her gait is very similar, and she's about your age. She is a bit more mobile than you. I imagine there would be a good argument for rehab for her if she'd had the break you experienced.

I have this silly view that people should be able to have the opportunity to function at their optimal level no matter what that is. Sadly, our system doesn't always support that. To bring this back to the topic, that would include good palliative care so any decision to chose MAID is absolutely done because the person is making that choice freely.
I have a bad feeling that we’re only going to see more cuts to palliative care, with MAiD expansion. Which is nothing that palliative care experts didn’t warn about, either.
 
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