crazyheart
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Morley was in respite once a month. It was for me to get a rest and I didn't visit during this week
We paid - but I forget how much. reasonable.
We paid - but I forget how much. reasonable.
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What is, "respite?"
BetteTheRed
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Oh, you have much to "look forward" to, Jae. Your mother is still alive and competent, your Dad is gone, I understand, and you didn't need to 'help'. I helped, a lot, through both of my parents' final (long) illnesses to death, and also accompanied my ex-stepmother-in-law through her beloved spouse's journey through Dementia to the end. I watched, with a great deal of pain, but also a great happiness that he understood the responsibilities of elder-care, my son come home from out west and help care for his Dad during his last few months.
Respite is a period where a client enters a home (either retirement, or LTC, although rarely the latter because they're full to the rafters) for a short period in order to give "respite" to the caregiver, who often suffer a lot from sleeplessness if nothing else.
Respite is a period where a client enters a home (either retirement, or LTC, although rarely the latter because they're full to the rafters) for a short period in order to give "respite" to the caregiver, who often suffer a lot from sleeplessness if nothing else.
Carolla
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Hey Kimmio - sorry to hear that your landlord is going the airbnb route for the summer months. It's that sort of thing that causes the complaints about airbnb cutting into availability of more permanent rental housing. It's becoming a problem in too many communities.
Yeah - lots of ppl do here. That is why they built the place, really - it is not a needed extra layer of frustration that's for sure. I don't want to focus on that quite yet, though. One day at a time!
BetteTheRed
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Absolutely, but would love to see a rule that airbnb have to commit to year-round rentals, none of this part-of-the year rental crap. If that's the way your landlords would like to swing, then then they should have to rely on airbnb year round. It might convince a few landlords of the reliability of long term renters. I dislike systems that work against working-class renters.
It is like a break ... use your imagination and take a respite ... with time out ... the unknown may speak to you about differences ... between present visions and far out hallucinations in time indicating bad news ... thus often denied by those that don't believe in alternates to nothing but Good Nous? That satyr of course as in the mythical Lilith ... a spin off of the indeterminate article "an" ... anna ... and other word forms forgotten at present by the bulk of collective minds ... the social psyche as dibelivable about how the wool is over the wide open eyes ... of fear and anger ...
In short to be concise ... give it a rest ... look, listen ... taste the gift of intellect ... bittersweet? Resembles raw chocolate ... some sweetening of the dark one may be required ... that Sur ... rising form of J' Zeus ... gentile now ... sapiens ...
Lastpointe
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I am not sure if the costs and I expect it varies. For my mom, ten years ago now, we paid $3500 monthly which included her meals. That is not an insignificant cost, especially if you are also paying for your home or apartment but you just can’t live there because if a short term illness
paradox3
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Bachelor apartments in retirement homes can still be had in Toronto for less than 4000 per month. Including meals, activity programming and an emergency response system. One bedroom apartments are higher.
You can spend lots more for fancier digs and a preferred location.
Wherever you go, personal care is not included. If your family member needs medication administration, escorting to meals, help with a shower, etc. the costs will keep climbing. Very expensive indeed.
And yes - respite in a RH is a paid stay ... not free and not cheap. Consider it a full service, all inclusive vacation
Might be a nice place for a spiritual retreat.
Is it not free in... subway!
I am making headway with getting a home nurse to come and help me with regular baths. Part of the issue is that I live at one address and am staying at another and that is two different administrative districts - so there has been a lot of pass-the-buck, and phone tag. But someone I was talking to said someone could come out in the next couple of days. She said they are extremely booked this week (this district has a lot of seniors too, and so they are stretched thin - this whole city does, but particularly this district) ...hopefully Saturday.
Another issue was the questionnaire I answered over the phone. I ended up speaking with an advocate at a disability resource centre who walked me through who to call back and what to say. Apparently...and this burns me...the questionnaire given by the community nurses who are referred by the hospital has a bunch of trick questions on it, like, for example "Can you make yourself a sandwich?"...well, let's see. I have CP and a broken knee but before the broken knee that was no problem...so I don't know what I said. It depends if I was thinking of myself sitting down with the bread and fixings in front of me...at that point, the day after the break, I had not attempted to get stuff out of the fridge or anything. I might, but I might also fall and injure myself some more because I am down one limb and my pre-existing balance and coordination problems helped cause this broken knee. She wanted yes or no answers. The nurses don't make sandwiches anyway, it's not their job description, so that's sneaky ... But from obscure questions they assess how independent someone is. This is before I fell in the bathroom and peed myself. That changes everything.
So the advocate told me to call them back, be firm, keep being firm, and tell them I need a nurse to come once or twice a week, like a broken record...remind them that the hospital should've set this up before I was released. I have done that and I am getting somewhere.
It's the same story for PWDs in all parts of the system. Trick questions included. Because of the medical model the bureaucrats can't get their heads around what it means to be independent but need assistance to be more independent. You are always walking the line, so to speak, between proving dependence or independence. That needs to change.
So the advocate told me to call them back, be firm, keep being firm, and tell them I need a nurse to come once or twice a week, like a broken record...remind them that the hospital should've set this up before I was released. I have done that and I am getting somewhere.
It's the same story for PWDs in all parts of the system. Trick questions included. Because of the medical model the bureaucrats can't get their heads around what it means to be independent but need assistance to be more independent. You are always walking the line, so to speak, between proving dependence or independence. That needs to change.
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