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KayTheCurler said:
Almost anything that happens in his life that he doesn't like he blames on discrimination
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That is what becomes a barrier in the end isn't it. It is a way to give up all or most responsibility. I would not want to be that powerless.

By saying that, I absolutely acknowledge the very real barriers for people with disabilities. Attitude makes a huge difference.
 
KayTheCurler said:
Wow Kimmio - you sound so much like one of my adult kids. He is obviously indigenous. Almost anything that happens in his life that he doesn't like he blames on discrimination. Simultaneously he refuses to see that others could use the discrimination card about the 60's Scoop Cash he is anticipating receiving!
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Well, that's different altogether. Can't say I blame him. If you are a visible minority there is no limit to the ways, large and small, people are discriminated against.
You'll all be happy to know the lawyer didn't think my complaint was strong enough to make a case. If she had said I won't rent to mature people that would be a case...but she did offer to have me call her and potentially view the place.
Try to understand when the vacancy rate is next to zero it's a landlord's market and they can very much make their decisions based on stereotypes in their minds - and it does put people with disabilities at a disadvantage. Also...Housing is a right. You don't have to be a super special perfect person to deserve a decent roof over your head. You don't have to be a certain age or a non alcoholic (I don't even drink). You just have to respect the property and pay the rent on time. That is why references and proof of income (as long as it's legal and sufficient it can be disability income - they cannot turn someone
away for that either) is the way to go.


The good news is that I got her card to call her with questions anytime, and a new list of housing resources.





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Kimmio Laughterlove said:
If you are a visible minority there is no limit to the ways, large and small, people are discriminated against.
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Yes. And sometimes s**t happens just because we're human.

One of the reasons we sold our house last year instead of renting it out was because of potential problems such as the landlord you contacted expressed. It may be a right to have housing. I do not have to risk my investment and safety to ensure you have housing. Sorry.
 
Northwind said:
Yes. And sometimes s**t happens just because we're human.

One of the reasons we sold our house last year instead of renting it out was because of potential problems such as the landlord you contacted expressed. It may be a right to have housing. I do not have to risk my investment and safety to ensure you have housing. Sorry.
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I wouldn't disrespect your property. I would pay my rent.
 
I thought mentioning I'm in my 40s would indicate I'm responsible. But in this town there's a huge discrepancy between upper middle class and low income (poor). People in their 40s aren't supposed to be looking for affordable housing, I guess.
 
I read ads by subletters in their 20s looking for roommates (what I am avoiding - there are college party houses and high end condo sublets and not much in between. who state up front that they like to have parties. It's amazing they get rented to. But they do.
 
Northwind said:
I get that. Not all s**t that happens though is because of the disability.
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It's a barrier in perception before people even meet me. I've tried disclosing and not disclosing. At times I have felt like an applicant from outer space it's so alien and uncomfortable for them to pretend they don't have any issues. I can feel people watch me walk and I know they are thinking "liability". It sucks.
 
This is how I am venting personally here. It's not how I present myself in person. I don't whine. I do the best I can. In fact there are situations worse than this I let go. Plenty of them.
 
I read the post with the email a few times, after reading the post right after before reading more. I was lost about the problem.

I got a very different feeling from the tone. I got hey, I've been burned before, it sounds like you're not someone who is likely to give me the same problems, if my assumption is right, give me a call. If I'm off on my first impression and you are a heavy drug user, don't bother wasting either of our time.

I've had a similar experience with people renting next door - meet them, talked to them cheerfully, mentioned how horrible the last people were (every door in the house had to be replaced, carpets replaced, etc). I hope my tone conveyed to them that hey, I'm happy to have new neighbours where we can get along. Not oh, more renters you're probably going to suck like the last group living here.
 
Kimmio Laughterlove said:
Maybe it’s somewhat natural for people, if they’ve been burned a number of times in life, to start off on the defensive. I think we both did.
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Maybe it's worth checking out? You've vented out what you saw as discrimination here so hopefully some of the negativity is burned off. Now you can see if that's the tone that was intended or not.
 
ChemGal said:
Maybe it's worth checking out? You've vented out what you saw as discrimination here so hopefully some of the negativity is burned off. Now you can see if that's the tone that was intended or not.
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Yes and no. I still feel anxious and like life is trying to beat me down and i’m not getting younger, it’s not getting easier. So, I often get up feeling like “today’s probably going to suck and I hate this town”. Been feeling like I don’t belong here. Really. I deliberately skipped my high school reunion on Friday night. Hanging out at a golf club with the high school crew who grew up hanging out at their parents’ golf club, got married at said golf club and are now like vips at the same golf club, was literally the last thing I wanted to do in a billion years, I feel like such crap...and that is just not and never will be my scene. I’m worse than George Kostanza. Nightmare.

In Vancouver maybe I belong - that’s actually home - but not here. So there’s me half not wanting to commit to a lease here anyway...hoping I can save up enough to go back to the mainland - maybe stay at an air bnb for a month until I get a permanent place there - and start again on my own there.




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Once upon a time, like way back in the early 90s, then change accelerated ...rent wasn’t so much about turning a profit, except for the larger property management companies. People actually “thought” more fairly. The only people renting half-ass suites thrown together with scrapyard junk (the sort with mismatched carpets and fixtures and linoleum and cheap veneer walls, that they paid nothing for and charge a heap to rent it) - and run down apartments, and trying to turn a profit - were called rightfully called slumlords. Now they’re called pretty typical. One of my first places was with a roommate I found through the classifieds. She was 5-10 years older than me and her dad helped her buy her first house. She split her mortgage and bills into equal portions with her two tenant/ roommates (me and another person). Every sublet I was in - maybe 2 others - same. People looking to have someone split the rent and utilities, not to profit. There were more people renting suites looking for mortgage helpers than looking to make money. It’s different now. My friend’s mom has had the same tenant in their downstairs - fully self contained built in the 80s - suite, for years at the same rent price. She’s not interested in a profit..she knows she could get more. She wants the space used, the rent helps with bills and home repairs...and they have someone they get along with who will bring in the mail while they’re away. If her tenant were to move anytime soon I would like to live there. I don’t think she is planning to though, according to my friend.





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After reading this thread I re read the email.

I really don’t get the issue. You contacted her and mentioned your issues with stairs and bus routes.


I thought her reply was no big deal. I think you read too much into it, she wasn’t discriminating, perhaps being too verbal but.......

Tenants are a huge problem. Finding the right one is a nightmare. I honestly don’t know how people manage.

I would have simply replied. Yes a furnished place is fine, my furniture is in storage, I would love to take a look and Meet you
 
Finding the right landlord is a nightmare. There are fewer to choose from.

Next...

We’ve moved on. Change of topic...

If I could I would live in one of the virtual homes I designed on my app.
 
I don't want to cause any disturbance or keep with the subject, but just to add my two cents.
I hear you @Kimmio Laughterlove
When I moved to Winnipeg, I had a good sum of Canadian dollars in my account, I had English-speaking references (including former landlords) in Brazil, I even had a work-from-home job in Brazil paying a decent salary even when converted do $CAN. I applied for lots of apartments and just one approved me, the others saying I lacked a "Canadian experience". That pissed me off so much!
I ended up having to live in a messy apartment complex downtown for a while.
Renting a place is a financial and legal relationship regulated by law. Many landlords, however, treat it like if they were doing some kind of favor or charity.
Being a landlord of commercial properties myself in Brazil, I can say I never looked to whether the person was like this or like that, but to the things the law say I need in order to have my properties and my receivables protected: good credit, a lawful deposit, a healthy business history, and good tenant insurance against third parties, damages, and default.
 
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