This year I have been working hard to let go of my love for traditions. My adult young have decided to take over the season and I'm feeling a bit 'lost'. At no point will my kids and grands be at my house. One is making the big meal at their home and hosting the travelling sibling. I was outvoted on the gift giving arrangements, so, for me, that is some lost fun (apparently only one of my adult kids gets pleasure from giving and receiving gifts around the family!). For hubby and I the decision was to continue having the foods that say Christmas to us - cake, pudding with Bird's Custard, sausage rolls, mince pies, lefsa etc., but over several days. Preparation time is much reduced and way less money will be spent. The little guy will be getting a gift from us, and the school aged grands will get a cheque (I did this for the older ones and want to be 'fair'.) The whole thing feels weird but there are obviously some advantages too. I'll practise keeping my mouth shut and not compare my personal 'wants' with the reality. The bottom line is - we will see most of our kids and grands over the season, and that will be great..