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Being autistic is way cool if you aren't being tormented by everyone. It's a really tough childhood if you're undiagnosed. It's hell.
I agree with @chansen about the common notion that autism is a disability and I disagree. I am convinced that if supported correctly from an early age, autism can actually be a kind of superpower.
Someone very close to me has the same diagnosis as I do. It's a hoot. We interrupt each other if we're bored with what that other is saying . I'm a tad more diplomatic than he is but it's refreshing...of course we are very attentive if it's important.
 
JayneWonders said:
Yet, you don't know

. So you can take it up on yourself to be a snark or to be kind or just ignore.
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When I was in a depression awhile ago, I remember a woman that I knew told me, no matter what you're going through, just smile towards others, and they will still like you.
One of the worst pieces of advice I'd ever heard.
I would have preferred to hear, "how can I help"? (only if they meant it.)
 
JayneWonders said:
Yet, you don't know

. So you can take it up on yourself to be a snark or to be kind or just ignore.
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Why have you decided to take up being shitty with me as a hobby again?

I'm the guy who takes carts back for people. I try to read situations, though I admit I'm not the best at it. I don't do this all the time, but when it's obvious that the person just doesn't care, yes, I'll say something.

You can continue trying to paint me as a terrible person on this forum, but as I look at yesterday's thread, it hasn't worked. You tried to get the original council to tell me I was a horrible human being and I admit I let that get to me for years. But I did nothing wrong and it's now the position of the site that I did nothing wrong, so maybe you're trying to compensate for that? It's not going to work, and I'm not going to let you intimidate me again. Go pick on someone who is in a weakened state.
 
Sorry, what?
I responded to the conversation re carts.

Please don't read any more into it.

If it isn't clear to you, let me say, I don't think you are a horrible person.
 
ninj said:
Being autistic is way cool if you aren't being tormented by everyone. It's a really tough childhood if you're undiagnosed. It's hell.
I agree with @chansen about the common notion that autism is a disability and I disagree. I am convinced that if supported correctly from an early age, autism can actually be a kind of superpower.
Someone very close to me has the same diagnosis as I do. It's a hoot. We interrupt each other if we're bored with what that other is saying . I'm a tad more diplomatic than he is but it's refreshing...of course we are very attentive if it's important.
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Autism is a spectrum, yes?
Given that there are some people who are highly impacted and are disabled.
Disabled status can provide supports

Not all people though are disabled.

The hyper focus can be a superpower especially if it can be harnessed

Interesting link:
www.brightfuturesny.com

Is Autism Considered a Disability?

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JayneWonders said:
Sorry, what?
I responded to the conversation re carts.

Please don't read any more into it.
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Really?

You started with this:
JayneWonders said:
One can presume that based on your past history you know the situation and call them on it or you can choose to be kind and just put the cart away.

Or, if something other than a cart you can seek first to understand
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I didn't want to get into it with you so I let it slide.

Then you came with this:
JayneWonders said:
Yet, you don't know

. So you can take it up on yourself to be a snark or to be kind or just ignore.
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As if my default is not to be kind.


JayneWonders said:
If it isn't clear to you, let me say, I don't think you are a horrible person.
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It's literally not clear to me. As I've said, it will take a while (plus one specific act) for me to trust you and the council again. I'm still taking screenshots, ffs. You call on my history, but you've reported me to the mods for doing the right thing in the past. You've consistently interpreted my words in the most negative possible light. Sometimes, you've even convinced others. You confidently asked, "Shall we take a poll?" when I think we all know by now how that poll would have gone. You've talked down to me on numerous occasions, dismissed my grievance at every opportunity, and acted as a roadblock to any reconciliation that didn't involve me simply taking all the blame.

And now you're already coming at *me* with "based on your past history?"

Please.
 
If one does not agree with the brute forces ... one may be desperately humbled and the powers cannot observe the relationship ... because power corrupts --- some stupid peer! As such thus good sense goes down ... subtle eh!

Thus things out of sight and vanishing points on the horizon ... the wealthy cannot possible see this as they float above the fictitious normal ...

It seems to be imbedded in the BS of powers ... thus schist flies ... and they poorly understand ... life unravels!
 
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chansen said:
Really?

You started with this:

I didn't want to get into it with you so I let it slide.

Then you came with this:

As if my default is not to be kind.



It's literally not clear to me. As I've said, it will take a while (plus one specific act) for me to trust you and the council again. I'm still taking screenshots, ffs. You call on my history, but you've reported me to the mods for doing the right thing in the past. You've consistently interpreted my words in the most negative possible light. Sometimes, you've even convinced others. You confidently asked, "Shall we take a poll?" when I think we all know by now how that poll would have gone. You've talked down to me on numerous occasions, dismissed my grievance at every opportunity, and acted as a roadblock to any reconciliation that didn't involve me simply taking all the blame.
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chansen said:
And now you're already coming at *me* with "based on your past history?"

Please.
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Sigh

I meant the history that you might have with people deserting carts. Nothing more

I get it. If I wish to engage I will need to be 100% clear.

I am sorry that I wrote it so that you could feel it was a slag.
 
All the powers can do is sigh when the peers go into alternate domains ... there's a tho't out side the casket ...

Call me ... "WHAT"! Ishmael ... is that fiery feed? Only if you understand "ish"! It is Aramaic ... something modern's would like to trash ... prodigal?

There that's gone ... Jesus! did you see that go? Gadz ues ...
 
In a world of chaos can one thread carefully when unravelling? So the idea of winding down on Sabbath Morning ... is sewn in the bias ... we remain screwed in an odd twist ... ribbon age? Bloody ...
 
Autism is a huge category. When our son was diagnosed with Aspergers like symptoms, I realized I had some of the same symptoms. Jayne Wonders comments are right on. Knowing about a spectrum relevant to oneself can be helpful. But being somewhere on a spectrum does not define us
 
And one has to be careful not to tag all communication/social cue challenges as being on the spectrum. I have some serious difficulties in this department, but ascribe them to a combination of generational trauma passed on by parents who lived through the Great Depression and WW2, and first gen immigration/cultural shock, which, although it doesn't have the language barriers of other cultures, certainly exists. When I go to England, I feel like I am going home, culturally.
 
So it seems the concensus here is that "Everyone is a little autistic."
 
jimkenney12 said:
Autism is a huge category. When our son was diagnosed with Aspergers like symptoms, I realized I had some of the same symptoms. Jayne Wonders comments are right on. Knowing about a spectrum relevant to oneself can be helpful. But being somewhere on a spectrum does not define us
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Spectrum: It is a very fuzzy determination ... but do not say that to the determined types!
 
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