It's becoming a problem for my mom and step dad. She's 71 he's 82 - healthy but set in his ways more than ever.
Age Difference in Couples
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Tabitha
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My aunt became a widow and married her neighbour. a 10+ age difference. She was quite fit in her mid-70s. He broke his back playing tennis with her on their honeymoon. Once recovered from that he began to have other health and then memory issues, then full fledged dementia and passed on 3 years ago. Aunt is in her mid-80s and doing fine.
First, you were paying for your daughter and her boyfriend of six months to go on a trip with you?! Wow! My parents would’ve never done that for a boyfriend or even my husband. I’ve never heard of anyone doing that, even if the family got along. Very generous of you. I haven’t been on a family trip bought and paid for, besides a grandparent’s funeral, since I was about 16. And only to Alberta, anyway. I think the last family trip was a road trip...ok, actually, I remember, I was in my early 20’s for the last family trip - to Alberta, in the car with my step dad, and my mother, and it never happened again, which is good....I think I got dropped off at my grandma’s near the end of the trip, and flew back to Vancouver a few days later. Second, did you still buy him a ticket, and did you still let him go with you, once you found out he’d lied about his age? Why did he lie, first, and why did he keep up the lie for 6 months? Sounds like a potentially untrustworthy guy right off the bat. Immature, too, for 38...to lie like that.
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ChemGal
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For me there would be no 'eventually'. If I'm throwing a milestone birthday party for someone they better be the age they told me!
Lastpointe
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I agree. And so did she but she had thought they were really a couple. It was shocking to ‘w he had lied and so had all his friends
And Kimmio I guess I worded that oddly. They had been together about a year or so when the trip happened. Yes he came. It was awkward. He apologized but the die was cast and it didn’t last long
We seem to do a lot of trips with friends. Best friends. Girl friends and boy friends..... skiing, south,
And you are right. I never did that with my parents. But then I guess I didn’t travel with my parents after 16 or so. Our kids are now 31 and 28 and we love to include them if we can
And Kimmio I guess I worded that oddly. They had been together about a year or so when the trip happened. Yes he came. It was awkward. He apologized but the die was cast and it didn’t last long
We seem to do a lot of trips with friends. Best friends. Girl friends and boy friends..... skiing, south,
And you are right. I never did that with my parents. But then I guess I didn’t travel with my parents after 16 or so. Our kids are now 31 and 28 and we love to include them if we can
BetteTheRed
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Yes, my ex-lover of many years is a decade older than I. For a long time it didn't really matter much. Suddenly at 59 and 69, and him in very poor health, it mattered a great deal. There's a couple in our congregation in a similar sort of dilemma at 75 and 85. Where it gets really difficult is when one needs long term care and the other doesn't.
Off topic but just a quick reply - a friend came with us on a short road trip or two when my parents were still together - when I was a little kid, before age 8. That was, I think, because I was an only child then. It was as much to my parents benefit as mine.
As for relationships - I feel like I am in my 30s mentally and I don't think that'll change - I am who I am - so I'd say 6 or 7 years in either direction wouldn't make a difference right now - though I will "age" faster, physically.
Teehee. So, I got some new shoes the other day. They were nearly a third their original price, at Winners.
Today, a hipster/ skater/ tattoo enthusiast in her 20's, maybe early 30s, working in a store said, "I love your shoes. Those are like my dream shoes!" I told her I got them at Winners, she said, "You killed it! Oh my god. I'm going there tomorrow!"
Then, an hour or so later, a guy walks by me on the way out of Starbucks and says, "Cool shoes!" I said, "Thanks. You're the second person today." He said, "I noticed them when I was going in (to Starbucks). They're really cool. They're different." Turns his head and waves a little before getting into his car. He was about 35. Well dressed, shades on, getting into a shiny sports car. Haha! It gave me a little pep in my step. Or maybe it's really just these shoes. Either way...I'm good for awhile.
Today, a hipster/ skater/ tattoo enthusiast in her 20's, maybe early 30s, working in a store said, "I love your shoes. Those are like my dream shoes!" I told her I got them at Winners, she said, "You killed it! Oh my god. I'm going there tomorrow!"
Then, an hour or so later, a guy walks by me on the way out of Starbucks and says, "Cool shoes!" I said, "Thanks. You're the second person today." He said, "I noticed them when I was going in (to Starbucks). They're really cool. They're different." Turns his head and waves a little before getting into his car. He was about 35. Well dressed, shades on, getting into a shiny sports car. Haha! It gave me a little pep in my step. Or maybe it's really just these shoes. Either way...I'm good for awhile.
Ha! Well I didn't buy them for the name or to be hip (even though my gut feeling was that they're pretty hip anyway), or to get compliments from nice looking younger men (and women), I got them because they unzip at the back, and I can slide my feet in and pull up the zipper with the tab - and they are super comfortable and have really sturdy soles. ...meh...they don't need to know that. 
I feel a bit younger now. That's good. I didn't lie about my age - they didn't ask!
I feel a bit younger now. That's good. I didn't lie about my age - they didn't ask!
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ninj
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Like paratrooper boots,Ha! Well I didn't buy them for the name or to be hip (even though my gut feeling was that they're pretty hip anyway), or to get compliments from nice looking younger men (and women), I got them because they unzip at the back, and I can slide my feet in and pull up the zipper with the tab - and they are super comfortable and have really sturdy soles. ...meh...they don't need to know that.
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Just keep going....
My mother was 16 years younger than my dad. He was her Highschool teacher, when she was pregnant after starting dating after graduation at 18, they had to marry. Within 9 years, she had 4 kids. Marrying that early and having kids affected her not growing up emotionally. My dad ended up with dementia, which seemed to start with him being paranoid about my mother having other men. We always thought that they were just doing everything together because they wanted to, but in fact, he was afraid that she was seeing other men and had to accompany her everywhere. He ended up with a stroke at 78 and my mom cared for him at home for 10 month. When he died, she was 62. She has had chronic pain since in her 30 ties, but continued to travel with travel agencies who organized bus tours through Europe for people using wheelchairs and scooters. She came to Canada each year for 7 years, until she was no longer able to.
Back in her time, once pregnant, there weren’t too many choices. She even had to convert to Catholicism, because dads parents were extremely Catholic.
Back in her time, once pregnant, there weren’t too many choices. She even had to convert to Catholicism, because dads parents were extremely Catholic.
It does illustrate a sense of cattiness in some souls wishing to know an alternate much better than some in the community would "desire to be so!" --- Commander Picot!
Tis a parallel to the Romeo/Juliet and other pared down commitments to ongoing competition in-house! Some would say Frankie and Johnny agenda? May be a hommolitic experience ...
Quoting Robbie Burns-
“O wad some Pow’r the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us.”
Others say that we appear to be about the same age and that the 9 year difference is not apparent. We both have the same grey hair. Even though Namana is 9 years older and now has dementia, she is the more vibrant one. However it is now becoming more difficult for her to hide her dementia.
“O wad some Pow’r the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us.”
Others say that we appear to be about the same age and that the 9 year difference is not apparent. We both have the same grey hair. Even though Namana is 9 years older and now has dementia, she is the more vibrant one. However it is now becoming more difficult for her to hide her dementia.
Mendalla
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It's one of those words that was derogatory, or at least complimentary in a way that many/most women didn't find complimentary (treating them as sexual objects), in origin, but that some of those targeted have chosen to embrace. Similar to MILF (Mother I'd Like to ... I'll leave the "F" to your imagination).
Lastpointe
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Blast from the past with that Parachute Club video. Wow. In 35 years has the Toronto sky line ever changed