Something Said to You in Your Youth that Had a Powerful Lasting Impact Positively or Negatively

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BetteTheRed said:
Haven't carried the pain, just the words.

I am a person with a lot of allergies; seems I'm always itchy somewhere.
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Based on your recent posts your allergies probably stem in part from psychological/emotional issues. Perhaps you've carried at least some of the pain?
 
Aufscherin said:
It might have been dear, that the love was a one way street, at least the respect was, no?
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In that moment, yes. Since he's dead, I can't poll him to find out if I ever said anything that wounded. We were together for 24.5 years, so it wasn't a deal-breaker. More a point that one can forgive without forgetting.
 
Aufscherin said:
your allergies probably stem in part from psychological/emotional issues.
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Nah, inherited from my poor father. Many decades ago, I worked for an immunologist at the U of T. His lab kids were always in my office getting blood samples because I had such abundant T or B cells.
 
BetteTheRed said:
Haven't carried the pain, just the words.
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That's great to hear, that there's no pain.
BetteTheRed said:
Another funny thing about words is words carried from person to person. I am a person with a lot of allergies; seems I'm always itchy somewhere. The words I most remember my mother saying to me were "quit scratching". My big guy, who never met my mother, says "quit scratching" a dozen times a day...and it's like I hear both voices at once.
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Yes, it makes sense that you would. Things are a bit different for me, though. During our 17 years together, my Yobo has said tons of stuff that I'd never heard before
 
BetteTheRed said:
Nah, inherited from my poor father. Many decades ago, I worked for an immunologist at the U of T. His lab kids were always in my office getting blood samples because I had such abundant T or B cells.
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I have been known to be wrong before.................*not really
 
Don't speak or read it, except via Google Translate and early duoLingo. My partner is first Gen German, with German as his first language. Always right is a familiar attitude to me. And he often is. Especially because I'm a mouthy English person and English major prone to spouting words before considering them thoroughly.
 
I was the first child in both families. My mother had four younger sisters. I am quite smart and was good looking without being a jerk so I was treated well for quite a few years. I probably paid more attention to how people treated other people since I was raised to have a lot of confidence in myself. There have been negatives and positives over the years and both helped. About grade 7, one friend called me a snob. It helped me be more aware of how I treated other people.

I believe I was more influenced by how people treated people including myself and others.

I generally had a low profile outside of academics.
 
Always right in the beginning (initiation) but very prone to noting Eire all about that allows one to grow extensively ... counter to those stuck somewhere that's difficult to take.

Then there are the word(s) that can fly .... crossing time and space with info ... those stuck somewhere do not like to hear of alien things ... they claim to be emotional but it is mostly a negative affiliation ... so they just don't get it!

Resembles chairing a cemetery ... makes one alert to the soma and the sona ... sound that one out! The put into operation the fight-flight syndrome ... it may be synchronously tuned in alternate nature ... sublime when the twin is up there? Copies the up-down syndrome ...

Humans for the majority are not satisfied until someone is beat down ... thus Whack a Mole ... they do pop up ... elsewhere ... may explain that innate gnawing in the abstract (darker, creative position of the part of psyche opposing absolute power).

May also explain Dark Art / White Coat syndrome and why some pious folk are so fixated ... like a cat up the proverbial tree .. proverbs extends massively from a few initial words!

Really messes up some perspective on what some accept as primal authority ... it is a diabolical situation, even enigmatic as the shadow of night ... and the question of where the light went (on dah Laam silly; it's on dah loose, if lucid and not blinded by excitability ... ) that may fringe on irrational and explain certain feral traits. Consider buffalo falls and essences rising ... feasting anaerobes in biological infestations ... if human you have to get there early ... be prepared when you see them dash off the edge ... it is murderous!

Yet! Life is like that ... look how folk turn to opioids in receptors, blockers and just medium ... vegetative matter! Consider apiaciae ... portion of the fennel family ... roots do develop ... thus a need to make ah'olein the dirt (mire, or myra)? Word can be serious or alternately it can amuse essences stuck definitely!

Kind 've out there as an OBI perspective ... appreciate the lumps and bumps ... imagine that ... form a picture? Pooh no graphics ... just the shadow of what went ... virtue?

Corruption predominates ... because we do not wish to know Beta ... second wind? Where 'd ah pho' Que go? ... out there ...
 
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At the tender age of 6 I started Grade 1…no kindergarten at that time. It was my first experience interacting with others without the influence of parents and little sister. Apparently I became a leader. But my best friend labeled me ‘bossy’. From that moment on I tried hard not to be bossy. It was probably the first time I’d been criticized so it really stuck with me!
 
Nancy said:
At the tender age of 6 I started Grade 1…no kindergarten at that time. It was my first experience interacting with others without the influence of parents and little sister. Apparently I became a leader. But my best friend labeled me ‘bossy’. From that moment on I tried hard not to be bossy. It was probably the first time I’d been criticized so it really stuck with me!
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Imagine a story of porgy and bess evolving as a myth? One has to ask about Je and its evolution from GI (dark light) and shady goings on down the lane ... corruption being everywhere ... everything (God) was knocked off the ancient course when there were no distractions ... he was cowed by the experience and left like those at Lands End ... a UK extremity meant for curiosity (like where does this lead to) .. out there the Spanish Fleet took flight ... consider the leading conditions ... fight for power! It continues because we do not learn well ... augured, or bored in nothing ... essentially engraved ... nowhere Toby found ...

Toby is an interesting word to research ... derived from the old to by as God is good ... take that in and chew it over ... mandible aide ... cook it a bit first!
 
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KayTheCurler said:
As a Brit I find this puzzling. I've met many humourless souls who were raised in that place, and plenty of people who seemed to have no pride in themselves or anything else.
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It was a generic post and was a somewhat clumsy attempt to ingratiate myself here after the bossman came after me because of a post, my avatar, and my username. I am not always sincere. :cool:
 
KayTheCurler said:
As a Brit I find this puzzling. I've met many humourless souls who were raised in that place, and plenty of people who seemed to have no pride in themselves or anything else.
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And I was merely describing myself as first gen English vs first gen German. I'm sure there are Germans who don't believe that they are right every time, but I've yet to meet one...
 
Aufscherin said:
It was a generic post and was a somewhat clumsy attempt to ingratiate myself here after the bossman came after me because of a post, my avatar, and my username. I am not always sincere. :cool:
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We have some very *ahem* interesting group dynamics around here. All groups have their stuff and we are no different. It's quite fascinating actually.
 
Aufscherin said:
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An exchange of posts, really, but snarling at me after I asked you and chansen to tone it down or move out of that thread was the final straw. I actually agree with a lot of what you post (e.g. your feelings about Trump quite mirror mine) and generally welcome your presence, but that was getting way out of line.
 
Mendalla said:
An exchange of posts, really, but snarling at me after I asked you and chansen to tone it down or move out of that thread was the final straw. I actually agree with a lot of what you post (e.g. your feelings about Trump quite mirror mine) and generally welcome your presence, but that was getting way out of line.
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Did I not warn you, did I try and mask the way I am? Did I not hint to you that you would regret having me here? Save the lecture for someone that will benefit from it. As long as I am here you can expect me to "snarl" at you again. You know where the ban button is right? If you don't/won't use it, then you will have no one to blame but yourself. I will be nice enough to your members, but ~YOU~ I do not like as I indicated to you privtely.:mad:
 
Aufscherin said:
Did I not warn you, did I try and mask the way I am? Did I not hint to you that you would regret having me here? Save the lecture for someone that will benefit from it. As long as I am here you can expect me to "snarl" at you again. You know where the ban button is right? If you don't/won't use it, then you will have no one to blame but yourself. I will be nice enough to your members, but ~YOU~ I do not like as I indicated to you privtely.:mad:
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I regret you feel this way about Mendalla. He works hard at helping this forum be a place for invigorating discussions.
 
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