Something Said to You in Your Youth that Had a Powerful Lasting Impact Positively or Negatively

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(1) On my first day of high school (grade 10), I attended Mr. Carstairs' geography class. Mr. Carstairs was a great bear of a red-headed man with a large handle-bar mustache.
He walked into class with a fierce facial expression and slammed his desk loudly with his yardstick, making us all jump in our seats. He then sarcastically informed us:
'"You're not in Junior High any more and no one here is going to take care of you! In fact, when it comes right down to it, I DON"T CARE IF YOU LIVE OR DIE!"
Out of shock, I promptly dropped that class, replacing it with Larin, the right decision for me, as it turned out.

His comment gained added impact when my classmate Roger was shortly thereafter beaten to death in a drive-in parking lot and, it seemed, was quickly forgotten by his classmates.
Mr. Carstairs' blunt comment made me realize that if i died in the near future, life would go on for most people I knew as if I never existed! And that insight negatively impacted my youthful sense of solidarity with my community. If I was going to make something of myself, I needed to be independent of the attitudes of others towards me and take full responsibility for my life experience.

I later heard that Mr. Carstairs was an excellent teacher. On that first day, he was just trying to cement classroom discipline.
 
Yes ... many of us find you difficult sense! But yet, an interesting etude when in etude of alien essences ... a critical study! Many never consider looking at the entire thing especially if the fault is in the alternate ... it can be distorting and wrecking the Pi's ... dissociative?

Fear and paranoia ... can one face it or just wring out ... tous la monde ... its warped because of star desires for avarice ... no sharing allowed in nations of power ... a large take is at hand! Jae dig out your collection plate ... milk it for all yah got ...
 
I wish I had been invisible at times. Might have had a better youth. I can't really think of anything someone said to me that was especially influential. Some negative things that probably dragged me down (some of which shouldn't have thinking back on them), but nothing especially positive or inspiring. I got most of that from reading.
 
(2) Mrs. Cronmiller was my English teacher in 7th grade. As a 12 year-old, I had trouble understanding Shakespeare's archaic language and sought clarification by asking her a lot of questions. I knew she thought Shespeare was profound and I wanted a better idea of what it meant to plumb the depths of Shakespeare's mind. I was the only student who asked questjons in class and didn't realize how exasperating she found my quest to seek clarification through my questions. Oddly, I still recall some of those Shakespearan passages word for word; e. g "Bu look, the morn in russet mantle clad walks o-er the dew of yon high eastward hill." Finally, Mrs. Conmiller couldn't contain her disgust: "I used to think you asked these questions to be a pain in the a**. But now I realize you actually don't understand! I can't believe it!" You just don't understand!" And she cackled maniacally.

As an insecure 12-year-old who ust wanted to do well on my English exams, I suddenly sensed her immaturity. And I realized that my frequent questions were the key to my academic success. That insult was a pivolal moment in my understand of how i learn effectively.
 
Is an unseen spirit like a deficient omniscience, being that science is an observed study? Et 'ude ... yah mist et ...
 
Jae said:
No one ever talked to me in high school. Never. I was invisible
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Very sad and not fair. But you are relevant and I will listen to what you have to say. You are no longer invisible.

To the topic, in my childhood I was put down a lot by my so called parents. but was very popular in both elementary and high school. Now am in my 20's and while the negative things said to me still affect my mindset, the positive things said about me since and in my present days have almost negated all of that. I am supremely confident these days and like myself almost to the point of narcissism...almost to the point. I do have borders and check myself at the ego door from time to time.

So many different things were said both negative and positive, that I cannot write about them all. But now it is me that says these things to others. I have learnt from all of this, the absolute power of the spoken word and do not use it lightly.
 
BetteTheRed said:
That you have right. Many years ago, a man that I loved said something very cruel to me, and I never forgot it. He's been dead for years, but I've never forgotten those words.
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It might have been dear, that the love was a one way street, at least the respect was, no?
 
Aufscherin said:
Very sad and not fair. But you are relevant and I will listen to what you have to say. You are no longer invisible.
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Thank you for saying that. Right friendly if you. Welcome to Wondercafe2. I was popular in elementary school, but then was bussed to an advancement middle school for the intellectually gifted. Following that, I had to rejoin everyone I'd been away from for 4 years in the regular highschool. By the time I rejoined them, cliques had formed and so forth and I spent my highschool years as a nonentity. That was decades ago, though, and in real life people do now tend to listen to me as a teacher and pastor. I'm now grateful for my years being invisible because they helped shape me into the pastor who I am today.
Aufscherin said:
To the topic, in my childhood I was put down a lot by my so called parents. but was very popular in both elementary and high school. Now am in my 20's and while the negative things said to me still affect my mindset, the positive things said about me since and in my present days have almost negated all of that. I am supremely confident these days and like myself almost to the point of narcissism...almost to the point. I do have borders and check myself at the ego door from time to time.
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I'm sorry to hear that negative things were said to you, but it's great to hear that you're doing well now.
Aufscherin said:
So many different things were said both negative and positive, that I cannot write about them all. But now it is me that says these things to others. I have learnt from all of this, the absolute power of the spoken word and do not use it lightly.
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I hope that you'll primarily speak positive words. They're so desperately needed in our world today
 
BetteTheRed said:
That you have right. Many years ago, a man that I loved said something very cruel to me, and I never forgot it. He's been dead for years, but I've never forgotten those words.
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Am sorry to hear about the pain you've carried. Words can leave lasting scars, especially when they come from someone we love
 
Jae said:
I hope that you'll primarily speak positive words. They're so desperately needed in our world today
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I am nice to nice people, I am nasty to nasty people. This seems fair and equitable to me. If I am Mother Teresa or Charles Manson, is entirely up to the person who interacts with me. I'll be either your best friend and supporter, or I will be your worst nightmare. It is never me that makes that call...it is them.
Look at my avatar, pretty woman right? But...... she is wearing the uniform of the S.S. Which of these two contradictions do you want? How I'm treated always determines the outcome. :cool:
 
Haven't carried the pain, just the words.

Another funny thing about words is words carried from person to person. I am a person with a lot of allergies; seems I'm always itchy somewhere. The words I most remember my mother saying to me were "quit scratching". My big guy, who never met my mother, says "quit scratching" a dozen times a day...and it's like I hear both voices at once.
 
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