Shyness and WC2

[paradox3]

So are you a shy person? Maybe an introvert? We have discussed personality types in the past but it's been a while.

Are more introverted people drawn to forums like WC2 do you think?

Actually I tend to think introversion / extroversion is on a scale. I don't think we are simply one or the other.

I used to be much more shy in my younger years. Participating in WC and WC2 has had an impact I believe. Brought me out of my shell a bit.

 

[Luce NDs]

What do shell personalities indicate of the innate?

Hard to predict! Results in quantum ... another field of divination ...

 

[Redbaron]

I tend toward introversion. Find it easier to write than to speak. Partly, I think, that's because before I post, I can edit, reword, revise, etc. before I hit 'post.' If need be, I can cancel it altogether.
Stuff like that can't be done in speaking....

 

[paradox3]

Real life conversation and discussing things here are quite different. E-mail, texting and telephone conversation are somewhat different as well.

I joined Reddit for awhile and then deleted my account. I still lurk a little bit.

My Facebook account was deleted by me and I don't even look at it anymore. Have never used Twitter or Instagram.

 

[Luce NDs]

I tend toward introversion. Find it easier to write than to speak. Partly, I think, that's because before I post, I can edit, reword, revise, etc. before I hit 'post.' If need be, I can cancel it altogether.
Stuff like that can't be done in speaking....

Sounds almost Lucid ... a critter of clarity that some heavy handed folks would discourage ... as smoking hot!

 

[Mendalla]

I am perfectly fine on a podium speaking to a group, but I can be quite shy in spontaneous one-to-one or small groups. Part of it is the need, as @Redbaron discusses, to edit and revise to get my words just right. Part of it is just a lingering fear that I'll make a misstep and give someone a bad impression of me.

I am also an introvert but that's a bit of a different thing. I am much more comfortable alone or in an intimate, familiar group than in a large crowd. As I have read from others, being in a social setting can be draining, as can the kind of interactions I describe above. The need to keep composing and revising my words in my head seems to take a lot of energy or something.

Online, I can take it at more of my own pace. I am not face-to-face with anyone and it is easy to walk back or revise my thoughts. And even online, I find forums like WC2, or social media posting like on FB, more my style than interactive chat where, again, I am having to compose and edit on the fly rather than taking my time.

 

[Luce NDs]

On line is a sense o anonymity ... a problem for the alter extremes wishing to capture avarice ( a sense of control freak-ism)!

Thus some of us regress on the road to subtlety and relief ... sometimes groovy ... penetrating into unknowns?

 

[Luce NDs]

I tend to recess ... when sizing up enigmas ... but then I have addressed crowds of over 200 in 8 hour sessions on mysterious topics that the populace found of curiosity.

It is difficult to address non curious authorities ... they tend to tyranny! Such evaluations of the populace upsets a faction ...

Verges on psyche sickness ... mental stresses? Hard to stretch a hard mined ...

 

[paradox3]

@Mendalla
I can do an okay job of speaking from a podium or reading scripture if I am prepared. Speaking in public off the cuff is not within my comfort zone.

 

[Mendalla]

@Mendalla
I can do an okay job of speaking from a podium or reading scripture if I am prepared. Speaking in public off the cuff is not within my comfort zone.

I don't use a prepared text, just notes, but I tend to practice in my head a lot so I go in knowing what to say even if I leave myself lots of room to improvise.

 

[paradox3]

I don't use a prepared text, just notes, but I tend to practice in my head a lot so I go in knowing what to say even if I leave myself lots of room to improvise.

Using notes is definitely better than reading a prepared text. I do something in between. I write my speech out in sentences but try to improvise a bit as I go and speak more naturally. I can fall back on reading it if I need to.

I did a lot of group work in my last job and some of it involved teaching concepts to adults. That I could do spontaneously.

Speeches are different. The last speech/.reflection I gave was at my mom's memorial service. At my dad's funeral I read the scripture lesson.

 

[Northwind]

I was always called shy as a kid. I read "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Taking" by Susan Cain. This was a book I wish had been around when I was 14. I don't think I'm shy, I'm an introvert. If I'm in a setting where I'm comfortable you'll probably think I'm an extrovert. I can speak in front of that group when I'm comfortable with the topics/information/group. I can carry on conversations etc. I was the kid who needed to get the feel of the room or situation before interacting. I'm more confident now and I rarely put myself in spots that are unnecessarily comfortable. My high school is having a belated 50th anniversary. I'm not in a hurry to be in that kind of group. It will be huge.

Some groups can energize me. I learned that this is common with introverts. If the conversation has substance and is interesting we can be energized. Still, I can only take so much. I prefer smaller groups and a few good friends. A knitting group is great because we have a common love which is an icebreaker.

I hate being the centre of attention. This was validated when they held a retirement gathering for me and another woman. I was thankful to share the spotlight and to not have to make a speech there.

Like others, I prefer written communication quite often. I've often wondered about the percentage of Introverts in this type of forum. I'm not surprised so far.

 

[Northwind]

I did a lot of group work in my last job and some of it involved teaching concepts to adults. That I could do spontaneously.

I'm a lot more comfortable speaking spontaneously because of my job/profession. I know the skills I learned helped in other areas.

 

[paradox3]

In my management career I hated chairing staff meetings. I could get a small group together to problem solve or the like without batting an eye. But the formal department wide meeting gave me the willies.

Not even sure why I held it because the staff worked in very diverse areas and often had little in common. Maybe it was required by those accreditation standards of the day. Not sure

 

[paradox3]

Once I had a manager who took over a group of us when the hospital reorganized. On her first meeting with us she told us we needed to know that she is socially shy.

You wouldn't have known this looking at her but it was so helpful to be aware of it.

I might otherwise have perceived her as unfriendly.

 

[Northwind]

Once I had a manager who took over a group of us when the hospital reorganized. On her first meeting with us she told us we needed to know that she is socially shy.

I attended a workshop once where the facilitator said he was shy. He did not look shy at all. He said you can feel shy and not have to act shy. I really liked that concept. I bumped into him at the coat rack afterwards. He was friendly then scurried off like a shy person.

 

[paradox3]

Facilitating a workshop is a role that can be performed with a little different persona than ones usual self. My job was the same I think.

 

[paradox3]

Does anyone think Jesus was an introvert? He had the common introvert need to withdraw from the crowds at times.

Luke's gospel (especially) often has Him praying at such moments

 

[Mendalla]

Does anyone think Jesus was an introvert? He had the common introvert need to withdraw from the crowds at times.

Also, keeping mostly to a small band of close friends/followers and only appearing in crowds when his ministry required it (e.g. the cleansing of the temple, the entry into Jerusalem, and some of the big sermons). Yeah, I have that sense about him for sure.

 

[Mendalla]

In my management career I hated chairing staff meetings. I could get a small group together to problem solve or the like without batting an eye. But the formal department wide meeting gave me the willies.

Not even sure why I held it because the staff worked in very diverse areas and often had little in common. Maybe it was required by those accreditation standards of the day. Not sure

I have weekly staff meetings but it kind of became necessary as the department grew, esp. now that we kind of have two teams in the group, one focused on developing changes to our corporate systems and one doing support, security, networking, etc. I am generally meeting averse, but this is a fairly close-knit group so doesn't bother me. The meeting generally consists of me, my team members, the Director of Finance (my boss), and one other manager who contributes to IT projects. The VP/GM has a standing invite but rarely attends.