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I talked to my friends in Germany today. One of them figured out way later, that he has had Covid in April. He said he was really sick / flu like, but even once he had recovered he had ongoing fatigue, stomach and bowel problems, saw even a specialist for his stomach and had a scope done
. Now, he is obese and has type 1 diabetes, is in his 50 ties. When he went to his regular check up for his eyes, he was told that he must have had covid, because of the many small bleeds in his eyes ( he had noticed he had some more problems reading on the computer). He said he was told that those symptoms had been seen in other covid patients. He had the antibody test done and voila, it confirmed that suspicion. His wife has had really bad cold symptoms for 24 hours, then was feeling well again. They were lucky.
 
ChemGal said:
I'm sure you talk closely to your husband as I do. Many people ordering the to go options are doing so for a household.
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And many people are breaking their groups and partying. Especially people in younger age groups. Maybe you should contact the province to express your concerns. Dr Bonnie Henry and Adrian Dix would be the people you would contact.
 
Northwind said:
And many people are breaking their groups and partying. Especially people in younger age groups. Maybe you should contact the province to express your concerns. Dr Bonnie Henry and Adrian Dix would be the people you would contact.
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I think most of the people who are partying like that aren't getting NYE packages from a restaurant, it's much cheaper to get it from a liquor store.

It all gets combined with the not doing a lockdown. It's about supporting people. Make it easy to do the fun things that are safe.

On social media, I saw many people who were really excited for the NYE packages. Some of them included a gift basket, nicely wrapped with things from local businesses and included a bottle of alcohol. The people I saw doing this were excited to have a fun celebration at home.

With places that have been hit hard this past year really working to do things within the community in a safe way, I don't understand why take away from that. Even worse, do it so that these places don't really have the necessary time to come up with solutions that prevent further losses, instead many scramble just to keep people happy.
 
What do you want me to say @ChemGal? This was a one time ruling. Liquor sales are back on. It's done. It's over. No amount of saying how unfair it is will change history.
 
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What do you want me to say @ChemGal? This was a one time ruling. Liquor sales are back on. It's done. It's over. No amount of saying how unfair it is will change history.
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You seem to be in support, not sure why. I think both Dr. Hinshaw and Dr. Henry have done great jobs through this, but I think they have also both made some mistakes/bad calls as well, this is one.
 
At no time can one satisfy all folks ---God, on our autonomous nature! Very independent until thinking partly social and civil; balanced!

Reminds me of sibling responsibility factor if you so choose ...
 
Some folks just hoot about raves ... thus raving insanity ... has its own logistical scheme that can be an alternative conspiracy! There the plot initiates somewhere ... ephemeral white state ... Blanche'd!

Be careful when you see things starting to boil ... as in that play about passions railroading folks on the street unnamed in some situations! The goings on and doings there are questionable to southern Eve Angels dressed in darker fabrics!

Could a stage action brighten up a folk turned off to gentile affections and virtue? The overly emotional might call this Sophia Morons ...
 
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so my sil asked me the other day - in a sweet and chirpy tone - to consider the possibility that she and her daughter could look for a new place for me and pack for me so her daughter could move in for free and her daughter's friend could pay the $900 a month I'm currently paying. "No pressure just something to think over in the next few days." (To which my anxiety skyrocketed, because between the lines was that they wanted this ideally to happen fast). Her 20 yr old daughter recently moved back home, upstairs with her mom and mom's husband - my stepbrother - and the 20 yr old daughter doesn't like it. Therefore the idea was proposed to me - I whose rent that I pay diligently which has been going directly to her daughters for the past year - that I might like to be uprooted instead. To which, I said no and had a minor reflex of a hissy fit before I collected myself and wrote an email stating that normally if I were renting a suite I'd be entitled to two months written notice - second month free in lieu of reimbursement, 12 months rent reimbursed if the suite is not used in good faith for the purpose of accommodating a close relative (ie. parent, child, or spouse are the only family that meet that criteria) for a full six months after the date of notice. I cited the official regulations webpage. That seemed to quiet things down.

And they still don't have the hang of this covid respect for the rules thing so my stepdad bought me a heppa filter machine (not a dyson a cheaper version Honeywell) - because there is terrible ventilation here. It's a dusty old basement suite and only two windows open a slight crack. Plus other issues...

I basically indicated that no, I'm not moving just because they don't want to respect some basic rules and follow boundaries I'm entitled to them being responsible for. And the air filter is just an added layer of protection so nobody dies if they picked it up at an indoor mask less get together.

So, my step brother knows all this and comes down to do laundry without his mask on when I'm home. I feel like he's being passive aggressive in a potentially pretty consequential way. I put my mask on. I had the air filter going - and he stood about 15 ft away talking about movies in my space and just acts oblivious to the efforts around him. But if I get upset I'm in a precarious position. My sil told me not to bring up the moving thing again (she decided I was right because of the official information I sent I think) unless I want a lot of drama in my life. I feel like bringing up masks over and over will also trigger drama - but they are creating it! I'm so frustrated. It feels like I'm a pawn - either shuffled off or just ignored. And there's nowhere better to go right now. I wouldn't trust her to find me a place because I can't trust them to follow basic rental rules that respects tenants privacy and safety - so how the heck can I have confidence that she'd find me a place at least as habitable as this one?

She was going to look into a new internet plan with a cable connection (required by my employer) so I can work from here instead of my parents'. She didn't do it. Heck, they can't even get a load of laundry done and over with so they're in and out asap. They take on average 5 hrs to complete one load.
 
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And I like these people under normal circumstances... But covid is revealing some behaviour I really don't like.

Oh, and my mom gave me a hard time about my stepdad buying me an air filter to help keep us all a little safer (I do not have an extra $130-150 is about what it cost) - instead of me moving house for technically the sixth time in five years, when there are no single occupancy vacancies that are affordable. She gave me a fairly expensive gift certificate to get a haircut and highlights, for Christmas -a prepaid appointment for Feb.) I'd be happy to give that back to her, for the air filter.

She said that on purpose ("maybe you could let 'Laura' help you move instead of Bob paying for an air filter. We already spent money on you this Christmas." ) to make me feel insecure. She knows darn well we can't depend on Laura to do that. Laura's too distractible to get something like that done sufficiently on my behalf, let alone getting her own stuff done - and I could very well end up homeless if I counted on that. My mom knows that. She would never trust Laura with such a job if it were her. I can't stand all this passive aggressive s**t that makes some of us more vulnerable. Now, I don't think my stepbrother and sil are bad people, they are willfully naive and it's frustrating.
 
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Anyway, I stood my ground about not moving under those conditions - and I'm going to try again tactfully to ask them to wear a mask if they must come down here when I'm home. I've been told before that I am a bully for expecting these landlords to follow guidelines and fair practices, and saying something to them. I don't think so. I think people don't respect my boundaries, which are basic and reasonable requirements - most of them are legal requirements anyway. But they're family. So it's hard.
 
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On a positive note - I love this new air filter. I've never had one before. The air is cleaner. It smells like a freshly cleaned hotel lobby or something - no smell of anything at all. No house smells, no must, no upstairs cat smells, no detergent smells, no food smells - it eats all the smells! So I think it's doing its job! I don't know how much it filters covid but I would think trapping dust would help so that virus particles don't catch a ride on dust particles - and just keeps whatever fresh air is getting in through the the cracks (this space is not airtight it's just older with not the best planned windows) circulating, at least. I read that indoors, in terms of staying safe from covid, the best thing is fresh air circulation - so I'm doing what I can with what I've got. I'm grateful for this gift I was given today. It's already making a difference just generally, in terms of air quality. I wasn't expecting it to make a noticeable difference so quickly.
 
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Living with family is not easy to the best of times.
But BC would be the province I would suspect the greatest chance to find alternative living options like coop housing- have you ever looked into that?
 
It sounds very stressful Kimmio. Honestly it would be better if you had a different place. Let her hunt for one for you. as long as you get the final say. Be specific. Costs, accessibility, light, location, laundry....... and if she finds one then that would be great. Likely she won’t but let her try
 
Lastpointe said:
It sounds very stressful Kimmio. Honestly it would be better if you had a different place. Let her hunt for one for you. as long as you get the final say. Be specific. Costs, accessibility, light, location, laundry....... and if she finds one then that would be great. Likely she won’t but let her try
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She won't. And at the last minute I'll be pushed into something worse and to have to look on the bright side of that - that's what I expect would happen. No. I want them to take responsibility for the fact that I'm here and I'm a paying tenant and to behave accordingly. I think she is used to international students who don't say anything and don't know their tenant rights.
 
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Lastpointe said:
It sounds very stressful Kimmio. Honestly it would be better if you had a different place. Let her hunt for one for you. as long as you get the final say. Be specific. Costs, accessibility, light, location, laundry....... and if she finds one then that would be great. Likely she won’t but let her try
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Also, in my opinion that's doing far less than what I'm entitled to by law. The daughter and her friend would only be down here for a few months then the daughter is probably moving to Vancouver herself, as I understand. I hardly know her. I met her doing laundry here with her mom last year. And in the front yard a couple of times. She's been to my parents a couple of times since Laura and my step brother got married about 9 years ago, but I was out of town.

Anyhow the rules say I'm entitled to two months notice and last month free if daughter is moving in. Also, if she doesn't live down here for a whole 6 months I'm entitled to 12 months rent in compensation. It's not a frivolous thing. The law was made for a reason - likely because nepotism probably creates too much crisis for others.

I'm settled here. I don't need to move again until I move back to Van after covid is over. I made it look homey. It's up to them to make it more functional.
 
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Her daughters have gotten $10,000 from me, $7500 from the non communicative (she could speak English perfectly but she chose not to not communicate about anything) roommate I was stuck with for several months. Ironically, she was the same age as the upstairs daughter - no prob making that young lady from a poor country pay too much rent - she's not seeing the injustice in the nepotism. They don't get to have my home too, without proper recourse. It's not right. They don't recognize it as my home so I'm teaching them the rules by being here and speaking up. Maybe they need that wake up call. I'm not being mean and I'm not moving in a pandemic.
 
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You definitely have the law in your side and I am glad you looked into it. It is just obvious that it is a very stressful situation for you. I am sorry about that and wish you had better options
 
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