Interim parenting

[Carolla]

This is something I had never heard of before reading this article tonight -
http://www.upworthy.com/meet-a-mom-...le-they-make-huge-parenting-decisions?c=click

Taking care of newborns for a while ... days, weeks, months ... while the parents get things sorted out for themselves. Not quite foster care as we know it here - parents don't have to relinquish their rights. Seems to be a very special gift.

This story is in the US - I've not heard of it in Canada - anybody familiar with it? Do you think you could be an interim parent?

 

[crazyheart]

I think that is missing the bonding issue.

 

[Tabitha]

In Alberta there is a foster to adopt program. Young friends did it, inviting a 5 year old to live with them . They already had a toddler. The foster gal's mom grew up, and after many visits back and forth is able to have her daughter live with her. Both households visit back and forth and the girls consider themselves "sisters".

 

[crazyheart]

Sorry I misinterpreted. I guess I was still thinking of the Trudeaus. I thought you meant "while

the parents got things sorted out" I thought you meant until the baby slept all night or the

parents relaxed etc. lolol

 

[Carolla]

No worries crazyheart

This is more in the nature of allowing uncertain parents time to work out details of adoptions plan or determining if they feel they can in fact manage to parent the child themselves, rather than needing to make hasty decisions once the child is born. Yes, I know ... they had 9 months to think about it ... but sometimes once the child arrives there are second thoughts ...

 

[Hilary]

I think it's a cool idea. But I know that I couldn't be a person who only snuggles a new baby for a few weeks...

 

[Jaebius]

I think it's a cool idea. But I know that I couldn't be a person who only snuggles a new baby for a few weeks...

I could be. I agree that it's a good idea.

 

[Pinga]

The mother of a good friend of mine volunteered to care for babies, though she was a foster mom.

She would love them, hug them and fatten them up to be returned to parents or adopted.

I think she was amazing.

 

[ChemGal]

No worries crazyheart

This is more in the nature of allowing uncertain parents time to work out details of adoptions plan or determining if they feel they can in fact manage to parent the child themselves, rather than needing to make hasty decisions once the child is born. Yes, I know ... they had 9 months to think about it ... but sometimes once the child arrives there are second thoughts ...

I would imagine a fair bit can happen that can't be planned in that 9-month time frame. A mother who can't do much due to complications with labour & delivery. Illness or injury that occurs close to the baby's arrival. Also, not all pregnancies last 9 months. Five would probably be unexpected but it happens.

I don't see a huge difference between this and fostering, although I suppose the legal rights would affect things like medical decisions.

 

[Luce NDs]

Then there are those that would foster high nous schemes ... that some would call high Nun Nous of doing your who life's work to serve some paranoia ... fear is like that ... opposing anger but equitable in the empiric ... if you haven't been scared out of you wits by the topic as if it were horror! Sometime one has to read into horrific stuff to see how the mortal soul works ... Scott Peck stated a personality of individual soul shouldn't get to close to the core of it ... remain at loose ... these are fine kinds of mine ... always looking out from wherever they are in the Shadow ... and it is quite po'ethic there as it resonates ...with unknowns!

Like Tim Pa neigh on stage with Shakespeare ... drumming different!

 

[crazyheart]

She would love them, hug them and fatten them up to be returned to parents or adopted.

I think she was amazing.

My mother did this.

 

[Luce NDs]

Sort of sounds like Jonathan Swift's satirical solution for London's Urchin population past ... being the main concern was the desires of the mature, adult population ... you know eM ... those dropping unneeded seed all over the place at wile!

 

[Carolla]

I would imagine a fair bit can happen that can't be planned in that 9-month time frame. A mother who can't do much due to complications with labour & delivery. Illness or injury that occurs close to the baby's arrival. Also, not all pregnancies last 9 months. Five would probably be unexpected but it happens.

I don't see a huge difference between this and fostering, although I suppose the legal rights would affect things like medical decisions.

I think you're right about the legal issue being the main difference ChemGal. It seems in this case that rights are not relinquished as they seem to be in a foster situation - but I could be wrong about this.