How does one "choose" a Belief System?

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Is love a thing though, or is it a relationship; a set of feelings we have for other beings and action we take based on those feelings? Is it a noun or a verb? I think the latter. We don't need to discover what love is, but what it means to be loving.

A relationship is a thing. A set of feelings is a thing.

"Love" can be used as a noun or a verb. An adjective too.
 
A relationship is a thing. A set of feelings is a thing.

"Love" can be used as a noun or a verb. An adjective too.

You responded while I was editing. See the final version. I acknowledge its multiple nature, but question which is better to focus on spiritually.
 
Is "love" a noun or a verb though? And if both, as it tends to be used, which is the better one to focus on? I think verb. We don't need to discover what love is, but to discover what it is to love. They may be the same thing in the end, but one puts more emphasis on us actually doing something and that's the verb. The noun lets us get away with intellectualizing about love as an idea or ideal. The verb calls us to action.
I agree. And it means to give it without expecting anything in return. One is Grace, the other is commerce.
 
I agree. And it means to give it without expecting anything in return. One is Grace, the other is commerce.

I think it ceases to be "love" if something is expected in return. IOW, by definition if it is truly an act of love, there can be no expectation of return.
 
I think it ceases to be "love" if something is expected in return. IOW, by definition if it is truly an act of love, there can be no expectation of return.
I agree. But it's not easy to live with no expectations of being loved in return, if one ever experiences being in that position. It's easy to say that but, if you've ever been through grief and hurt by a break up or betrayal, or realization that a relationship was doing more harm than good, 99.99% of the time (I don't have hard stats) it's because you had your expectations shattered. Love can be found everywhere when you let go of expectations...just maybe not where you once expected it to be. Love as its own entity, unlimited energy, is still there even in the worst of circumstances, though. We can be catalysts for spreading it.
 
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If a family doesn't love you uncondictionally then they are bad family and you are better off without them, as for they come and go, but it doesn't mean they wasn't evidence that they were your friend when they were your friend.

Somebody very close to me recently died, it hurts that they are gone. and I miss them we had great times together I have great memories. until I die my love for them will still be with me. But sadly once I'm gone then it desolves in the ether and all that is left is what I've told other about us or what they experineced whilst we were both alive. till eventually. all that is left is your name.

There is nobody alive today that know anybody who was alive a hundred years ago, and in a hundred years time the world will be populated by completely different people.

Of course there are people alive who knew someone who was alive a hundred years ago. My grandmother was born in 1898 and lost her first fiance in the great Spanish Flu Pandemic of 1917.
 
If a family doesn't love you uncondictionally then they are bad family and you are better off without them, as for they come and go, but it doesn't mean they wasn't evidence that they were your friend when they were your friend.

Somebody very close to me recently died, it hurts that they are gone. and I miss them we had great times together I have great memories. until I die my love for them will still be with me. But sadly once I'm gone then it desolves in the ether and all that is left is what I've told other about us or what they experineced whilst we were both alive. till eventually. all that is left is your name.

There is nobody alive today that know anybody who was alive a hundred years ago, and in a hundred years time the world will be populated by completely different people.
And there are people that will die young with possibly no living relatives left, but they did exist.....even if two thousand years have passed and no records were made other than the stories that were passed on. Evidence doesn't always prove existence....sometimes we leave behind a space that was once occupied. And sometimes that space is filled with a new understanding on how to love others unconditionally, even if they don't love us back.
 
And yet, like it says in Corinthians ( parentheses mine)...we can have faith (trust/ confidence within), to move mountains (or do action adventure sports, perform great feats, let's say), but if we don't have love (within) we have nothing.
 
Seriously? I know you're exaggerating to make a point, but ...

Current estimates are that there are at least 72000 people in the United States who are over 100 years old, with estimates that there will be close to a million by 2050. In the UK it's estimated that there are 9000 centenarians, with estimates of 40000 by 2031. The 2016 Canadians census counted 8230 centenarians. Japan has 30000, China's most recent census reported 7000. Based on demographic trends, both are projected to have numbers rivalling the of the US by 2050. All those people who are over a hundred years old obviously knew people who were alive a hundred years ago.

There are all sorts of people alive today who knew people who were alive a hundred years ago, and in a hundred years time there will still be people alive who are alive today.
Wow! just wow, perhaps I should have said 150. either way. but someone would have argued the toss on that too. I just didn't think it would be you, someone like blackbelt, but you. Wow!
 
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Through the imagination.

Thus faith and given nothing and getting spatial delights in return ... stars? My grandfather loved nothing as a definition ... so it incarnated as unfitting ... travelling like quicksilver ... it may hit you as heavy intuition ... bottom-line ... folds in space ... abstract form ... creating Shadow ... Black against White?
 
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