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KayTheCurler

KayTheCurler

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The Memorial service for my SIL's dad was short and quite pleasant. He had five stepkids and two full kids, (one being my SIL). The dad had conferred with the two biological kids about his will some time ago. The two executors both know what other instructions he had for his assets. One step is very unhappy. When money is involved does settling the estate ever go smoothly!
 
Ooo - it's a such a thing that's fraught with difficulties - and dealt with at a time of grief. Hoping your family will get it sorted out amicably.
 
Thanks Carolla. They won't be able to sort it amicably as one part of the family won't be getting the asset they want. They won't get it even if they pay for it. Both executors know what the dad wanted and will make sure it happens. It didn't include the family but long term, close friends and business partners. . I'm sure the estate cash is to be distributed as listed in the will. I don't know the details on that, though I may hear about it as time goes on.
 
Often some people misunderstand or over rate their relationship with the deceased. Some have no concept of what matters beyond what they want.
 
jimkenney12 said:
Often some people misunderstand or over rate their relationship with the deceased. Some have no concept of what matters beyond what they want.
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Relations are often denied as alchemae (relational science) is just not accepted in fields of avarice ... it forms a dark abstract of mental drive many of us cannot imagine ... as we'd just like to be average ... a kind of mean, medium or hated thing by extremes of the scales ... maybe a vertical line in some images!

Imagine hooks on the ends of the beams ... anchors and lifters ... the vectors are often confused ... in the state of heaven that is said to be a state of psyche ... denied in many fields and thus a large area of mindlessly unthunk stuff that's Thor about irrational matter ... fission? Then there is that fistula ...

It is said that a certain type of fistula opens up the two sides of the psyche and causes sol disruption if appearing in the physical state that may appear as some kind of bad fit ... while out there it creates an improved fit ... outlining how some phamaceuticals can behave badly on the wrong side of the field of conception.

Virgin conception is thus a sort of disruption of the old way ... all in your head they say thus dark and incomprehensible to those that do not appreciate odd powers counter to physical brute 4's ...

Recall this is just iconic ... and clast all bis elf ... into iconoclast material that is gated ... like injurious essences in Florida ... relations with the integral world are shut down? That defines inflicted autonomy ... from where? That innate phobia ... it too goes round for reasons ...

Four quarters divided again ... pieces of hate? The coin of abrasion ... the vast Rube ... rheid it out ...
 
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jimkenney12 said:
Often some people misunderstand or over rate their relationship with the deceased. Some have no concept of what matters beyond what they want.
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Too true. I struggle to understand why a family member who lived nearby but didn't visit or help with jobs or support would think they should get anything at all. They know what they want now and they won't get it. It will create more division in the family though (them against everyone else!).
 
My father-in-law anticipated issues with his estate so he gave very small amounts to four of his children who had nothing to do with him for years. I don't believe they would have sought out anything from his small estate. It didn't hurt though. It was written out and officially in the will.

We're still waiting for my father's estate to be settled. That started as him trying to get half the joint property when he left his wife. Now both parties have died and her sons have continued the fight. :mad:
 
Northwind said:
My father-in-law anticipated issues with his estate so he gave very small amounts to four of his children who had nothing to do with him for years. I don't believe they would have sought out anything from his small estate. It didn't hurt though. It was written out and officially in the will.

We're still waiting for my father's estate to be settled. That started as him trying to get half the joint property when he left his wife. Now both parties have died and her sons have continued the fight. :mad:
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Wills and volitions are rough in open space ... due mostly to mindless relations! Been there ... presently doing it all over again ... not expecting much of what the originator intended! Corruption is wide spread due to the symbols presented by great powers ... they trump the humble.

I puzzle the deeper things behnd such chimera ... haunted items there ... not to be spoken of publically those of avarice forbode it ... and thus it bides as a maiden in waiting ... kind'a psyche? These exist with mini understanding ... albeit epoch ... poch mark in time?
 
My neighbour is executer of her sister in law, as her brother is unable after a stroke. They had a lot of property and nothing was sorted out. A stack of credit cards nobody knew passwords, property and oil rights out of province- it’s been six years now- I think she is still not done. Lawyers needed in three provinces. Even as her abilities were failing because she also had a stroke and ended up in Long Term care, she didn’t disclose any details that could have helped. A nightmare for an executer.
 
Mrs.Anteater said:
My neighbour is executer of her sister in law, as her brother is unable after a stroke. They had a lot of property and nothing was sorted out. A stack of credit cards nobody knew passwords, property and oil rights out of province- it’s been six years now- I think she is still not done. Lawyers needed in three provinces. Even as her abilities were failing because she also had a stroke and ended up in Long Term care, she didn’t disclose any details that could have helped. A nightmare for an executer.
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Yah 'ave to wonder whether some forethought and planning would have assisted ... then the powers would declare this a conspiracy against them!

And they say mortals are intelligent ... yet this story continues! Said to involve avarice ... alas ... one is not to speak of it!
 
JayneWonders said:
I hope that got sorted Northwind.
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Nope. His ex-wife's son is being an a**hole (I'm being nice) and dragging it out. It doesn't hurt that the judge let him get away with not providing required documents that would support his argument. A trial date will be set, likely in the early summer.
 
In familial situations there are really dark and occult things going on as that blood is thicker than you know what ... so it doesn't wash well ... cat Harsis?

Its a bomber ... some say bummer ... to be related that way! It is declared in only comes out in alternate generations ... but there are always errs in mortal theory that is biased ...
 
Seems like even when everyone wants the same thing things don't go smoothly. My mom is struggling a bit with her brother with my grandparents estate. No fighting over assets or anything like that, just disagreements with how things should be done - a 2nd person was paid to redo all of the taxes as an example.

Wedding this summer - I was surprised by comments made by a cousin about a mortgage. She has been living in her grandmother's house since her grandmother moved out for increasing levels of care and she died a few years ago. Cousin has had friends as roommates, an ex-boyfriend, and now her husband living there. She has done multiple reno projects over the years. The grandma only had 2 daughters, and she is the only grandchild. I just assumed she had owned the house all this time - nope she had to buy it from her mom and aunt and that got finalized shortly before her wedding. Everyone wanted her to be the owner, but there were issues with actually getting that to happen.

Chemguy and I have been putting off wills - we had a recommendation, we took initial step, seemed too expensive. We have been thoughtful with beneficiaries/successors when we are able to name them on accounts. Seeing some of the red tape that occurs even with a will, we really should move forward on it.
 
ChemGal said:
Seems like even when everyone wants the same thing things don't go smoothly. My mom is struggling a bit with her brother with my grandparents estate. No fighting over assets or anything like that, just disagreements with how things should be done - a 2nd person was paid to redo all of the taxes as an example.

Wedding this summer - I was surprised by comments made by a cousin about a mortgage. She has been living in her grandmother's house since her grandmother moved out for increasing levels of care and she died a few years ago. Cousin has had friends as roommates, an ex-boyfriend, and now her husband living there. She has done multiple reno projects over the years. The grandma only had 2 daughters, and she is the only grandchild. I just assumed she had owned the house all this time - nope she had to buy it from her mom and aunt and that got finalized shortly before her wedding. Everyone wanted her to be the owner, but there were issues with actually getting that to happen.

Chemguy and I have been putting off wills - we had a recommendation, we took initial step, seemed too expensive. We have been thoughtful with beneficiaries/successors when we are able to name them on accounts. Seeing some of the red tape that occurs even with a will, we really should move forward on it.
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People desire simple .... but because of conflicted folk we have these things in our heads ... it gets complex due to what? Yeah ...

Once one realizes this getting out seems more appropriate and appreciated ... and thus we get along ...
 
ChemGal said:
Seems like even when everyone wants the same thing things don't go smoothly. My mom is struggling a bit with her brother with my grandparents estate. No fighting over assets or anything like that, just disagreements with how things should be done - a 2nd person was paid to redo all of the taxes as an example.

Wedding this summer - I was surprised by comments made by a cousin about a mortgage. She has been living in her grandmother's house since her grandmother moved out for increasing levels of care and she died a few years ago. Cousin has had friends as roommates, an ex-boyfriend, and now her husband living there. She has done multiple reno projects over the years. The grandma only had 2 daughters, and she is the only grandchild. I just assumed she had owned the house all this time - nope she had to buy it from her mom and aunt and that got finalized shortly before her wedding. Everyone wanted her to be the owner, but there were issues with actually getting that to happen.

Chemguy and I have been putting off wills - we had a recommendation, we took initial step, seemed too expensive. We have been thoughtful with beneficiaries/successors when we are able to name them on accounts. Seeing some of the red tape that occurs even with a will, we really should move forward on it.
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Anything involving property in our society is complicated.
 
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