Whats The Best Advice Someone Ever Gave You?

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Mendalla said:
With some provisos for situation where it isn't. There are parts of the States where there is no way I would answer "Yes" to the question "Are you gay?" even if I was. Similarly, "Have you had an abortion?" is likely one where a lie may be needed nowadays. IOW, honesty is the best policy until it can put you in danger.
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There are exceptions to every rule.
(Another mom saying actually)
 
I have to confess that I have always picked "right", as well. It doesn't bode well for some relationships; there may be types of relationship that survive this, but I didn't have those type.
 
It may be situational, but agreeing to a wrong thing to "keep the peace" is generally terrible advice. It rarely keeps the peace and it promotes something that is wrong.

I wish I had an example, but I can't think of anything offhand.
 
Yeah, keeping the peace is never a good thing. Or rarely anyway. I do often pick right over happy too. :cool:
 
This is probably a topic for a thread of its own.

Do you want to be right or be happy does not imply accepting a wrong.

It can be just choosing not to force a point, ie agree to disagree, or even thank someone for their viewpoint
 
Hey, I think some people see the benefit of the advice. I just don't. I'm not wired like that. If I'm right, and no one has demonstrated that I'm wrong, then I'll press home my point.

You've seen that in action. You don't tend to like it.

I'm not saying this is the right thing for everyone. But that's how I operate, and I'm not going to change to appease people. Especially the people who are wrong.
 
Some types are happy seeing the wrong and learning from it .... vs Lazarus Syndrome finding levity and learning nothing thus the fourth divide ... not just 2 way ... even this may further diversify from something starting out as green ... innocuously initiated to losing it? So it goes in self consumption ... sinking into something fresh ... expressing an Eire or business, marketing calls early in the day to folks with little pension to waste on someone's dreams of selling you something useless in lieu of basic fundamentals ...

Then there are those with less than that resource as tapped out by working for something of a minus function to the greater goods ... something is stripped down ... to nothing. I know folk that say there is something to nothing ... in a delicately little way that may allow affiliation if you know the poesy ... it swells from doing nothing allowing life to continue at a cost ... natural cycle of the come around and alien sensation ... some say it happens when about to wind down ... thus redistribution of nothing ... empty gestures! May appear like politics, policing or polity in avarice! Be gentle said the rabbi ... Rabea's, Rafael? It was a dark dash ... in de source 've events ... it remains that we still know little ... due to disfunctions!
 
Oh, I get that. And in some situations, I agree. At work, for example. Especially when your income is at stake.

I just find some times the people who want you to pick your battles want you to pick the battles that aren't against what they want.
 
chansen said:
Oh, I get that. And in some situations, I agree. At work, for example. Especially when your income is at stake.

I just find some times the people who want you to pick your battles want you to pick the battles that aren't against what they want.
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Remember in some domains desires out weigh any thoughts that the flaming ones believe is too heavy ... thus thoughts fall after a heated rise ... like putting a red hot rim on a wheel ... have water close at hand as a good icon ...
 
chansen said:
It may be situational, but agreeing to a wrong thing to "keep the peace" is generally terrible advice. It rarely keeps the peace and it promotes something that is wrong.

I wish I had an example, but I can't think of anything offhand.
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One can choose to "be right or be happy" without it involving "wrong" in a moral sense. I could be a case where I want to do something x way and Mrs. M prefers y and either will accomplish the goal. I go along with hers (or vice versa) just to keep the peace.

Or an argument about whether heavy metal is noise or an important modern genre of music. No one dies if I let the other person be wrong in their opinion.
 
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Can we be peaceable when loving disturbances like football, hockey and other games demanding beating the crap out of the other as in those Roman Games ... especially those fishermen in Greece attempting a run at Sophia ...

There was a group interpreting it as Artem us as silver B' al och ... depending on how assembled ... power is defined by beating down anything previously considered and thus a period of inconsiderate ness ... expect waves, wrinkles, etc.
 
Pragmatic to the greater good is thus greatly limited ...

Sliming the thing down to a streak in the dark ... quark?
 
Mendalla said:
One can choose to "be right or be happy" without it involving "wrong" in a moral sense. I could be a case where I want to do something x way and Mrs. M prefers y and either will accomplish the goal. I go along (or vice versa) just to keep the peace.
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It could be wrong in a moral sense or simply wrong in a logical sense. And sure, there are moments where the "wrong" is more "not optimal" than it is "wrong". But sometimes it is wrong. Like, really wrong.

Mendalla said:
Or an argument about whether heavy metal is noise or an important modern genre of music. No dies if I let the other person be wrong in their opinion.
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That's more of a fun debate, though. I may take a stand, but I'm not that personally invested.
 
chansen said:
It could be wrong in a moral sense or simply wrong in a logical sense. And sure, there are moments where the "wrong" is more "not optimal" than it is "wrong". But sometimes it is wrong. Like, really wrong.


That's more of a fun debate, though. I may take a stand, but I'm not that personally invested.
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Bong shows ...
 
The question I have heard is this: "Is it more important to be right or to be kind"?

A different nuance to the question and very situational I would say.
 
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