Supporting a Complicated Bereavement

[paradox3]

I don't think it would be inappropriate to suggest she reach out in person to someone in her city. I am not thinking professional help. Just someone she could meet for a coffee or a walk on a nice day.

You are being kind and supportive but there is only so much you can do with social media and phone calls.

 

[ninj]

I can offer no advice, ninj. Just hugs.

Thanks...just venting in this safe place really helps, and hugs back atcha (and all round too).

 

[ninj]

I don't think it would be inappropriate to suggest she reach out in person to someone in her city. I am not thinking professional help. Just someone she could meet for a coffee or a walk on a nice day.

You are being kind and supportive but there is only so much you can do with social media and phone calls.

Makes it harder for sure.

 

[KayTheCurler]

How unfortunate for your friend- and you. Grieving is so darn complex all round. If you aren't comfortable with getting closer to her at this time that is your right. It sounds like you are doing what you can and you certainly can't do her rebuilding for her. Likely she hasn't been ignored and abandoned by everyone around her- there would have been acknowledgements over time. I'd say - listen to her when she expresses that need and be generally friendly without getting embroiled.

 

[jimkenney12]

Maybe you coyld say somehing like, "I am deeply saddened by your loss and wish I could be more supportive. I have some issues of my own that take most of my strength. I hope you can find people there that can provide the support you need."

 

[Nancy]

This is a tough one. Of course you feel for your friend. But sometimes the neediness of another person is off-putting. I know I like to help others, but I sort of limit it to what I can handle. (selfish, yes). So...maybe think about what you can handle, that works for you and her. Maybe it is just social media contact. Or maybe a quick phone call once a week/month.

 

[Luce NDs]

This is a tough one. Of course you feel for your friend. But sometimes the neediness of another person is off-putting. I know I like to help others, but I sort of limit it to what I can handle. (selfish, yes). So...maybe think about what you can handle, that works for you and her. Maybe it is just social media contact. Or maybe a quick phone call once a week/month.

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