Northwind
Stationary nomad.
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- She/Her/Her
2. CG and NW, at a time when they were experiencing pain and anger from events in their lives, entered a discussion which seemed to include misunderstandings and misdirected anger leading to both feeling harassed or bullied by the other. There might be some previous history in their relationship that I do not know. I do know that I was confused by their comments to each other as I did not see how their responses to each other's comments were actually responses to those particular comments. They both seem to feel hurt and angry, partly with each other and partly with themselves for allowing the conflict to escalate. I believe they need to begin with forgiving themselves for allowing the bad stuff in their lives to erupt in creating the conflict. I hope that they are able to take a time out from each other that is long enough for the good relationship they had to subdue any bad feelings they currently hold and one of them may need more time than the other.
Thanks for this Jim. Your assessment is probably fairly accurate. I'm not sure about the history part. I was confused as well. I will not be engaging further because our history shows it never ends well. Any time we try to sort things out it gets worse. I suspect part of the problem is our different ways of thinking and communicating. To clarify, I'm including the ways we process information when we're interacting. Of course the layers of hurt this conflict has caused doesn't help. I have a different perspective and pray for strength to not respond the next time things bubble up.