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Again, there could be a legitimate reason for him NOT being allowed to.
In my mind...whatever. At that time there wasn’t any reason for it. She embarrassed him and she embarrassed herself. He was not doing anything wrong and she shouted at him like a misbehaving dog. It was terrible behaviour on her part - and she was disruptive to the customers more than he was. The other cashier knew him by name and didn’t have a problem with him. It was 9 pm and there isn’t much around that isn’t several blocks away, where he could buy some cheap hot food to eat.

No wonder people on the street tend to have really low self esteem. Being treated less than human day after day would do it.
 

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At work we had issues where someone would call in starting with what sounded like appropriate questions and would then turn it into a sexually harassing call. He escalated, showing up where we worked, continuing to sexually harass. One day he hit me. He was stalking one of my coworkers.

We was told to leave and not come back and management was to be called if he was spotted.

I don't care if he came into the store and acted inappropriate, not being served, being told to leave in an aggressive way is the appropriate thing to do with something like that.
 
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I tried calling the head office and calls don’t go through. I even tried and alternate number and someone transferred me, and it didn’t go through.
 

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I tried calling the head office and calls don’t go through. I even tried and alternate number and someone transferred me, and it didn’t go through.
I've had good responses using the online form for a corporate office before, and they did get in touch with me directly too.
 

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Actually he is VERY good looking. He says he is followed when he shops in the city but we and our other kids aren't.
I remember meeting a woman who was about my age with the same professional education that I have. That's a Master's degree in a profession. I have blonde hair and blue eyes. She's visibly Cree. Her speech pattern is also Cree. She gets followed in stores and people talk down to her. It was really striking to me and very wrong. She handled it amazingly well all things considered.
 

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My son sometimes walks up to the person who is following him and asks them why they are doing it. He also had great fun one day by going to the Manager and saying "There is a man who has been following me ever since I came in. Could you please call the RCMP and report that because I.m worried about going outside. He may be planning to attack me". That solved the problem for that occasion :ROFLMAO:
 

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We tried to instill self respect in all our kids. Part of that involved standing behind them when they spoke up about something they thought was wrong. Sadly that had to happen at school a couple of times - mostly with that particular son.. I do recall a daughter refusing to participate in a phys. ed class she deemed too dangerous. A rowdy game with a ball - boys against the girls. Totally unsuitable as she was barely 5' tall and some of the boys were 6' or more! She wasn't stupid - she KNEW where their elbows would land - in her face. She was sent to the Office and given a detention. We visited the school and sorted it out.
 
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At work we had issues where someone would call in starting with what sounded like appropriate questions and would then turn it into a sexually harassing call. He escalated, showing up where we worked, continuing to sexually harass. One day he hit me. He was stalking one of my coworkers.

We was told to leave and not come back and management was to be called if he was spotted.

I don't care if he came into the store and acted inappropriate, not being served, being told to leave in an aggressive way is the appropriate thing to do with something like that.
At work we had issues where someone would call in starting with what sounded like appropriate questions and would then turn it into a sexually harassing call. He escalated, showing up where we worked, continuing to sexually harass. One day he hit me. He was stalking one of my coworkers.

We was told to leave and not come back and management was to be called if he was spotted.

I don't care if he came into the store and acted inappropriate, not being served, being told to leave in an aggressive way is the appropriate thing to do with something like that.
That wasn't the situation, though. That was a totally different circumstance we shouldn't project onto this one. He just came in to buy a hotdog. He was likely one of the regular people on the street who hangs around there (and I'm sure they don't like it but it's downtown and there are homeless people living downtown who have a right to buy food - he looked a bit rough and grubby - but he wasn't being rude or inappropriate. She was.
 

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That wasn't the situation, though. That was a totally different circumstance we shouldn't project onto this one. He just came in to buy a hotdog. He was likely one of the regular people on the street who hangs around there (and I'm sure they don't like it but it's downtown and there are homeless people living downtown who have a right to buy food - he looked a bit rough and grubby - but he wasn't being rude or inappropriate. She was.
This time he wasn't inappropriate. Why was she treating him like that though? It could very well be that he is banned due to past behaviour. The man who was harassing us acted very pleasant in some of the other departments before being banned.
 
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Well, why is the assumption that he must be in the wrong? That's the attitude homeless people get constantly.

And even somebody who's acted inappropriate before, gets hungry. They have a right to eat. It's not even a sit-down establishment. It's 7-11 for crying out loud. Homeless people get treated as though somehow they are not human and they don't need to eat, sleep, or go to the toilet. Imagine days with no sleep - nowhere to pee late at night - cold, hungry. If they get a little poorly behaved sometimes, no wonder. It doesn't even have to be caused by substance or mental illness. It would be severely stressful and unhealthy for anyone.
 
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If I may, I'd like to change the subject. it really feels like fall now. It's damp and cold today - cloudy. Was hoping we'd have a late summer but I'm feeling Christmas coming on already.
 

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Well, why is the assumption that he must be in the wrong? That's the attitude homeless people get constantly.

And even somebody who's acted inappropriate before, gets hungry. They have a right to eat. It's not even a sit-down establishment. It's 7-11 for crying out loud. Homeless people get treated as though somehow they are not human and they don't need to eat, sleep, or go to the toilet. Imagine days with no sleep - nowhere to pee late at night - cold, hungry. If they get a little poorly behaved sometimes, no wonder. It doesn't even have to be caused by substance or mental illness. It would be severely stressful and unhealthy for anyone.
I'm not assuming either way, I'm saying he could have been the one in the wrong for going in, or she could have been the wrong for refusing service for something that is not reasonable. We don't know.
 

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If I may, I'd like to change the subject. it really feels like fall now. It's damp and cold today - cloudy. Was hoping we'd have a late summer but I'm feeling Christmas coming on already.
Some places will be getting snow soon. I don't think we're supposed to get any, just cold. In and out of the garden, taking cuttings of herbs I plan to keep alive over the winter, harvesting some that I don't, etc.
Chemguy cut all my squash down yesterday. I thought they had to go in the house tonight, but overnight forecast changed. It was supposed to be windy today but it wasn't, wondering if that's delaying the cold weather blowing in.
 

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I'm guessing @ChemGal is saying we don't know the back story. It is important to not make assumptions. Still, buying him a hot dog was a nice thing to do. He probably needs to be treated like a human being more often.

The air has a cold edge to it here too. Fall is here.
Agreed. But if he was banned from the store, she could still have expressed that in a more respectful way, which would have explained it to everybody present, like: “ Listen , Tommy, we can’t serve you, and you do know why, so please leave the store.”
 
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Or gone closer to him, and spoken to him, instead of being stark raving mad and shouting across the store. For whatever the reason was that she didn’t want to serve him, it was her behaviour that was disruptive and unreasonable at that particular time.

One would think, in the number of times (several) she told him to get out and that she’s not serving him - with the whole store hearing this outburst - she might’ve mentioned, “You’ve been banned.”
 
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I’ve been in a new place the past few days, not far from where I was. 5 minutes by car, same general neighbourhood. It wasn’t a drastic move at all. It happened over a few days, and I didn’t bring much. Still technically with relatives, extended family, but in a totally self contained suite. Their university student daughter/ tenant moved out and I was offered it - which was nice of them. It’s month to month, no lease. Not sure about it...it feels a bit strange, not really my style (or not yet anyway)...doesn’t feel like “me” like my last little place on my own did (it’s a suite inside the house rather than detached like the last one, so I hear unfamiliar house noise); but it’s better than where I was over the past year, and better than not having a home. I hope to get back to the big city, though, as soon as I can make that happen. I really miss it.
 
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Or gone closer to him, and spoken to him, instead of being stark raving mad and shouting across the store. For whatever the reason was that she didn’t want to serve him, it was her behaviour that was disruptive and unreasonable at that particular time.

One would think, in the number of times (several) she told him to get out and that she’s not serving him - with the whole store hearing this outburst - she might’ve mentioned, “You’ve been banned.”
I am not sure what 7-11 is, I figure a fast food chain. My daughter in law just quit from working at Wendys. It was a terrible work climate and she only hung in there because she needed full time work. Supervisors play a big role in the work climate, the stress factor. Its too bad that they are not getting trained in how to be a good supervisor and how to treat other people, but employers likely don’t invest into minimum wage job .
 

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I seem to remember long-range forecast for a long warm fall. I don't know just what happened; we did have warm days last Saturday and Sunday, only to have it turned cold on Monday, thunderstorms on Monday night, cold and then the next two days, and below 20 today. At least the sun is shining, the sky blue, and Seelerman is hanging out first load of laundry to catch the breeze. We had not through the summer that the grass and leaves are still green(not dry and yellow-brown}, with a few started to turn scarlet.
Actually this is my favourite season; I don't mind the cool weather at all. I just don't like it to be damp.
Writer's group meets this afternoon. I don't have anything to read, but I will go and enjoyed hearing other people's contributions.
I'm actually thinking or upset or starting a series of short stories on the theme that everybody has his story. Whether young or old every person's life has something unique and interesting to tell.
Whether I get this done are not, time will tell.
 
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