GiancarloZ
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Hello everyone,
My wife and I are, at this point, very divided. We don't know whether we should have kid(s) or not.
We love babies and children in general, and there is also the social pressure of having kids because that's what everyone does. There's also the thinking, not always true, that they will take care of you and make you feel fulfilled.
On the cons side, my wife has had childhood issues that make her not so sure about motherhood. We also are hoping to obtain post-graduate degrees, and having kids would make one of us to give up on that. I don't want to be the one giving up, but also don't want that my wife gives up.
That leads to deeper questions - is it worth to renounce to a family for a career? Will a good career bring the same joy and fulfillment that (generally) having a family does?
This is quite our last year or couple of years to decide that, because my wife is 35 and we do not want to go through a risk pregnancy.
Not asking for direct advice, but if you're willing to share your own experiences that will help.
Thank you!
My wife and I are, at this point, very divided. We don't know whether we should have kid(s) or not.
We love babies and children in general, and there is also the social pressure of having kids because that's what everyone does. There's also the thinking, not always true, that they will take care of you and make you feel fulfilled.
On the cons side, my wife has had childhood issues that make her not so sure about motherhood. We also are hoping to obtain post-graduate degrees, and having kids would make one of us to give up on that. I don't want to be the one giving up, but also don't want that my wife gives up.
That leads to deeper questions - is it worth to renounce to a family for a career? Will a good career bring the same joy and fulfillment that (generally) having a family does?
This is quite our last year or couple of years to decide that, because my wife is 35 and we do not want to go through a risk pregnancy.
Not asking for direct advice, but if you're willing to share your own experiences that will help.
Thank you!