Condolences to Pinga

ChemGal

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@Pinga 's dad passed away in the morning on Oct 11.
She's shared some of the struggles they experienced due to his dementia, plus ones from before then.
We can use this place to support and pass on messages to Pinga and she can come here to share as she wishes.
 

Mendalla

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Condolences to you and your family, @Pinga . As you know, I have been down that difficult road myself. Have a hug on me.
 

Luce NDs

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That can be a tortuous process Pinga ... been there a number of times now ... wishing you peace!
 

Nancy

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So sorry to hear, Pinga. I too will wish you peace, prayerful peace.
 

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Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss.....it's very hard to not focus on the last years of a person's life especially when dementia takes it's toll, hopefully you have many pleasant memories you can draw from that will bring a smile to your face in remembrance.
 

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Pinga, I hope that you are managing under the stress that comes with the change in relationships; and what could be more stressful than a relationship changed by the death of one of the people?

My father died when I was in my 20s – suddenly of a stroke, but after years of failing health. I hadn't seen him for more than half our once every year or so since I left home at the age of 17. Even before that we had very little to do with each other. For some reason we had never bonded, and I have very few, if any, good memories of him as a father. Nevertheless, I found his death difficult to handle. It wasn't the end of a relationship (we had never had), but in the end of any possibility of ever forming a relationship, having him as as a dad or my children having a granddad. Decades later there are times when I acutely feel the loss of my mother, who died 10 years before him: but there's still just emptiness if I think of dad.

You two have lost both parents, and I share your sorrow.
 

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I understand grief can be complex, and I know it's been for you. May all the challenges faced by you and your family from the last few years dissolve into gentle memories. Hugs
 

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So sorry that you have this muddy stretch of your journey to get through. Grieving is never an easy thing, and can be infinitely more difficult with a challenging family dynamic. Be gentle with yourself and take it one step at a time. Cyber hugs coming your way.
 

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Sorry to hear of your fathers death. Implicated relationships can lead to complicated grieving. I hope you have time to share the good memories and share laughs
 

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So Sorry for your loss --I also have been down that road ---very difficult time in one's life ----
 

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May sympathy and consolation surround you as these days move you forward.
 
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